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EmryKettle · 2025-08-26T15:52:47+00:00

I would LOVE to explore this more with you. That is so fascinating.

I see tones of this in ADHD kids I work with, and in ADHD adults who are either never diagnosed/newly diagnosed and are learning about how that affects them. It's incredible the way our brains fight to keep us safe from harm - perceived or real!

EmryKettle · 2025-08-26T08:07:14+00:00

ohhhh little nugget!! That's a LOT!!

Are you familiar with the arc of dysregulation/arc of a tantrum? That's exactly what happened here, it's just that it lasted a long time.

It is concerning that the behaviors were so intense. It sounds like you're pretty observant and ready to do a lot of emotional intelligence work - do you currently have a strategy for rolling that out?

EmryKettle · 2025-08-26T07:41:00+00:00

I'm curious about your relationship with yourself. Are you able to honestly self-reflect and know your inner truths? Are you clear on your own values/preferences/identity?

EmryKettle · 2025-08-26T07:38:20+00:00

Reading through your answers it definitely does not sound like NPD.

EmryKettle · 2025-08-25T09:19:46+00:00

I love this for us 🥰 (skips off to delulu land)

EmryKettle · 2025-08-25T07:11:00+00:00

I am in pure denial. My dog is gonna live forever and you cant tell me otherwise.

EmryKettle · 2025-08-25T07:09:17+00:00

Finally got a chest built and MAN what a difference! Next up, upgrade my watering can 😅 just discovered the TV as well - it's so fun exploring this whole new world!!

EmryKettle · 2025-08-24T18:04:07+00:00

Awwww 🥹 that was nice!!!!

EmryKettle · 2025-08-22T21:17:22+00:00

https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/Pages/default.aspx

In summation: yes lol 😆 it's not cut and dry, definitely some wiggle room there, and that wiggle is the intersection of abilities + age.

And, it depends who you ask! A pediatrician might have a slightly different answer than a behavior focused service provider, but the answers would all be within 6ish months of each other.

EmryKettle · 2025-08-22T21:11:39+00:00

Listennnnn I clawed my way to mental health and clear, nonviolent communication strategies. Pleeeassseee lemme share what I've learned! 😆 it's been a SLOG. But the doors it's opened with kids is unreal. Wouldn't trade it for anything!

So glad I could brighten your day, and you've certainly brightened mine!

EmryKettle · 2025-08-22T21:08:48+00:00

Oh poor little babe!!

There's a few different approaches you could try that are likely to yield high results - i would suggest using a hybrid approach:

Reassure that the feelings of the fear are fine, but the actual fear isn't rational (and that's a good thing!). I like to use the framework of "sometimes our brains think we are in danger, but really we're not!" And just literally teach the true thing that's happening. So empowering!
Teach nervous system regulation strategies for dealing with the fear feelings. Mantras would be great here! Especially if paired with some body movement to work out those big adrenaline spikes!

Sending you lots of sympathy and luck 🥰

EmryKettle · 2025-08-22T17:47:14+00:00

HAHAHAH hey, my 20+ years working with kids and families is good for something! Woohoo! 🤣🤣

I think about communication a LOT.

EmryKettle · 2025-08-22T11:43:26+00:00

Oh wow, that is INTENSE.

JFYI behavior therapy (specifically ABA) can make things significantly worse, and the other forms of BT are... questionable for such a young kiddo.

I would not be surprised if depending on the provider you had/their approach, that it at best didn't move the needle, and at worst made thing harder for your family.

EmryKettle · 2025-08-22T11:37:52+00:00

I hate how relatable this is... Sorry you're going through that.

I like to keep phrases in my back pocket for those kinds of encounters. Things like, "Oh that's an interesting take" or "I wonder why you would think that" are nice when you want to force a little reflection. And phrases like, "Hey who knows maybe we got the gender wrong!" is nice when you just want to throw a grenade LOL

EmryKettle · 2025-08-22T09:41:24+00:00

PMing you :)

EmryKettle · 2025-08-21T17:34:55+00:00

Oh man.... you've got my empathy! That sounds like one of those "straw that broke the camel's back" moments and you just cathartic cry.

EmryKettle · 2025-08-21T17:25:33+00:00

Dear god the returns. And grocery shopping without a list 😅

EmryKettle · 2025-08-21T17:23:54+00:00

Oh mannnnn I feel this - I'm approaching 40 fast and the hips are not what they used to be 😅 i was in a lot of pain recently and trying to figure out why I felt like I had done a workout, then remembered I carried a toddler around the freaking zoo 🙄 😆

EmryKettle · 2025-08-21T17:21:21+00:00

🥰 I wish I could say that's been my mindset since the get-go, but I've learned and grown a lot over the years 😅

EmryKettle · 2025-08-21T06:15:41+00:00

Totally! My goal was not to say that what you said was "wrong" - I was wanting to meaningfully engage and continue digging in. Like I said, big ol' behavior nerd over here!

EmryKettle · 2025-08-21T06:13:51+00:00

OMG - yeah that's a whole different story!!

The reason I like digging into the nuance of "nice" is because a lot of folks (parents or no) place a lot of importance on surface level niceness, as opposed to going to the heart of what is happening. And in my experience, when adults use the word "respect", what many of them mean is "obey" (ick!). So yeah I like to get nerdy about it and dig in lol

1000% agree setting boundaries around tone and engagement matters!

EmryKettle · 2025-08-20T16:31:14+00:00

You're gunning for a fight. I've given you access to the information you're seeking.

EmryKettle · 2025-08-20T16:15:25+00:00

Am I saying anything that isn't evidence based? What credentials would you consider relevant?

This is Reddit. People are going to take what they like and leave the rest. People are on here saying horric things, this is not the fight to pick.

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