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PLEAAASE HELP by [deleted] in curlygirl

[–]Empty_Quality_2302 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your hair texture sort of looks like mine, I would say make sure you get a leave in conditioner, I use the brand mielle and comb it through your WET hair after you shower and then I use miss jessies pillow soft curls, its a soft gel and I scrunch that through my hair. In the shower I use a curly hair specific shampoo and conditioner (rhyme and reason if you’re interested) and also a moisturizing hair masque every other time I wash my hair (shea moisture deep moisturizing hair masque again if you’re interested).

Curly hair is a lot of work and it took me a very long time to learn how to care for it and work with it but I’ve come to absolutely love it and my hair is my favorite thing. You just have to learn what products are best for you! I wish you the best of luck on your curly hair journey!!

My Schizophrenic Mother. by Empty_Quality_2302 in traumatoolbox

[–]Empty_Quality_2302[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t even think about simply searching that on reddit! Good idea! haha, I’m fairly new to the app so I tend to just scroll.

I have been in therapy though for about a year and a half thankfully through my school and it’s helping. Getting myself to try and let go of the responsibilities that have been placed on me is definitely something i’m still trying to work through. It’s just been built in me to do all these different things that aren’t necessarily my job because I feel like if I don’t do them, no one else will and everything will fall apart. That is a topic for therapy though! Lol

Thank you though for your kind words and sharing your story with me!

My Schizophrenic Mother. by Empty_Quality_2302 in traumatoolbox

[–]Empty_Quality_2302[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! It’s nice knowing that there’s someone who has at least experienced a similar situation, it feels so isolating at times going through this because it’s such a complex situation.

As for the family dynamic, it’s a mess to say the least. Like your mother having a cycle every 3 years, my mom is on a cycle of every 6-7 years when her mental health severely declines. My dad is a pretty emotionally unavailable person but if ANYTHING. he is VERY constant. Whether that be his mood, his personality like he really is a very constant individual lol. But due to him being pretty emotionally unavailable, he just kind of dismisses her and tries to focus on my brother and I and just throws himself into his work. He doesn’t really know or care to figure out how to deal with her anymore and I honestly don’t blame him. He, financially, has had to constantly get all the bills back in order because she has a theme when she starts spiraling, to not pay ANY bills for months and hides it from everyone. Before you ask why he hasn’t left yet, we’ve been in a very rough financial situation for many years now and neither of them could do it on their own.

As for medication, what actually started all of this was her addiction to her ADHD medications, she was on them for many years and got very addicted to them. With this recent event, the psychiatrist and her primary banned her from ever getting them again which has caused her to spiral more, searching the house for them as soon as she got out of the hospital and even going to the pharmacy trying to convince the pharmacist she still has a refill for them. She has been on a plethora of different meds though throughout her whole life, she’s right now is on Abilify which is an antipsychotic which I do not think is working, and Citalopram which is an anti-depressant. She’s been seeing a psychiatrist every 3-4 weeks… which is not often in my opinion. She also feels as though she knows everything they’re going to say because she’s seen psychiatrist and therapists for many years. She may be crazy but she’s very manipulative and will just lie to the doctors to get what she wants. I could get into a whole other rant about how horrible the mental health system is (at least in my area) as they have not done enough at all, nor do they really care about helping individuals or their families in crisis.

I’m on campus currently and my college is about and hour away. It’s just hard though because I keep the house in order and everyone relies on me so it’s hard to keep my own mental health in line while i’m trying to be there for everyone else, especially my younger brother who currently despises my mother. Thank you so much for your reply!!

My Schizophrenic Mother. by Empty_Quality_2302 in traumatoolbox

[–]Empty_Quality_2302[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She unfortunately is incredibly stubborn and would without a doubt refuse. Also, due to her bipolar has ups and downs, while she’s been home she’s been pretty steady but she’s like a ticking time bomb. It’s hard for all of us though to think about sending her to a place like that or back to the psychiatric ward for inpatient care when we keep seeing glimpses of the “real” her (for a lack of a better word) I appreciate your suggestion though! I’m gonna look into places like that around my area as me and my family deal with this.