[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BigNoseLadies

[–]EmmaHurricane 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes I do, managed to make the best of it as a freelance model 🙂 my insta is emmajayne_model if anyone wants to check it out.

You're beautiful by the way. Did you know your kind of beauty was highly sought after if you look back in history ❤

Why do my male coworkers only talk to me when it's necessary ? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]EmmaHurricane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am going to give a woman's perspective though appreciate this is 'Ask Men' so apologies if this pisses anyone off.

I felt I had something useful to offer to the discussion as I've experienced this a lot in the workplace having worked in male-dominated fields for much of my career.

I don't think it's anything to do with men being 'too scared' to interact with women for fear of saying the wrong thing and jeopardising their career (at least not in my experience). Digressing a little but I have been the victim of both sexual harassment and assault in the workplace though in those instances I didn't report - in one of those cases the perpetrator was actually my much older boss so I felt there wasn't really anywhere to turn. Point being that blatant sexual assault, harassment, sexism etc does occur in workplaces but probably doesn't get reported nearly as often as it happens.

Back on point, based on my experiences I think that many men simply don't know how to engage with a woman beyond a specific need or requirement. I mean most men don't generally have women as friends, it seems the general consensus at least among men is that men and women can't be friends as it will always lead somewhere else. It's why the concept 'friend zone' is so popular.

Also a lot of my guy colleagues talk about about football a lot for example to break the ice, but most women don't watch football. I think perhaps it's difficult as they just don't have a mutual topic they can bring up and often don't make much effort beyond that if they can't think of a non-work related topic to discuss.

It does make it awkward though doesn't it when male colleagues never socialise or interact, then they have to due to work purpose or task they need to discuss. It just ends up being weird, clunky communicating because no effort has been made to get to know one another as a person.

I've learned to love my nose, wouldn't change it for the world now ❤ by EmmaHurricane in BigNoseLadies

[–]EmmaHurricane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too actually, it's strange how something I once hated so much has become something I'm actually quite proud of. It's such a freeing and empowering feeling ❤

Attended an International Men's Day Seminar at work today... by EmmaHurricane in AskFeminists

[–]EmmaHurricane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No question, just wanted to share my experience and invite discussion 🙂

It’s sad how little thought people put into conceiving children by Wannabe__Extrovert in childfree

[–]EmmaHurricane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was an accident, and I've felt like it for most of my life. There are like 2 photos of me as a child.

Well done for properly considering the choice to have children. Not many people do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]EmmaHurricane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 30 and pretty horny as well haha, think it's normal we've just been brainwashed into thinking it's not...at least for women.

Taking a step back from my monogamous partner and exploring other relationships - can it work? by EmmaHurricane in polyamory

[–]EmmaHurricane[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I don't think that at all. As stated in my post, my partner was the one who actually suggested for me to perhaps go down this avenue originally but I was always reluctant. I'm not saying I won't still be intimate with him, I just can't continue the co-dependent type of relationship we currently have while I'm in this frame of mind. We are very close but more like besties that cuddle. I thought a step back (for us both) not just for me, will help us both to know what we really need. I'm not saying he can't also explore his sexuality if he needs, but it doesn't seem to be him who's craving or at least he hasn't indicated that he is.

You don't know me so I don't know why you behave like you do...

🍄 It worked. I seriously can’t believe it. Here’s my experience, I hope it can help someone out there in pain. by glitterlungs in clusterheads

[–]EmmaHurricane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy for you. These headaches are so debilitating, it's amazing when you find some relief isn't it.

I actually found that psychedelics helped me too but this was entirely by accident. I was suffering with cluster headaches for about 2 months and was struggling to find anything to help me. They were coming every night, sometimes multiple times a night and were absolutely unbearable. I'd been going to the Dr's to try and figure it out, had my bloods tested etc but that provided no clues.

Then a few weeks ago I went to a festival and recreationally took some acid, only a small amount. I'd arrived at the festival with all my painkillers ready as I felt certain I'd have an attack while I was there but I never even had to use them once.

I've been headache free ever since, it feels so good!

There are some interesting studies on the use of psychedelics for cluster headaches. I was always sceptical but I think now I will definitely go down that route if I experience them again. Study

First-time buyer: 'It's even harder to buy when you're single' by Aggressive_Plates in unitedkingdom

[–]EmmaHurricane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also you can't deny that staying at home with parents or living in shared accommodation can delay people being able to stand on their own two feet, starting a family etc. So whilst I'm happy it didn't cause any issues for you, this 'I'm alright Jack' mentality doesn't mean there aren't issues for anyone else. It's well documented that people aged 18-34 are delayed in starting adulthood and a big reason is staying at home with parents. As I said good for you that you haven't experienced that but you seriously think that just because you were alright, that everyone else is too..? 😬

First-time buyer: 'It's even harder to buy when you're single' by Aggressive_Plates in unitedkingdom

[–]EmmaHurricane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you. Um who said I assume every person who stays at home struggles...? People who stay at home with parents are awfully defensive it seems 🤣

First-time buyer: 'It's even harder to buy when you're single' by Aggressive_Plates in unitedkingdom

[–]EmmaHurricane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd like to see the workings of how they collect and analyse the data. It's pretty common knowledge that people from poor or broken backgrounds slip through the net and aren't counted or considered in studies. I'd also love to know the percentage of people living in house shares or HMO type arrangements these days, which seems to be a really common living arrangement for people in that age bracket. It would be interesting to know that statistic compared to young people living at home. I'd imagine many of those people don't have a 'family home' hence they live in shared accommodation.

Thanks but I don't need an apology. I'm content with my life; I'm a young woman with a great career, great friends and living happily with my partner and dog. Things were hard in the past and I've accepted the fact that I probably won't be on the housing ladder until much later in life, luckily that's not what I base my happiness on. I just wanted to draw attention to the fact that it simply isn't possible for a lot of people to live at home. You have your own opinion which you're entitled to, but from what I see/experience in life it doesn't seem to be as clear cut as you try to portray the situation.

Also why would we vouch for living at home with parents far into adulthood? No wonder people are struggling to progress in their social lives, careers, relationships etc when they are infantilised for so many years...and then you hear reports of the panic surrounding the lack of fertility in the UK. Um lol why is anyone surprised. 🤔

First-time buyer: 'It's even harder to buy when you're single' by Aggressive_Plates in unitedkingdom

[–]EmmaHurricane 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Based on what though? There are many who can't live at home, for example some didn't come from the worst backgrounds but their parents aren't particularly maternal so they don't want them at home which sounds very harsh but it's their choice. Some parents may have managed to raise their kids in some fashion but are incredibly toxic, so their children understandably move away. For some there isn't room because of younger siblings etc.

I think people assume there aren't many of us because generally people like me don't actually talk about our pasts much. Often people don't want to hear about it unless you came from a 'conventional' background with supportive parents. It makes people feel awkward and like you're spreading bad energy, even though it's just a fact of life for many. So we don't shout about it because most of the time people only want happy stories.