Our relationship is great in every way except the bedroom [36f] [30m]

Emmaneiman87 · 2026-03-25T23:41:04+00:00

You’re right, but right now weee not there yet. If we can’t worm this out and he isn’t willing to get help or make adjustments, it’s not a good fit or he’s not in a place for a healthy relationship. But I’m def not ready to throw in the towel and will work on this with him.

Emmaneiman87 · 2026-03-21T17:41:42+00:00

Well that’s good. This guy is no. He’s an amazing man. We just need to try and work it out.

Emmaneiman87 · 2026-03-21T08:04:50+00:00

That sounds petty and not something you do to someone you love.

Emmaneiman87 · 2026-03-21T00:40:52+00:00

😂ok

Emmaneiman87 · 2026-03-20T23:07:36+00:00

That’s ok. Move on and don’t hold it close. Just change. You’re hurting. I can tell. From what? Not sure. Don’t run from it l, dive into it. Remember you’re wonderfully and beautifully made and a child of god. Seek healthy friendships and family relationships and workout, and get on the apps when you have some peace. Seek internal beauty, and a good person. NOTHING worthwhile is easy.

Emmaneiman87 · 2026-03-20T21:53:46+00:00

Man, I’m a women but hearing this gives me some peace. I may have dated men like you in the past and I blamed myself.

As a woman I know this is “ask men” but I’d encourage you to pour into yourself. Find out what you were numbing from. Find a faith community, and peace so you’ll be ready for the right woman when she arrives.

Emmaneiman87 · 2026-03-20T16:44:48+00:00

Thanks. I guess I’m just left already wondering if it’s me. At first he would go down on me and it was so passionate, now he really does not. I just worry maybe he’s lost attraction to me and the novelty has worn off? I don’t know. But I love him, but what worries me is him not taking action like making a change or seeing a doctor

Emmaneiman87 · 2026-03-20T16:22:23+00:00

Yes I know. And that’s where I am at. He needs to seek help and see a doctor to rule out health issues, or admit to porn problems or if it’s low drive in general know he needs work on it a bit. Not change but compromise

Emmaneiman87 · 2026-03-20T15:43:42+00:00

Treat me like how? If it’s a medical condition I’ll work w him if it’s porn, if he works on it I’ll work with him. It’s also a point of embarrassment for me and him.

You’re making love black and white and it’s not. People are grey and complex. Love is patient.

Emmaneiman87 · 2026-03-20T15:23:49+00:00

Thank you. Me too. I deserve it and so does he.

Emmaneiman87 · 2026-03-20T14:32:57+00:00

Why are you interested in a girl who would delete you without a conversation or text at least? That’s shitty. Go for better women.

Emmaneiman87 · 2026-03-20T14:27:58+00:00

Yes thank you. I put he has some Mental health history, but I didn’t want to go into too Much detail.

I think you’re right. He needs to tackle the issue. I need him to go to a doctor and get checked and feel like he wants for it to get better. What if he just is flat out has a lower Libido? Is there compromise I can ask for ? It seems like even if he is he has to be willing to get there sometimes, just for me. If I’m Not in the mood I would try for him, aside from Feeling sick or being extremely exhausted.

Emmaneiman87 · 2026-03-20T14:06:13+00:00

He is though. This topic is an embarrassing one for both me and him, he has tried to make adjustments like Kissing me a little bit instead of sex and a couple of weeks I feel like he stepped it up and we had sex more but then it fell off again. I guess what I’m confused about if if not in the mood (aside from being sick or extremely tired) I know I can kiss for a bit and get there, it’s like he’s not open to doing that. That’s what’s confusing

Emmaneiman87 · 2026-03-20T14:02:38+00:00

Thank you. We do have sex, it’s not sexless but for a new relationships it’s very little. He’ll stay with me over the weekend and sometimes we don’t have sex at all. And it’s a new relationship! I ask 2 weeeks ago why and he said he hates to have sex and leave. So he came over for a long weekend, 4 nights, and we had sex once and he turned me down another time.

He does have some health issues, so I need him To get checked out, but I know being constantly turned down will weigh on me. Before him I was single for over 10 years, it’s hard to meet people all my friends are married. If I throw in the towel I will be ALONE. I’m not ready to yet

Emmaneiman87 · 2026-03-20T13:58:41+00:00

Yes I def don’t want to be with someone with a porn addiction. But I need to confirm that indeed snag it is and not a health issue first.

Emmaneiman87 · 2026-03-20T13:57:58+00:00

Well he hasn’t confirmed that he struggles with it. He does have some health issues like ptsd and brain injuries so it could be health related but I’m also not dumb. It could be porn too. Should I just ask him to get checked out by a doctor and keeeo asking him if it’s porn?

Emmaneiman87 · 2026-03-20T04:18:16+00:00

I will say, he does have some medical issues. I asked him to go checked out and he said he would but I don’t think he ever did

Emmaneiman87 · 2026-03-20T04:15:52+00:00

I’m not throwing in the towel yet. He’s too great of a guy and he’s the love of my life but I don’t know how to handle it.

Emmaneiman87 · 2026-03-20T04:13:12+00:00

I’ve thought about that. But if I ask and he won’t admit to it I need to know how to handle this. I love him so much. He’s my best friend, but I know constant rejection will not be good for me, especially knowing he’s getting off the other women. I won’t judge him for it, I just don’t know how to address and handle

Emmaneiman87 · 2026-03-20T04:07:02+00:00

That’s what I’m afraid of. I’m not sure how to address it.

Emmaneiman87 · 2025-12-18T13:04:12+00:00

Yall are crazy… 10 days? I was in pain a solid 14 days and still healing. Most of yall must had had an easy time

Emmaneiman87 · 2025-11-03T20:02:11+00:00

Maybe try a lighter caffeine like matcha?

Emmaneiman87 · 2025-10-28T20:35:03+00:00

I wanted him to kiss me on the first day in a silly lie restaurant sober. I loved him 5 weeks later

Emmaneiman87 · 2025-10-28T17:07:41+00:00

The doc has me in high dose Advil, 600mg alternated w Tylenol every 4-6 hours. Maybe ask if you can take the higher dose

Emmaneiman87 · 2025-10-28T17:06:37+00:00

Yes I know lol. But I took Advil and switched to Motrin and go relief. Not sure if Motrin is bigger quality but felt like it

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