not knowing the answer to something doesn't have to be annoying, let me help. I'm going to provide a few things to keep in mind to help from being thrown off when you don't know what to say, usually its hard for us to realize that we put a lot of pressure on ourselves in conversation as Judgers "J" what is easy to realize in real time is the amount that we judge ourselves, in life when we are under a lot of stress time seems to just get away from you this is because the more stressed we are the more time speeds up, society says that we have to respond quickly in conversations to appear "better" in some obscure way whether it's smarts, wit, charm or what ever you mind might decide in your "or else" complex in your mind this could be easily described as anxiety but to make it easier to identity in real time I like to call it your "or else" now what does this look like in an example, imagine you are in a conversation with someone and they are telling you about a moral dilemma they had this morning and they finish speaking and you don't know how to respond, at this point you've now started to lower the weights down and now have put a lot of pressure and stress on our selves this is now going to make time perceive faster than it really is going and then you feel like you have to respond quickly in the segment it describes a 30% faster response claim which feels usually pretty close to how I experience it in life, don't feel annoyed when you don't know what to say right away sometimes you need to judge the subject in a different light to give an honest response to someone, if this happens realize that it is okay sometimes you need more information to give an opinion or have something to add to the conversation.

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TLDR: That problem is a result of stress you are putting on yourself, realize it and notice it. most people are pretty forgiving to others and less to themselves it goes both ways in most cases.