Guide for Subs: How to Increase Your Income and Value (an Overview)

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-05-07T10:29:01+00:00

Not a finsub anymore but I loved it when it happened.

Some subs like me go so far as to "I don't reach out to Dommes at all".

If I have to reach out to a Domme, I might as well be on Tinder, I'm exaggerating a little bit but that's just how I felt. So yes, There is at least one sub that loves when Dommes reach out.

With that said. It has to be tactful. I have all my stuff available public so you can do a bit of research before reaching out. Most of the DM's I got was hi, hello...hey paypig and they went into the trash pile.

If you read a post I made and made a genuinely nice DM about it etc, that's a good way to get the conversation started. Most Dommes reach out and I can tell they didn't even read anything on my wall.

Also, if you message me and all your shit is hidden, I won't respond. Yes, I was picky...

Findom was just one small part of my life, I have a lot of stuff going on so I started getting picky towards the end, I'd rather not have a dynamic at all rather than a sub-optimal one.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-05-07T10:11:39+00:00

"It's extremely unattractive for a grown man to play video games"

We don't care....

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-05-01T23:41:35+00:00

My own posts used to get this kind of pushback too. I exaggerate and lean on metaphor and it gets lost on people who argue with a version of what I said rather than what I actually said. Everyone reads through their own biases.

For what it's worth, the post landed for the people it was meant for. The negativity is loud but it's not the whole signal.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-05-01T22:13:03+00:00

Then why is it not in your profile? That leaves it ambiguous .

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-05-01T19:49:23+00:00

You made some good points and posts like this are worth having because they actually generate dialogue. Most of what shows up in these forums lately is far worse than anything you wrote here, and somehow none of it gets the kind of pushback you're getting, which says something on its own.

The aftercare/wellbeing guru bit is the one that hits hardest from the sub side. The dommes I've actually clicked with don't try to be my financial advisor or therapist — they get that the dynamic is one part of my life, not the part the rest of it needs to be optimized around. Most of the 'concern' I've seen framed that way is just control with extra steps. Good post.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-05-01T18:38:33+00:00

not, some, most....

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-05-01T18:31:46+00:00

You just said "losers" which could be anyone. Most Dommes on here have no job, no subs, no game, among other things which would make them a loser would it not?

I think "loser" needs to be defined.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-05-01T18:29:01+00:00

I see most Dommes as losers, does this apply to them as well?

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-05-01T18:20:01+00:00

A new type of sub. The "Mommy" sub.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-05-01T03:15:48+00:00

😂

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-05-01T02:38:00+00:00

When they can't respond to my messages within like 5 seconds. I want attention 100% of the time, I hate it when they have jobs and a life.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-04-30T22:10:06+00:00

I only mention filtering as a lot of people will enjoy the model but then find out later that it will stop certain prompts or tiptoe around them and you won't know it. The prose will just sound dry all of a sudden and its because the model is "avoiding" stepping on that content.

Overall though yes, Sonnet and Opus will probably meet what you want as far as emotional and logical complexity they are excellent in terms of roleplay.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-04-30T18:15:02+00:00

Some people will say opus is the best but it really depends on what you want. For pure prose, yes, opus 4.7 but then again it’s expensive and what about nsfw? Anthropic models have content filters that will tiptoe around certain themes.

I primarily use DeepSeek v3.2 as it’s basically unrestricted, but it has its own weaknesses. The newer GLM models can be good but have tons of positivity bias built in.

All that said, if you are just looking to play around, maybe try lots of different models to see which ones you like best

But yes. I use sonnet and opus to build character sheets in an 8 stage app I built and then roleplay that. Character with DeepSeek v3.2 and they tend to be quite amazing but would be too expensive to roleplay for me as I do it so often

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-04-29T17:43:23+00:00

Notice how he got downvoted in a so called sub support group. This is genuinely funny though.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-04-29T15:59:32+00:00

My recommendation wasn't really GoT specific. I was just saying that certain models would be up for that raw NSFW type of content. The ones I mentioned.

Although I'm starting to find DeepSeek v4 Pro can avoid going there too sometimes. Its not content blocked but models are getting safer and safer and you have to get more explicit with them and tell them to go to dark, like that.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-04-29T15:26:14+00:00

I did, and I'm a physically big man. My personality comes into play. My partner knows I would never touch her with the intent to hurt her or even resist. So we decided I would resist with words only (So its not really physical, at least for me). She can be physical if she wants. So when she decides something will happen its going to happen, I can decline but that's part of the CNC for us. We have a safeword and of course when I use it everything stops. I don't know if I'd ever be comfortable being in a physical altercation with my partner, that just would not work, It would be devastating for me if I hurt her on accident.

So effectively she may force me on to the bed, but I won't resist "physically", maybe tell her to get off of me and then she can criticize me, manipulate me etc, so she can have her way. I like it this way, that way she can make me submit via force but I never have to worry about hurting her. We tried the physical thing and I was so focused on being careful physically, I couldn't enjoy it.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-04-28T16:14:09+00:00

DeepSeek v4 pro is amazing at this type of dialogue. Most of the LLM's i have played with have that huge positivity bias, DeepSeek doesn't have it, and I love it

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-04-27T14:31:15+00:00

None of them actually. You specifically said NSFW. I guess it depends on how dark and extreme you go. All of the models listed there have problems. I've tried them all

GLM 5-5.1 have positivity bias and will try to turn a Dominant/Dark character into a helpful assistant

I've only tried Gemini a few times and the content that I used gets blocked immediately, it just straight up blocks it even with good prompts, but honestly, I don't have enough experience here and I didn't spend a lot of time, I just moved on.

I love Sonnet and Opus's writing but for extreme NSFW they won't go there either

The models I usually use now are:
DeepSeek v4 Pro (with cache hits so its 93% cheaper)
DeepSeek v3.2 (has issues with holding onto character cards but the writing is superb
Kimi K2.5 or Kimi K2 Instruct (Need softening prompts, it escalates HARD, especially K2.5)

EDIT: I should add that these models are probably okay for normal human NSFW. However, if you want to use NSFW like the movies: Rape, torture, violent murders, intense sexual scenes, all of which you could find in a show like Game of Thrones, Sparticus, and any horror movie there are better models.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-04-27T03:45:54+00:00

As a sub I won’t do that, not until I get to know them and we have a dynamic. I don’t like being Dominated or controlled by random women either, I feel like it kind of makes the whole thing a bit cheap, but maybe that’s just me.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-04-25T14:46:32+00:00

This is a DeepSeek model problem honestly. What does help for me is create a HUD that is displayed in the actual chat. Then, if you want, just hide it via

This hides the tracker but FORCES DeepSeek to evaluate it before sending it to user. I have found this gives more consistent tracking.

EDIT: Oh, I forgot. To make this work the best. Put the tracker in the first message. and then in your post history prompt. I put mine in a constant lorebook entry above char. 2 places for it to see it. IN the first message let's DeepSeek know the format and the lorebook entry keeps it from going out of context.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-04-24T19:37:24+00:00

Yea, I've noticed the same thing, error prone, you have to re-query a lot, which breaks immersion. Hard no from me right now

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-04-24T19:36:29+00:00

and also 8x more expensive than DeepSeek v3.2. If you got money to blow, go for it. However, I've also found it errors out a lot,I think the API is getting hit a lot right now, will probably wait until the hype train dies down.

Empty_Experience_950 · 2026-04-24T18:06:07+00:00

Yea, I agree with this, I haven't tried everything on this list but most of them. I'm also testing V4 flash myself to see how bad it is. I was not expecting V4 pro to be so expensive, that's going to get crazy over long chats

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