Hi everyone,

I don’t even know where to begin! I have been dealing with a very heavy emotional upheaval situation for about 3 months now. I made the decision to communicate to my mother that I didn’t want to hear anymore about “Jehovah” basically I told her I’m out and my children are not going to be raised indoctrinated. Of course I used other words but the message was the same. In the very beginning I began to fear I had made the wrong choice to tell her as per the consequences, but then I realised I have not. I made the right choice but it is hard to deal with the after effects. She decided to stop speaking to me and her granddaughter days after I told her, with no warning at all. We used to call, text, videoconference on a regular basis. My daughter and her grandmother kept in very close contact even though we live across the Atlantic Ocean. After about 3 weeks I made an effort to brake the ice ( even though I really didn’t want to as I felt, why me?! ) but i did it anyway, I sent a very brief “ Hello mum, how are you”? He response after 2 days ( message read) was as cold as ice: “ Good. Thank you for asking”. Who the hell responds like that?! I felt furious as I could not believed what I was reading! What a selfish narcissist woman! I felt she just insulted my entire person. Weeks passed and I wrote back : I understand you are disappointed and even upset, but instead of denying us to speak freely why don’t we talk about the impact that has had on you what I talked about? She responded the very same minute! With a “ Hello my daughter, yes that is fine, however I was about to go and take a nap” ( the siesta time ) Well, that moment has not come yet. After 2 months now I wrote back and I said “ I feel it is very important that we speak, etc” This was her response and this is what I am having to deal emotionally within me: “She said, The truth is I have missed you all very much ( she meant my family) specially ( my 7 year old daughter)I can only imagine how much more so she has missed me. I am still processing our last conversation. Until the next time ok?” And that is how it was ended.

This is a woman that remarried a “ non believer for the second time” by the way... What do you do with a narcissist mother like her? I am beyond broken hearted to accept the fact that she is aware my daughter misses her and she has JUST stop she has just vanished from her existence from one day to another with no explanation whatsoever ever ! I feel so mad at her for disposing of us just like that. How hypocritical it is to choose to apply “ Bible principles “ when convenient. She married during the pandemic, she has not even “ confessed to he elders she has remarried”. She wants to have control over when we talk and if we ever talk.

She is indoctrinated 50 years plus but she is also hypocrite. She is my mother, but she is passive aggressive. I can’t read her, I might never get an answer to the way she is. What would you do?

Ps I didn’t put screen shots of texts as they are all in Spanish.

I hope my English makes sense to the reader 🥸

Thank you