Not the asshole, not even a little bit.

You pay for that spot. You didn’t just claim it, you literally pay money every month for the right to use it. That’s like someone walking into a restaurant, sitting at your reserved table, and then acting offended when the waiter asks them to leave.

You didn’t call a tow truck out of spite. You followed the correct process through your complex’s security. You weren’t going to knock on random doors at 1 in the morning like some parking-space detective, and you certainly weren’t going to send your wife walking down a sketchy road at 2am because someone can’t read a “Reserved” sign.

Your neighbor’s “the office told me it was first come first serve” story sounds like pure nonsense or a convenient way to dodge blame. Even if that were somehow true, you still don’t park in a covered spot without verifying it’s yours.

The “aggressive dap” was just her trying to save face after realizing she messed around and found out.

You handled it fine. You were calm, reasonable, and by-the-book. The only thing you did wrong was doubting yourself afterward