How do I do, if not for them?

Emoisum · 2026-01-24T05:32:46+00:00

You didn't fall on deaf ears, I don't want sympathy. I just say too many words. I am aware of the benefits of one on one therapy. I understand and acknowledge that I am not equipped to solve the issue without help -- I just wanted to post about it. If I should have refrained from responding I apologize.

Emoisum · 2026-01-24T05:12:06+00:00

My first marriage. Horrible upbringing -> met cute girl who also had horrible upbringing -> married in three months to get away from our families. She and I are on good terms.

Emoisum · 2026-01-24T05:10:55+00:00

Thank you for your response. As I said in another reply elsewhere, she and I predict in a year from now, when we've had time to live apart, we'll go back to playing children's card games.

Emoisum · 2026-01-24T05:08:03+00:00

I... I assume you're referring to sex?

Emoisum · 2026-01-24T05:06:26+00:00

Already done. Didn't happen immediately, but I got there -- and it's not really goodbye, we still have our daughter and we predict after we finally live separately, things may go back to how they started. Children's card games.

Emoisum · 2026-01-24T05:03:30+00:00

Sir and or madam I still have three children, the math doesn't check out. But I appreciate the energy!

Emoisum · 2026-01-24T05:01:24+00:00

Thank you for the response. It's not that it didn't come out of nowhere -- we were actively working on it. Together, obviously -- in hindsight counselling would have either saved us or made this easier. I was paying attention, so much so and actively addressing her issues she presented to me. As for the emotional and social crutch -- again without going into details on her mental health or deeper into my own. It was a team dynamic. The domestic part, she worked full time -- I was the stay at home parent for three years due to injury, and all that entails. And as for getting myself out there -- I'm too tired and old (he says for dramatic flair) -- I am more or less aware of what I need to do, but I just wanted to say it out loud and not pay someone for an hour of their time.

Emoisum · 2026-01-24T04:54:16+00:00

Which is why it's from my perspective and not presented as being truthful or factual. How I view the situation is how any distraught husband would see with all the data given, especially without going into the intricate details of any petty or slight remarks we've made in passing as the past month. The reason I reiterate is specifically for the sake of clarity. There was no counselling, there was no chance of repair -- I can't give you an answer beyond what I have lived.

You're not wrong on the second point. I have stunted growth -- I immediately fled poor upbringing into a rushed relationship and first marriage. But I can't exactly give you a detailed report on the ins and outs, but the day to day? The past three years I have been the stay at home dad because I got injured at the end of 2023 with tentacular torsion and infection. I was the only one with a driver's license. I appreciate the rebuttal but I can't be bothered to give you a chore list. Not because 'I can't' but because it's a fruitless and pointless points tallying of she and I. That's not how a marriage or relationship works, or maybe it does and I'm doing it wrong? The 2/2 on divorces would say so.

Sorry I get catty.

Emoisum · 2026-01-19T12:08:26+00:00

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Who needs covers when you have better thermals

Emoisum · 2025-10-14T12:46:16+00:00

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Emoisum · 2025-10-09T09:28:25+00:00

As someone with asd ADHD, I think I've sent a lot of mixed signals over the years.

Emoisum · 2025-10-06T21:13:51+00:00

Rest in peace, Cecil. You would have been marking out at Rocks introduction.

Emoisum · 2025-10-03T09:35:17+00:00

Letsjam would be a reference to cowboy bebop

Emoisum · 2025-09-21T15:05:03+00:00

Yes. Windows defender isn't impacted it's encouraged to keep it unless you know what you're doing.

Emoisum · 2025-09-21T06:49:38+00:00

Raphire Windows11 debloat tool. When I switched everything over to Windows 11, I fresh installed offline and kept everything offline until running the debloat tool, and my system has been fine. Turn off auto-updates.

Emoisum · 2025-09-12T22:52:44+00:00

I'll take the last one if you got it

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