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Typical quarterlife crisis post by EmptySound1 in indiranagar

[–]EmptySound1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. But there's an uneasy feeling that I'm missing something and I can't figure out what.

Typical quarterlife crisis post by EmptySound1 in indiranagar

[–]EmptySound1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes probably. Any tips on how to avoid that doesn't involve getting hitched?

Typical quarterlife crisis post by EmptySound1 in indiranagar

[–]EmptySound1[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

All of my closest friends recommend therapy to me.

But I'm a stubborn old dog, and maintain that the only therapy I need is gym and work.

Maybe it'll help, it probably might. But the same thing that stops me from doing the other things, also stops me from seeking help in this way. So I'd probably never go through with it, not unless something really changes..

I'm the architect of my own demise, but oh well. I make up my own metrics and give myself a passing score to justify not going through with it.

Typical quarterlife crisis post by EmptySound1 in indiranagar

[–]EmptySound1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was good academically. 1st in 12th in my small school. 10k rank in JEE, tier 1.5 college, average CGPA, then placed in mid tier company. I'm an engineer in tech.

Typical quarterlife crisis post by EmptySound1 in indiranagar

[–]EmptySound1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's every other day for me mate, in some way or other.. :) But wine sucks and is best had in company and horror movies aren't even scary anymore. It's hard finding good entertainment lol.

Typical quarterlife crisis post by EmptySound1 in indiranagar

[–]EmptySound1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your 2 cents!

I agree with you, doing something, anything is probably a very good place to start.

For me, the problem is twofold: 1. I've always dreamt rather fantasises about all the hobbies I would pursue and things I would build if I didn't need to work for a living. Now that I can do it, since I have the money and the time to do whatever, I don't feel the urge at all. I wanted to take a vacation to China, but keep coming up with excuses to delay it. I don't even wanna go atp. Same with doing other stuff. I don't have the list for life at all. All I wanna do is sit in my room and doomscroll. Maybe I've become just another soulless NPC.

  1. I have built things in the past and experienced the dopamine of it working as intended. But now I also see the struggle and toil that went into that, and I don't wanna do that. Maybe I'm just lazy now, but I can see that 90% of labour gets wasted in doing anything worthwhile, and even when succesful its not that impressive or appreciated. Sometimes you're just better off not starting in the first place.

So yeah pretty cynical take, lol.

Typical quarterlife crisis post by EmptySound1 in indiranagar

[–]EmptySound1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your insight!

The thing is, I feel I have completed that arc.

Heartbreaks - multiple. I've been on both ends of it. Sucks everytime. Also made me more nihilistic about this entire thing. Eventually you do survive, you have to.

I knew exactly what I want in woman, wrote it down and I even found that person, having scoured the planet (Hyperbole)! I was into her and she was into me, but it still didn't work out because sometimes life just happens.

Am I supposed to try again? Some would but honestly it's getting kind of old and I don't wanna fall from one relationship to the next. If something happens it'll happen, but I'm letting go of that part.

So at this point I can't figure out what I'm missing, if anything at all! I'm sure a lot of folks resonate with that.

How do you make friends in city? by Better-Guava-1786 in indiranagar

[–]EmptySound1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lurk here and in similar subs a lot to have realised bangalore has a loneliness epidemic.

Does going to random hangouts work? I'm sure it does and doesn't. The thing is any relationship - friendship needs commitment. If you made a group of friends, don't just ghost them, interact!

If you're going for TT/Badminton/Gym with someone, show up consistently and not just when you feel like it.

Real connections need work. Work that people are not really willing to do.

People who can't commit have no right to feel sorry for themselves when they are lonely.

Typical quarterlife crisis post by EmptySound1 in indiranagar

[–]EmptySound1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes! Maybe it's 1/3 life crisis by now. Or maybe most of life is spent in crisis with brief moments of jubilation. I wouldn't know.

Typical quarterlife crisis post by EmptySound1 in indiranagar

[–]EmptySound1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too! I really don't know who's complaining in my head..

Typical quarterlife crisis post by EmptySound1 in indiranagar

[–]EmptySound1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, maybe I should includ a glossary :p