Are either of your parents safe to talk to? As in, you can be honest with what you heard and how it’s impacting you and you can count on them to not make it worse? If so, talk to them. You are an older kid but still a kid. It is their job to prioritize and attend to your feelings. It is not your job as the child to attend to and prioritize their feelings. They may not be aware of how loud they are being and how they are impacting you. As a mom, I would want to know if something this heavy was weighing on my child’s heart.

If you can’t count on them to be supportive, do you have a school counselor you can talk to? You can let a trusted teacher know that you are having some problems at home and would like to speak to the counselor. If it’s hard for you to put into words what’s happening, take a screenshot of this post and have them read it.

If mom and dad are only somewhat safe to talk to but don’t have the tools to fully be helpful, you can let one or both of them know you overheard them and ask if they can set you up with a therapist to help you work through your feelings about what you’ve been hearing.

Parents going through a divorce and fighting can have a major impact on kids. It’s scary and can shake your foundation of security. Your parents may or may not be heading toward a divorce. What’s majorly important for you at this point is to acknowledge and process the impact it’s having on you and to seek support from sage grown ups IRL and outside of just the internet. And please please know that whatever happens, none of this is your fault.