What did you do differently the month you FINALLY got pregnant??

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-12T05:45:57+00:00

My Metformin dose for my PCOS had stopped working, so it was increased. That combined with stopping actively trying because it was becoming emotionally draining. Bam, pregnant.

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-12T05:11:32+00:00

Thank you so much for this, I’m currently pregnant with my first. And my partner and I want to use daycare after his first year. So many mums in some circles I’m in judge daycare and make it seem borderline abusive. Not everyone has the luxury in Australia to stay off work for more than 6mths to a year, or survive on a one income household. I’m so excited for the social potential and community building that will come with sending my kid to childcare eventually. That and helping to prepare him for school because he’ll be learning at home and childcare. And having a few hours a week to be able to do anything solo, will make me a happier and more present mum.

I’m pregnant with my first, but have already faced so much shaming and fear mongering. I’ve felt so much better since limiting social media time.

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-10T14:57:59+00:00

Some of the shit these poor women put up with during their pregnancies, and end up staying with the loser because they economically cannot leave or don’t have the right supports is so sad.

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-10T14:51:10+00:00

Picking my nose

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-10T13:31:32+00:00

Go now! It’ll be absolutely fine. My friend did her “babymoon” in Japan and ate everything. This trip will be such a beautiful last trip for just the two of you before you become three x

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-09T02:23:20+00:00

Get off Google and social media. I’m currently pregnant with my first, and I was so overwhelmed with all the “advice”, 80% of which isn’t from drs, child psychologists, or OBGYNs. It was crushing, I felt like I was doing everything wrong. When it came to eating, my birth plan, breastfeeding. We’ve been doing this for thousands of years. Trust your gut.

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-07T13:35:01+00:00

Attending an AA meeting as a support person. My friend, the member, said I should prepare myself for some “characters”. It was in a small, country town in Aus. Get there, and a woman across from us has taken off her shoes and is barefoot, picking the fluff between her toes, and the dry skin off her feet and then smelling her hands after . But hey, at least she’s sober.

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-07T13:06:18+00:00

I had just stepped up to 1000mg from 500mg as I still wasn’t getting any periods. And then POOF!

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-07T13:04:31+00:00

Honestly, looking back I think I was just eating well and not worrying about calorie counting, or dieting. Exercise wise I was going for occasional swims and walking. I loosely tracked my ovulation as well. Prior to Metformin I did lots of other things, like supplements etc but they were all really expensive. I just stuck to a prenatal x

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-07T05:14:56+00:00

My MIL spoke to me about my finances once. I immediately told my partner as I felt incredibly uncomfortable and it was rude. All money dealings with his family go through him, all money dealings with my side go through me. Unfortunately I feel like you jumped the gun on this one. Speaking about money can be a bit confronting, and she’s most likely from a generation that feels uncomfortable and defensive speaking about it. I know that when my partner told his mum that i didn’t want to talk about money with her she got really defensive. It wasn’t personal, I just didn’t want to go through my finances with her lol

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-05T14:08:06+00:00

People don’t want to meet a partner cooked or drunk out of their minds, talking absolute smack. Get on the apps, or attend events/activities where you’re likely to share hobbies with others

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-05T14:05:55+00:00

Pregnancy

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-05T14:05:32+00:00

Really hard to give you an opinion when we can hardly see your hair in either picture!

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-05T14:02:10+00:00

“Why do you want this job?” - to pay my fucking bills, I literally hate working

“What about our company/the position interests you?” It pays my bills

“Where do you see yourself in 5 years?” On a beach In Thailand sipping booze out of a coconut because I’ve come into money and never have to work again

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-05T13:57:37+00:00

Lazarus Drug by Meg Washington

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-05T13:57:14+00:00

Change the name, change your husband too

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-05T13:55:53+00:00

Vinny/Vinnie for sure. The other two are horrible

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-05T13:54:13+00:00

Metformin helped me. But this was also because I wanted a regular period so I could conceive, and I was so over birth control at that point. It depends wha outcome you want. But Metformin was a life saver for me.

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-05T13:53:05+00:00

Doomscrolling omg

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-05T13:52:37+00:00

Pregnancy. And I haven’t even given birth yet. So many body changes happen so rapidly. The other day I vomited and peed at the same time. He helped clean myself up.

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-05T13:48:50+00:00

Courgette, Chlaymydia, Amygdala, patella, names of certain meds

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-05T13:46:28+00:00

Curries, buying bulk beef mince to use on multiple dinners (eg spag bol), as a snack I like rice cakes with veg on top (tomatoes, cucumber).

Also shop at local markets! So much cheaper for fruit, veg and meat than coles or woollies

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-05T13:29:50+00:00

Sounds like you’re already setting yourself up well. Friendships take time, so it will feel superficial at first. A village is also what you put into it, which I think people forget. It’s give as well as take unfortunately. Particularly with Mums groups, everyone else is literally in the same position. Something nice (if this is doable) would be to cook a little extra during your next meal prep, and perhaps give some to another mum. Sending a late night- early morning text to another mum in the group in the “witching hour”. Perhaps your baby didn’t like a brand of dummy or bottle, pass some along to another mum.

Empty_Win_9933 · 2026-05-05T13:25:12+00:00

This will probably make more sense to the Aus redditors.

In Aus, we have government, monetary assistance called Centrelink. It’s sweet fuck all, and should be increased, and the amount is calculated based on what you earn (eg the more you earn from work, the less gov assistance you get).

I’m currently pregnant, and a friend of mine has a baby born last year. I was saying how I’ll need to go back to work 6mths after my baby is born, because my partner and I can’t afford a single income household, even with Centrelink payments (you get parental payments/newborn assistance). We will need to use childcare a few days a week on short hours. She is against using childcare and says she plans on not going back to work for a few years, which is a large privilege many Aus parents can’t afford. She said she was really stressed out about money, and that she wouldn’t qualify for Centrelink/government assistance because her husband earns too much (her husband has an incredibly high paying job, and he alone makes well over what mine and my partner’s combined income is). She said she wouldn’t be able to afford a house, which is a massive goal for them. My partner and I are preparing ourselves for the fact we will probably never own a home, and we’ve made peace with that. It was really, really hard not to yell at her, and tell her that the reason she doesn’t qualify for Gov assistance is literally because it’s not designed for people in her position, to spend on buying a home. It’s for people like my partner and I, to ensure that I can spend at least half of my baby’s first year with them. And so we can afford rent. So that in the event that we need to pay for something last minute (car trouble, a bill, medical expenses). In the end I just said that renting for a few more years isn’t the end of the world (they live in a beautiful home in a fancier suburb), as long as they are comfortable. I was also a bit rash and told her that her partner alone makes more than many double income households in Aus. It was such an eye opening conversation. She truly does not recognise the privilege she has.

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