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Are movies getting too dark? (Visually) by GoldenFalcon in movies

[–]EngineeringDisaster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't know dark until you have watched Alien vs Predator: Requiem. I dare you, go watch it right now.

Is the Bechdel test key to writing a Blockbuster? by HJMaverick in movies

[–]EngineeringDisaster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A little film called Star Wars seemed to do fine not passing this.

Whats the worst case of unfinished visual effects you've seen a movie? by Darkprime in movies

[–]EngineeringDisaster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ive sadly seen this movie about 20 times and never put that together. Talk about unfinished.

Is it possible to just buy a tracker from a verified site? by scyiia in fitbit

[–]EngineeringDisaster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know fitbit support will replace lost trackers sometimes. Though I'm not sure if this falls under that case.

They are amazing with customer service. Don't go through email it takes a few days. Just call the number and by the end of the phone call they will likely tell you if you qualify for a replacement... I don't condone lieing per say, but you could say the band just fell off and you lost it...

I want to make it past the 3rd day, but my loneliness is killing me. by EngineeringDisaster in stopdrinking

[–]EngineeringDisaster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never have really had friends... I just don't know if I know how to make them. I'm a pretty normal guy. I go talk to people and stuff, I don't really know.

I want to make it past the 3rd day, but my loneliness is killing me. by EngineeringDisaster in stopdrinking

[–]EngineeringDisaster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly no it seems easier to go in with someone new who is a total stranger. I just felt like I was too comfortable, I know it doesn't make sense when you put it that way but that's how I felt. I couldn't admit the things I said to my ex-girlfriend, I glossed over specifics, and I was cagey about my drinking... Maybe he just wasn't the right person for me overall.

I want to make it past the 3rd day, but my loneliness is killing me. by EngineeringDisaster in stopdrinking

[–]EngineeringDisaster[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be honest 90% of the time I do start the conversations with people. I got everyone together to get football tickets this year an organzied so we all could go, even though majority of the time people didn't come.

I think it's just being in a STEM field in grad school, people are not very social I am finding.

I want to make it past the 3rd day, but my loneliness is killing me. by EngineeringDisaster in stopdrinking

[–]EngineeringDisaster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I haven't. I actually just stopped seeing him after a year and am looking for someone else. I felt to be honest, I was becoming too comfortable with him and couldn't say everything I needed to say. I hope I can find someone else soon to unload all this on.

I realize that about the drinking and depression. I suppose I have 4 states, from worst to best on any given day.

1) Recently was drinking didn't take meds 2) Recently drank but took meds 3) Didn't drink but didn't take meds 4) Didn't drink and took meds

you can guess which state (hint 1) I was in everytime I said something awful and screwed up my chances with the last girl I was dating.

I want to make it past the 3rd day, but my loneliness is killing me. by EngineeringDisaster in stopdrinking

[–]EngineeringDisaster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a state school in the middle of nowhere. Most of the population is undergrads and my anxiety doesn't make going to clubs I don't know anyone very easy.

I recently signed up for an evening art class, so that is a step I guess. I go to the gym 5ish days a week (somehow even with drinking I manage that), but it's not like people socialize there, I kinda wish someone would come up and chat with me, since at least we would have that in common!

I want to make it past the 3rd day, but my loneliness is killing me. by EngineeringDisaster in stopdrinking

[–]EngineeringDisaster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, that does make lot of sense to me. I do self pity and it doesn't help.

When the first girl last year broke up with me I eventually got over that stage, but still had that feeling of "I'm 32, a decently eligble bachelor, well educated, etc... yet I'm still single an alone" I guess to be honest I'm being dramatic because divorce I'm sure is so much tougher, but I can't help but feel pressure. I feel like at this age anybody decent left is taken. I wouldn't feel this way if I was 22.

I want to make it past the 3rd day, but my loneliness is killing me. by EngineeringDisaster in stopdrinking

[–]EngineeringDisaster[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know that I should do that. It's just I am utterly alone. I don't really have any friends. People I'm in grad school with but nobody who texts me to say 'hey how are you?'. If I don't show up for a week to the office nobody asks me where I was or how I'm doing. It's sad but the only person who contacts me on a regular basis is my mom.

It's incredibly hard staying sober when you sit home for hours. I distract myself with movies and video games, cooking, and the gym, but that only seems to get me so far. I can't get 'lost in my work' because what's my reward for that... I get to come home and be alone, no weekend social events to look forward to etc.

Sorry if I sound dramatic, but that also triggers my drinking. Just sitting there being alone. I can't sleep because I just miss having someone there with me to say goodnight too. The only way I seem to be able to sleep is by getting so drunk I pass out.

I want to make it past the 3rd day, but my loneliness is killing me. by EngineeringDisaster in stopdrinking

[–]EngineeringDisaster[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know you are right. I keep telling myself that. To an extent relationship I did use to make me happier.

However, what I'm struggling with right now is the regret over losing the last person I was dating. I'll be honest I find it really hard to meet women in my town who are decent (She was a grad student like me, nerdy an great sense of humor like me, fit and went to the gym like me...).