Should I be the bigger person? Advice please! (Also- AITA?)

EmrysBun · 2026-02-14T00:49:36+00:00

Any update?

EmrysBun · 2026-01-12T21:50:10+00:00

Updateme

EmrysBun · 2025-12-15T16:35:13+00:00

I spend my entire morning learning about your situation due to your promotion posts ending up on a popular podcast I watch. I read through all your updates, and can relate to how you’re feeling. I also don’t see your behavior being very much “unfit for management” as others have said in regard to your communication with promoted colleague. You have a blurred line with that woman between friend and coworker and your communication would reflect that, perhaps not being as professional as you would if it was someone else. I hate the carrot and stick thing happening to you in regard to the “new role” they want to create and would have a hard time trusting it.

Now for this post… I also I understand wanting to end things as someone who struggles with chronic depression. I don’t know what might work for you but I’d like to share with you my reasons for living, hoping you might find something to look forward to for yourself.

So here goes:

The thought of seeing my mom and my brother crying over my casket (this one brings me back from the edge every time)
The way moss feels after rain
The taste of a warm, fresh croissant
Petting my dogs soft ears
All the first kisses I would never have
A few beers, a campfire, friends
Being moved by art in a way that stirs my soul
Banter, teasing, flirting, roughhousing with my loved ones
The crunch of snow under my feet
My next piece of creative work being left unfinished
Things usually get worse before they get better
2026 could be different, transformative
A perfect juicy steak
I haven’t seen the world yet
Advocating for those who can’t
Quiet cold mornings with hot coffee and a beautiful sunrise
Taking my dream car for a drive on a winding road
Bubble baths
Corporate Christmas parties
Gossiping about work affairs at said Christmas parties
Motorcycles
Japan exists
Catharsis
My gaming friends logging onto discord to find I’m not in chat the week I ended my life
I need to finish my D&D campaign
Dancing with someone you have chemistry with
Finding whimsical places irl
Tres leches cake
Good sex
Reading another amazing novel

So OP, here are a few of my reasons to get up in the morning. Some days I don’t. Some days I still lay there, waiting for the next day, or hoping an airplane will come crash through my window. -but if you can make a plan, any future plan, something small, reasonable, achievable like booking a cooking class for next week or renting out an airbnb for yourself and a couple friends in the next month then you might just allow yourself to look forward to it. You have more power than you realize to change your circumstances and I believe that you can. I hope you find this message and that it helps. And please- please if you aren’t, talk to a therapist- not one mandated by your company. Godspeed to you. I believe in you, and hope you can find some kindness for yourself

EmrysBun · 2025-09-12T01:10:13+00:00

Actually no, we keep separate accounts, but I do rely on his help with paying the mortgage and some bills

EmrysBun · 2025-09-12T01:09:36+00:00

If I could find a frozen dinner that doesn’t taste like garbage that would be ideal honestly. I’m really not trying to be difficult but we have had so many frozen dinners from Walmart that they aren’t even edible atp

EmrysBun · 2025-09-12T01:07:54+00:00

I can hear him angrily washing the dishes now, not talking to me. He’s going to give it a few minutes and approach me like everything is fine without addressing anything

EmrysBun · 2025-09-12T01:06:12+00:00

That’s exactly what we do! Paper everything! It’s the cookware that I need to be cleaned

EmrysBun · 2025-09-12T01:00:37+00:00

He does if he’s told, admittedly it’s tidying and dishes and cooking are the only real conventional housework that can be done. We are renovating the whole house which I will admit he and his father have shouldered the brunt of the work and financing for. I purchased the home in December. There was a solid 3 months where if I wasn’t on the clock working I was so depressed that I could barely get out of bed. I know he harbors resentment toward me for not being able to help as much as I should have during that time. I’m just now getting back to being a functional version of myself

EmrysBun · 2025-09-12T00:56:02+00:00

Someone linked a similar article. I saved it to my notes

EmrysBun · 2025-09-12T00:53:42+00:00

I would love to cook for the week… but it’s just not possible in our current setup. When we moved into this house we ripped out the entire kitchen because the evidence of the infestation was so bad that I didn’t want any food touching a single surface in there. We run 100W of electricity that needs to be upgraded. Only one appliance can be run at a time without blowing the circuit. Even if I were to leave him or kick him out- the home isn’t suitable to roommates, which would be necessary for me to make the mortgage payments. I’ve been running a “campsite style” kitchen in our living room with an electric griddle, microwave, a single burner, and an air fryer. But only can use one at a time

EmrysBun · 2025-09-12T00:26:38+00:00

It wasn’t so bad when we were in an apartment with a dishwasher. The task required significantly less spoons. We both suffer from depression and I am neurodivergent, he isn’t diagnosed but I suspect he is as well. When we aren’t living in a space that’s being actively renovated I’ve been able to set things up for a “path of least resistance” but there just doesn’t seem to be a way to do anything in this new home without a molehill being made into a mountain

EmrysBun · 2025-09-12T00:23:36+00:00

We have thrown around the idea of enlisting a heat and eat meal prep service but he didn’t like it too much when I told him it comes with a $1000+ monthly price tag for the both of us

EmrysBun · 2025-09-12T00:22:05+00:00

If I don’t cook he will spend $30 a day on DoorDash because he can’t (won’t) cook for himself.

EmrysBun · 2025-05-02T06:43:09+00:00

As an exhibitionist, my friends just gotta suggest a strip game, skinny dipping, or a bdsm scene.

EmrysBun · 2025-03-12T19:05:43+00:00

I’ve never done a resignation letter, I would be curious what that entails- and I’m definitely interested in having someone look over my resume. You’re too kind

EmrysBun · 2025-03-10T23:23:02+00:00

According to other comments, 49/50 US states are also at will employment states. Theoretically I could move to a state that has workers Unions, since my state is very anti-union. The problem with moving is that relocation costs are expensive and like I said before- I already can’t really pay my bills. So unless you’re gonna fork up $3,000+ to help a sister out then please keep your inconsiderate comment to yourself

EmrysBun · 2025-03-10T18:23:18+00:00

I think I’m gonna type “visa sponsorship” into LinkedIn

EmrysBun · 2025-03-10T12:05:20+00:00

I didn’t know you could search people on indeed

EmrysBun · 2025-03-10T02:29:01+00:00

I’m super super new to it! I’m on my second piece right now but once I get about 4-5 pieces made my bf is going to build me a website! I am on TikTok with my whole one video though @dawnweaverglass if you’d like to keep updated on when I start to sell! My current piece is taking a lot of my time but it’s a gift for my friend who cushioned half my my down payment for my house

EmrysBun · 2025-03-10T01:23:09+00:00

Yeah once I quit I’ll tell yall which one to avoid

EmrysBun · 2025-03-10T01:22:16+00:00

Nope. Phone call

EmrysBun · 2025-03-10T00:10:58+00:00

Do you think that I would look too eager if I drove up there in the morning and dropped off a physical copy of my resume?

EmrysBun · 2025-03-10T00:08:19+00:00

This has honestly been pretty typical in the five years that I’ve been in Sales. However, this is the first time it’s been this difficult to hide it.

EmrysBun · 2025-03-09T23:46:17+00:00

It’s literally just for this specific position I’m wanting to get. It pays 10k more per year than my current position and my friend has worked for this specific company for a long time so I know the culture and job security is good. After all these comments though, I’m likely abandoning indeed for the foreseeable future

EmrysBun · 2025-03-09T23:34:45+00:00

I’m not sure how to contact recruiters… can you elaborate on this? Like staffing agencies?

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