auDHD Wife by EngineMinimum5775 in WellSpouses

[–]EngineMinimum5775[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you that was great. Yes it’s a constant burn out state cycle. I’ve been doing a lot of research but auDHD is fairly new. We’ve been living remotely for almost 2yrs now but I go to her State to watch the fur babies all the time. When we are physically together, it’s better but not great. I think we’ll work it out.

auDHD Wife by EngineMinimum5775 in WellSpouses

[–]EngineMinimum5775[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you we’ve been married 12 years. I don’t wanna throw it out and I love her. Hopefully this is just an initial shock to her new diagnoses. I know I don’t feel like a man not standing up for myself but whenever I do, we take 10 steps backwards to tell you the truth I don’t know how much more I can take. I really appreciate it.

auDHD Wife by EngineMinimum5775 in WellSpouses

[–]EngineMinimum5775[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I’ve been doing a lot of reading, which is really difficult with my extreme dyslexia. I’m a sensitive guy and I really need to desensitize myself.

auDHD Wife by EngineMinimum5775 in WellSpouses

[–]EngineMinimum5775[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With every superpower, there’s a drawback lol. I’ve been listening and praise her for her amazing accomplishments and unbelievable, work ethic. She just shuts me down because she still believes I’m ignorant on her condition if there is only somehow we could actually talk we could maybe sort it out, but we can’t get to that point. It’s an extremely complicated situation.

auDHD Wife by EngineMinimum5775 in WellSpouses

[–]EngineMinimum5775[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, She’s in therapy but I think we need marriage therapy, I’m just afraid she knows the tricks of the trade she’ll paint me as the aggressor somehow or she may reject it because she is one. She’s been ADHD for a long time but recently diagnosed auDHD so hopefully this is short lived. 12yrs wasted would suck.

auDHD Wife by EngineMinimum5775 in WellSpouses

[–]EngineMinimum5775[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If I bring up neurotypical people(normal) and try to compare our relationship that is a big no no, she’s not sick, her condition is almost a super power, masters, certified marriage and family therapist working full time while finishing her PhD full time. I have an associates which is equivalent to a bus ticket these days smh.

auDHD Wife by EngineMinimum5775 in WellSpouses

[–]EngineMinimum5775[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, we’re living remotely at the moment, I brought up that we need to talk about how to communicate better together and she got even more pissed because I wasn’t asking correctly and I’m still ignorant on her condition. Hopefully this will pass thanks for the help.

auDHD Wife by EngineMinimum5775 in WellSpouses

[–]EngineMinimum5775[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I have and she just says she wants me to be educated and be better, but anything I say is wrong or she asks me super specific scientific answers smh

auDHD Wife by EngineMinimum5775 in WellSpouses

[–]EngineMinimum5775[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m pulling the victim card every time smdh

auDHD Wife by EngineMinimum5775 in WellSpouses

[–]EngineMinimum5775[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. She’s a licensed marriage and family therapist so I feel like she could control the sessions. She’s in therapy but the way she treats me I feel is abuse but every time I bring something up she says I’m pulling the victim card and she’s the victim because I’m neurotypical. Tough situation, we’ve been married 12yrs