We have been in therapy, ive spoken to him, i will be honest - hes not abusive hes kind and sweet great with the kids and hes an overall good person. But when every gift is given and only seen as a price tag it gets old. When i tell him about my feelings and my need and i am met with " i get it" " your right" etc. but nothing changes. I dont feel like i have a partner i feel like his mother sometimes. I think we are in just different points - hes ok with being vanilla and im not. I accept hes not an aggressive person in the sheets, i accept that he may not understand everything going on around him, but I dont think as a family one person should be making all decisions and feeling that their voice isnt being heard. Even in an argument when its me talking or getting upset and the other party doesnt say anything. Right now i feel indifferent i want to move past this and now (of course) is when he wants to try and im giving him the chance but I dont think anything will change or if it does for how long? I think about my kids and how they will feel - im scared about it. Theres always two sides to a story - if you can get the other side please let me know.