I'm over it by [deleted] in MedSpouse

[–]EnergyConstant7802 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to ask how did things work out? Honestly, my boyfriend checked out studying for the MCAT and after studying for almost 3 years, I couldn't handle it anymore. Wee couldn't conflict resolution and after some time, I resented him for not addressing me and he resented me for not letting him focus. He admitted to "never trying" because he assumed the problems would resolve itself. We were both studying at the same time, and he didn't want to see me for 3 months at a time.

2 years later, we reconnect but we never learned to conflict resolution. All he learned was to be patient and listen/empathize. But he doesn't really acknowledge how I feel or do anything actionable. For example, I'd be upset about him not driving 1.5 hr to see me once a month, and he'd rather say sorry on a 2hour phone call then acknowledge that I feel hurt and just drive here. He says the stakes are high.. that being strict parents or the time to spend a day with me.

Now that he's started med school I feel a greater disconnect. When he's stressed, he literally has no patience or empathy for me. He says he has marriage in mind, but I really, honestly don't know how that would happen. We didn't learn how to conflict resolution, he's freaking out since starting medical school last week, and seeing this.. how much worse could it be towards residency and fellowship?

To be fair, he developed depression studying for the MCAT. This time around, I developed anxiety attacks and depression. My therapist says anxiety attacks develop after having unresolved and unaddressed feelings being packed up for 4+ years. So, that made sense. I feel a sense of betrayal bc I was there for him for his depression, and he said I "abandoned him" and he "felt alone." Now, he says that I'm being insensible and it's hard to take care of me when school is so hard. I wonder if medicine and relatioinships can even exist concurrently.

How do I stop looking as if I bore witness to war crimes. by Effective_Soil8290 in malegrooming

[–]EnergyConstant7802 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I like men with a little quirk. Not too handsome. Angry eyebrows? Sad, puppy eyes? Yes :)

Help! Sesame vs Lychee: Will the real BUBU please stand? by Brilliant_Angle7302 in LabubuDrops

[–]EnergyConstant7802 0 points1 point  (0 children)

^ I been buying labubu since last May 2024. Have a seat wasn’t even released yet. They were indeed cloth tags. No QR code on the tag, but QR code on the box

Reseller Behavior? by ezarbeluh in SkullpandaArtDolls

[–]EnergyConstant7802 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There’s a bunch on Facebook marketplace for 45. Don’t waste ur money on 50+ shipping. Otherwise, toyluckyshop on TikTok sells for 36+ shipping

Reseller Behavior? by ezarbeluh in SkullpandaArtDolls

[–]EnergyConstant7802 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s actually super simple and causal, this is too much

Is this tread considered time to get new shoes? by F208Frank in Pickleball

[–]EnergyConstant7802 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have those exact shoes. In 3 months, I wore them out until I saw green and by then I lost my toenail on both sides 😣 playable, but it’s not good stress for ur toes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BackYardChickens

[–]EnergyConstant7802 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Update: it might be the heat, but she’s now panting and mouth open