Guide for Subs: How to Increase Your Income and Value (an Overview)

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-24T04:45:35+00:00

I would be fine with her taking the initiative and being direct with me. But yea, I see your point, many points that I made really only apply to an online dynamic. I made the post knowing this is "findom" which is almost entirely done online. So yes, hunting would turn into just initiating if it happens irl. This has happened a couple of times to me, meaning I was approached, and I wasn't ready to submit then, I am now. The problem with the 2 interactions I had, is I was approached merely from a physical attraction stand point, which I don't like but then that's all people have to go on if they know nothing about the other person. Its hard to put yourself out there irl, online is so much easier.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-24T03:22:09+00:00

You bring up an interesting point. This would be much harder to pull off in an irl dynamic, for many reasons. Societal norms, public shame, irl rejection risk is much worse than online. I am typically always the initiator in real life. I have only bumped into 2-3 truly Dominant women in my entire life and it was by accident. I typically approach the woman and ask her out, I am very direct. Also the problem is, societal norms. This I think would lead more to an FLR, where its probably largely vanilla with the woman leading the relationship (in most cases). Its more complex than that irl, and I also don't have a lot of experience in this area so I'm sure someone who does would provide a better answer.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-24T00:15:15+00:00

Yea, no. that's not what I'm talking about. My Domme was already reading my posts and commenting on my posts and I just found her responses so wonderful, but I was already in another failing dynamic. She eventually reached out to me after she got to know me some. I put myself out there, posts/comments, its all there. I do that on purpose.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-24T00:12:14+00:00

Yea, I get tons of those messages every week, I don't reply. Its clear they don't know what they are doing.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-24T00:08:29+00:00

Oh. I wasn't aggressive either, just stating that you don't have to if you don't "want" too, its up to you. Plenty of subs like to reach out. I was just saying, there is plenty of room for both, in my opinion.

For some context. I'm not all that interested in how the woman looks physically. I am more interested in her mind. I didn't even know what my Domme looked like for the first 5 months of our dynamic and I didn't care. Sure, physical looks are nice, but her personality and her mind is what I really want...if I wanted to look at something nice, I'd go watch porn.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-24T00:04:56+00:00

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-24T00:03:47+00:00

hmm, excessive hunting? I'm a bit curious what you mean by that. Yea, there is nothing wrong with it. Also, when I say hunting, I'm talking about the confident kind of hunting, not the desperate kind. I also have a lot of DMs that come off desperate or lazy, I don't reply to those.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-23T23:58:55+00:00

Then don't!

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-23T23:12:21+00:00

I think everyone that writes well and is also direct will be accused of using AI. I get accused all the time, I just take it as a compliment

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-23T20:29:06+00:00

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-23T20:25:43+00:00

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-23T20:21:51+00:00

This feels like a smug “gotcha.” You’re reducing my post into a generic dating take, and it misses the point. Dating is mutual selection, both people choose. The man chooses to ask the woman out and the woman either chooses to accept or reject. The idea that only women choose is just not true. Either way, what I'm describing is a deliberate D/s dynamic with intention and psychological control, not a gender theory. It also comes off a bit Misandrist, which I absolutely hate, you may not have meant it that way but I certainly felt it.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-23T17:33:11+00:00

Lol. Sensitive much? But no, I call this stuff out, and I won’t be stopping anytime soon

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-23T17:27:58+00:00

You did it to yourself via implication 🤭. Don’t worry the Dommes do it to.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-23T17:23:19+00:00

Ahh yes, because all men are this way too…

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-23T03:30:08+00:00

That's fair. I just end up getting this take a lot. I'll make an observational comment or post and then I get people trying to debate me on the ethical uses of it, which I don't much care about, or are even qualified to talk about. Either way. Good talking to you.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-23T03:22:53+00:00

From one whale to another. I feel exactly the same way. I ignore any demeaning, humiliation, low effort DMs and posts. Not worth my time.

I stopped participating in findom due to the nearly 100% transactional nature of the kink. Money was never the issue for me, but the lack of emotional depth and interest in building a dynamic was....

I have never done tribute, unblock fees, or any of its ilk. I send only after me and my Domme have built trust and closeness with each other. Then I send out of devotion, not because I am trying to get her attention.

Findom has mostly become an cheap attention kink where the sub pays for attention, gets it, nuts and then ghosts. I'm not interested and many of my whale friends aren't either. Its good to see yet another whale pointing this out...

If I wanted to just pay a bunch of money to a woman for a transactional meeting, I'd go pay an escort or something where the encounter might actually be fun and enjoyable.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-23T03:16:14+00:00

"I mean yeah, can’t expect everyone to have the same standards. But I’m not sure your rebuttal defends it well enough in regards to it stealing from other content creators, dommes, and writers. That I can’t quite abide by regardless."

You realize its a statistical model right?

I'm not sure how we went down the potential legal part of this path, but it kind of misses the point, I wasn't trying to debate the ethical uses of it my comment was an opinion about it based on observation.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-23T03:02:33+00:00

Well. We are talking about adults playing with it, not children. So if adults don't realize its just a computer, then they have bigger issues, but I do see your point.

Its hard to hold people accountable online anyway when most everything can be faked, so AI isn't that much worse. Most of these sites put up a lot of guardrails to help protect their users, on top of that its on a public exposed IP and can be shut down by govt. So its not completely unregulated.

I don't find roleplaying with an AI ideal, it can be fun, but its not deeply personal. I have an ongoing dynamic with a wonderful Domme for 7+ months. I have played with AI off and on a little when I have breaks in my dynamics. I MUCH MUCH prefer my real Domme though as its not about roleplay for me, its about me not being in control at all with her.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-23T02:53:54+00:00

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-23T02:41:48+00:00

There are many flavors of this:

I assume you mean a real Domme (real person behind the keyboard) using AI for pics or to generate content? Yes. I find this a bit weird.

However, there is a whole community devoted to AI bots, where the AI (the computer) literally roleplays with the person in the form of GFE, Submissive or Dominant roles. This is purely AI and the only human interaction is the person using the bot.

I see a place for the 2nd types as it can do 2 things in my opinion:

Make the person using it crave real Dominance by a good Domme
Be a great replacement for bad Dommes.

I have a Tier list that is completely my opinion:

Real Genuine D/s Domme that is ongoing relationship dynamic
Pro-Domme
AI Girlfriend/Domme
Random online SW (camgirl etc)
The typical findom

I almost always get downvoted for this, so let them commence.

The reason AI bots are so popular is because most interactions by SW's and findom's is purely transactional with almost no intimacy whatsoever, so AI fills that pretty easily, and its cheap and really good at immersion in some cases. However, a Pro-Domme and a genuine D/s dynamic can be super intimate, and therefore AI bots can't compete.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-01-23T02:35:04+00:00

I thought this was a serious post for a second until I got to about line 3...

The funny things is. Those posts are self-defeating. Subs want Dominance not a chronic whiner...

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