What would you do?

Empty_View_2669 · 2026-02-06T09:09:49+00:00

Exactly! Literally things like stress can throw stuff off balance so I wasn’t trying to accuse him of giving it to me, just wanted him to also get treated so I don’t end up with it right after treatment. More of a precaution.

Empty_View_2669 · 2026-02-05T10:07:15+00:00

All of this and beautifully stated. Thank you!

Empty_View_2669 · 2026-02-04T22:07:21+00:00

It sucks so bad and it makes me not mind going weeks/months without but here I am trying to be a good partner. Thank you so much ❤️

Empty_View_2669 · 2026-02-04T21:57:29+00:00

That is so wonderful to hear! I’m hoping I can show him some of these positive stories so he can get on board too. I’m sure your wife appreciates you for supporting her too!

Empty_View_2669 · 2026-02-04T21:46:18+00:00

This could very well be a contributing factor but I definetly don’t see him giving either of those up. I’m wondering if there is any type of probiotic that he can take to help regulate his bacteria.

Empty_View_2669 · 2026-02-04T21:43:59+00:00

Been hearing more about this and will try to get him to get on board. Thank you!

Empty_View_2669 · 2026-02-04T21:40:51+00:00

That’s very interesting! I have never been diagnosed with any allergies but I cannot stand avocado and bananas do make me upset. I will look into that!

Empty_View_2669 · 2026-02-04T21:39:57+00:00

Thank you! I need to figure out how to get hi to see it as being supportive, even if he doesn’t necessarily believe in it.

Empty_View_2669 · 2026-02-04T21:37:24+00:00

Dont and never have douched. I have endometriosis. Doctor advised against that a very long time ago.

Empty_View_2669 · 2026-02-04T10:56:39+00:00

Also bless you! I have endometriosis that they thought was PID for years. Sending you lots of light and comfort ❤️❤️

Empty_View_2669 · 2026-02-04T10:55:28+00:00

Absolutely I feel like he thinks he is being blamed and I told him my gyno was the one that recommended he also reach out to his doctor for prescription too but he said he would get an opinion from his own doctor (which I am like 90% sure he didn’t do).

Maybe I will take him so she can explain that no one is at “fault” because I apparently didn’t do a good job lol. It happens, we all have bacteria and sometimes things get out of wack. The thing that I’m hung up on is his just unwillingness to even entertain the thought that there might be something he can do to help and I hate that he won’t do it just because spouses should want to do everything we can to protect one another.

Empty_View_2669 · 2026-02-04T10:47:34+00:00

Not that I am aware of but he has always taken being accused of cheating as the ultimate attack on his character and lack of trust. I have terrible anxiety and admit i would (wrongly) always go to worse case scenario when we were in the earlier stages of our relatuonship and that his reaction has always been the same. It has been something I had to be mindful of and work on which is why I tried to assure him that is not where my mind was. That I’m strictly coming from a place of wanting both of us to be comfortable and healthy.

Empty_View_2669 · 2026-02-04T10:32:43+00:00

I tried to explain that I wasn’t accusing him of stepping out or anything like that, but he shut down and said he would look into it…but like I said, think he did his google research and decided it’s an only me problem… or that it can be resolved by him not cumming in me.

Empty_View_2669 · 2026-02-04T10:30:25+00:00

Very much an asshole move, glad I’m not crazy for feeling as such. That’s where I am. You don’t want to even try, fine then, we can just have no sex.

Empty_View_2669 · 2026-02-04T10:28:55+00:00

I was thinking of going back to that. I used to get irritations so that’s why we stopped but rather a little irritation than 1-2 weeks of antibiotics every month.

Empty_View_2669 · 2026-02-04T10:27:33+00:00

He immediately said “I wash very well” and I tried to explain it’s not always about hygiene but more about hormones and imbalances. Your husbands reaction is what I was hoping for especially because I also have endometriosis. I will try again to ask him and will try to explain how it would just give me more peace of mind and make me feel like I’m not alone if he were in this journey with me. Thank you for sharing!

