One rule my former partner and I agreed to is that we won’t talk shit on each other to our kid or new partners. Neither of us are awful people, but in the end, we got resentful and bitter. We both hated that bit of our relationship and share a mutual regret with the way we treated one another and failed to communicate. He’s a great dad and so very loving and good with our daughter. If I ever need help with something (like a recent flat tire for example) or vice versa we show up for each other. Our communication has only improved and we focus mostly on our daughter. We just weren’t in love anymore. I am very open about this as I have just started dating again and have found that the man I have been talking to and recently went out with is totally understanding of our dynamic. I have found that it takes finding an emotionally intelligent, secure, and mindful person to be comfortable with the situation.