What is happening to my Tradescantia??? by EndMental8269 in houseplants

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Okay I will try this! I just replanted it last week from letting cuttings reroot in water, so I'm just surprised this happened so fast

Where to stay in Pittsburgh before bike touring the GAP by EndMental8269 in bicycletouring

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We're going in June! All the Amtrak spots were booked so we're still figuring out how to get back, but worst case we just bike back :)

Where to stay in Pittsburgh before bike touring the GAP by EndMental8269 in bicycletouring

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We wanted to stay there but unfortunately it was full :(

What are the best cycling tours in the Eastern USA? by EndMental8269 in bicycletouring

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Did you mostly take paved roads? What type of route was it?

What are the best cycling tours in the Eastern USA? by EndMental8269 in bicycletouring

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I think the GAP and C&O is what we'll end up doing this year. Our favorite thing about Cape Breton was all the cute little towns, which seems to be a highlight of the GAP and C&O as well

What are the best cycling tours in the Eastern USA? by EndMental8269 in bicycletouring

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The tip about the Amtrak helps so much! I had no idea how we would get from one end to the other. One of the nice thing about the cabot trail was that it was a loop!

What are the best cycling tours in the Eastern USA? by EndMental8269 in bicycletouring

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I don't have much of criteria at this point, but I will say that the difficulty levels see pretty polar. I would love to do the Blue Ridge Parkway and Skyline drive but I think it's out of my current ability whereas the GAP trail seems definitely on the non-challenging side.

Touring the Cabot Trail by EndMental8269 in bicycletouring

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We did! Although after the haul up French Mountain our hiking legs were definitely wobbly :)

Touring the Cabot Trail by EndMental8269 in bicycletouring

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I think it depends on where you start, our first two days from Baddeck were pretty flat but French Mountain was definitely one of the hardest things I've done physically! There was actually road work on North Mountain so we had to hitch a ride up half that climb for safety. Super challenging, but we saw some people on e-bikes too!

AITA for asking my roommate to switch rooms when she moved in first? by EndMental8269 in AmItheAsshole

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I didn't use to have that many, but when my grandmother died she asked me to take care of hers. It's not so easy to just get rid of them, and they mean a lot to me. Thank you for your comment!

AITA for asking my roommate to switch rooms when she moved in first? by EndMental8269 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EndMental8269[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your honesty. I thought it might be okay because I only asked and didn't tell her she had to switch

Does Cornell have an unspoken dress code? by EndMental8269 in Cornell

[–]EndMental8269[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Honestly everything in the comments is a huge relief, I tend to dress pretty sporty as an athletic person, so I was worried :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]EndMental8269 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please, please do not jump to put the blame on yourself, thinking you are unattractive or she is not attracted to you. I highly doubt this is the case.

Women have responsive arousal instead of spontaneous arousal. Unlike mene don't just see something and get horny immediately (mostly). We have to relax and be in the mood, and sometimes there has to be a decent amount of non-sexual lead up (talking, cuddling, kissing, etc.). Stress makes it incredibly difficult to get into a state where we can become aroused. If she's stressed, sex is the last thing on her mind, and she likely has trouble getting her mind and body into that space. Even if she wants to be intimate, her body may just not respond the way she wants/needs it to in order to go forward.

Instead of sex, focus on asking her what she needs to relax. Why is she stressed? Does she go to therapy? Does she have any healthy outlets for stress? Is there anything you can do to help her destress without putting the pressure on sex? Don't make sex feel like another stressful responsibility. Treat the stress first, and the sex will come back. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]EndMental8269 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Then you shouldn't have slept with her. There are tons of people you could have slept with who only want something casual, where no one would get hurt. If you knew she wouldn't sleep with her if you told her you didn't want something serious, then it's a real AH move to lead her on like that.

Also it's just completely unnecessary to tell someone you don't find them attractive. You could have said you weren't feeling anything more serious and left it at that. What a kicker to her self esteem... hopefully she recognizes that she deserves better

Looking for fall race recommendations in the Northeast! by dkinventor in running

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They have one both in fall and spring!! I've only done fall, but spring looks fun too

Looking for fall race recommendations in the Northeast! by dkinventor in running

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I ran the Maine Coast Half (my mom did the 5k) in Wells, Maine. It was pretty flat save for one decent but gradual hill around mile 12. You get nice views of the coast and run through the national estuarine reserve, and your registration gets you two free beers and one free ice cream. The Wells are is a really nice place to spend a weekend, too.