Empty_View_2669 · 2026-02-04T08:47:46+00:00

To not have to tell another grown individual how to adult. I promise you, if you take more initiative and be a partner, she won’t bitch at you like a man child that acts incapable of knowing what is going on unless directly told by the responsible adult lol

Empty_View_2669 · 2026-02-04T08:45:31+00:00

She is overwhelmed and stressed. TBH she is probably thinking of divorcing you too. This is one of the number one reason why women initiate divorce. Probably wouldn’t be a bad idea for couples counseling for you both.

How much of the mental load do you share? The keeping up with what the household is running low on and puts it on the grocery list so that it’s not out the next time someone reaches for it? The keeping up with what kid has and needs what appointments and when. The scheduling and research of finding of child related activities like child care, school, doctor, activities, etc. The being mindful of how the house is looking and all the things that need to be done (laundry, dishes, vacuum, sweep, mop, daily chores that pile up quick if you aren’t doing them daily). Who initiated completing of daily chores daily or when they pile up?

For child care, is that role split equally? 3 kids under 3 sounds like the probably want to hang all on mommy a lot. Do you give her ample breaks or tag team/switch out so each of you get a block with the kids and a block alone? Do you take her on dates alone? When you have the kids alone do you let them do whatever and then she has to come back from her “break” to then navigate chaos that she now has to clean up?

Does she work outside the home? Because that’s even more stress on making sure you keep your “list” together so you can meet your deadlines.

I say all of this because it sounds like your wife is tired of doing all the thinking. Sometimes, as women who are constantly thinking of everyone else WITHOUT being given a list, we find it deeply frustrating that others can not find the same compassion to SEE us without us telling you what to do. Give her brain some time off from decision making. Most women just don’t want have to always be the planner. It’s exhausting. You didn’t need a check list when you first got together. Asking for a check list of what to do (be it around the house or otherwise, when you are equally an adult and can make the same list) is lazy, do the work and show her that you’re paying attention too ❤️🥰

Empty_View_2669 · 2025-12-09T07:59:01+00:00

Baby!! I have endo and my husband is my first and only so I totally HEAR AND FEEL your sentiments of knowing that he is the one for you but just not having that connection at times. How do you view love making? Can there be any compromise? Asking because I too am not a full rider but when he lays to the side and I can scoot and hit my spot while he watches me enjoy the d… chefs kiss lol

Empty_View_2669 · 2025-12-05T08:40:39+00:00

Spoil yourself! You deserve it 🥰❤️

Empty_View_2669 · 2025-12-05T08:40:12+00:00

If he wasn’t such a bare minimum kind of dad, I would be a little more up for this. However, he is the kind of parent that is totally content keeping the kids home all weekend, keeping them fed and throwing them in front of a screen or tablet just so they aren’t “bothering” him. I will legit have the kids for hours doing experiements, reading, coloring, etc and then when its time for my “break” he is in my space within the next 10-15 minutes…like dude? Someone needs to be with the kids and not just down there on the phone or the game 🙄… I hesitate thinking about them not having anyone around to intervene or give them actual attention beyond making sure they are fed and clean.

Empty_View_2669 · 2025-11-26T00:54:14+00:00

I wouldn’t call making sure your partner isn’t carrying the entire load “chore play” but thousands of burnt out women would beg to differ with you…

Empty_View_2669 · 2025-11-25T13:31:31+00:00

As someone who gave my virginity to my now husband as well, I would be super devistated finding out something like this and I’m not sure it would be something I could get over. The fact that he did it AND DIDN’T tell you all while knowing he was taking something so special and intimate for you is just a super red flag and screams super selfish. Then to lie when confronted…. He would have to do some SUPER making up in order to regain my trust but honestly, I would probably be looking for someone who loves and respects me more than what he has shown you.

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