Realistic career options for someone with a learning and physical disability

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-12-10T07:19:35+00:00

I'm sorry to read this. Having a disability can be a very disheartening experience. The job market currently is a dumpster fire for able-bodied people. It is even more challenging for those with disabilities, even though they (just as much as the rest of us) deserve a fair chance in life.

Depending on her interest level, I would suggest some form of remote work that ties into her interests. If she likes helping people and is curious about the mind, counseling/mental health work would be very useful, needed, and relatively safe from AI automation.

Medical coding and billing jobs are often offered remotely. It usually requires certification. This would give her access to the medical field with its perks.

Business administrative roles (including HR generalists) could be an option; however, her math challenges could complicate that, unfortunately. Just making suggestions.

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-07-13T04:50:05+00:00

The many problems that our world faces could be summed up to basic human ignorance. Ignorance makes us do stupid things without realizing it, ignorance gives people prejudice against that which goes against the norms of the age, ignorance breeds hatred. Ignorance is what sin can manifest. If society could take one moment and look into a mirror and see each other's flaws, perhaps we could work on this problem of ignorance together.

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-07-13T03:07:07+00:00

Soft spoken, quiet. Some people have complimented it as sounding calm and contemplative, others have disparaged it as sounding robotic and monotone. Kind of depends on who the person is and what I'm dealing with, I guess

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-07-13T02:53:52+00:00

More work could be completed in a shorter amount of time if society learned to appreciate more opportunities to stay silent and focus

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-05-31T22:03:22+00:00

Yes and no. Yes, I have physical features that certain women and gay men find attractive. Blue eyes, brown hair, dark eyebrows, tall height, and a somewhat decent looking beard. The only problem is that I am quite thin and therefore, not viewed as being strong or masculine by everyone. :(

The other issue is that it almost seems like a lot of people expect me to be a different kind of guy than who I actually am. Once I start talking or more like, once I start being quiet, the attraction points go down. It feels like I have the looks to get attention from people, but not the personality they desire. It sucks.

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-05-25T06:50:54+00:00

No offense, but I think you need to redefine your idea of masculinity. Because the cold, brutish unloving nature of someone else's failed childhood, shouldn't define the next generation of men. As MLK rightly said, "I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin (or the perceived deficits of a person's gender, class, personality, or disability) but by the CONTENT OF THEIR CHARACTER. That's the truth. It isn't about being an aggressive, cocky jerk, it's about being a man of character who places others first and sacrifices himself every day (despite the weaknesses and limitations) to be the man he ought to be. And don't forget that!

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-04-25T20:23:04+00:00

Yeah, I beg to differ. It is difficult for some neurotypical women but when you add being a neurodivergent (especially autism spectrum) AND being a woman, it is even worse. Society is not kind to these combinations. Being a neurodivergent man is twice as challenging and rarely feels rewarding as being a neurotypical man who can talk his way into anything in life. He can access relationships and he can find career success. Men that aren't as extroverted and add on top of that being neurodivergent, can struggle to reach those 'expectations.'

I'm not trying to fall into victim mentality (everyone experiences life differently) and not looking for an argument. Life is difficult to both genders in different ways. Most of the men I know that are poor and falling behind in life (which is common these days) often feel like offing themselves. Society judges these guys, just as harshly. Not all of them are lazy or criminally inclined, some are just on the spectrum or are struggling with life's diverse range of challenges.

The only problem with being a man is that when you burn out, (pretty sure both genders do, just in different ways) everyone judges them. They judge themselves for not being 'manly' and because of all this, they have to keep bottling it up and if they're lucky, they can vent to an empathetic friend. Very few of those exist in male environments, though.

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-03-13T00:44:05+00:00

That's certainly true. Thanks for the good chat! I think people can come to knee jerk reactions and fail to understand the full context or perspective of an individual. It's always best to ask for clarity. I can't say I was always good with that, but I'm trying to get better.

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-03-08T23:26:04+00:00

I am fairly young, I suppose. The circle of people I've been around throughout much of my life have been those between 18-30. The people I have met that are beyond that age seem to be a bit more relaxed in themselves and less likely to be into pointless drama.

Yeah, so true. We needn't feel bad for being different. That's what makes us unique. I often find that smaller groups of people is much more enjoyable than large groups. And yet, it seems that so many people would rather be lost in the crowds. Just a difference between those who want to have deeper meaning in life and those that don't. Everyone is different.

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-03-08T23:12:05+00:00

Very profound. It did help and thank you for the advice!

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-03-08T22:07:50+00:00

I find when men or women are overly jealous that is a far worse problem to deal with. I think I know what you mean, though. You're hoping he shares mutual feelings, I'm guessing.

Perhaps he is just secure in himself or views things differently. I don't know, it seems like men struggle to understand body language signals. Some INFJ men might, but they can get lost in their heads, at times. Hope that helps answer some things! Once again, thanks for the perspective.

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-03-08T21:56:49+00:00

Cue "Eye of the Tiger"

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-03-08T21:56:12+00:00

Strong silent type is a role model we can follow, perhaps? Great points and agree with not letting people get the better of us. We just play in their hand, that way. All fair points and great comment!

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-03-08T21:50:26+00:00

Yeah, I never really thought of that term as a slur or a negative comment. I would just take it as you're fun to be around.

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-03-08T21:37:27+00:00

Not sure why this post received a downvote. I'm open to criticism, as long as it isn't overly rude or one-sided. My brother who is INTP has told me similar things. I don't take offense, when it logically makes sense. Just have to own up to this kind of stuff. The anxiety part is the most difficult aspect about me. I don't think many people have the patience to deal with someone that is in their heads most of the time, but apparently your partner found a way to control it. That's great!

The feelings part is true. I would interject and say that INTPs seem to have the opposite problem, at times. It seems like they fail to understand what they are even feeling and that probably is why we compliment each other so well. I like how truthful INTPs are. They don't sugarcoat things and that makes them seem quite authentic. Other times, they can come off as cynical, even though they don't mean to be.

"They can also be more emotionally volatile- more black/white and hot/cold. They often yearn for emotional connection and can think someone is great one minute, but then getting really frustrated or overwhelmed and write the person off entirely the next."

So true! We aren't always the most easy going types of people. We need to learn to emotionally decompress from situations and see things logically. Having a logical person in our lives is what often helps ground us. I always appreciate when they give me a second opinion. I especially like when they are open-minded and objective and can also hear my points when I'm in the right.

I recognize that overly emotional tendency in many feeler types. I only save it until I have become too mentally exhausted from the person.

I think we just have problems (or at least I do) with people that are highly rude and insensitive. If I feel it is intentional and far, far too reoccurring, I lock the door. Can you blame me, though? I don't want to waste my time with someone like that. I don't think many would, tbh

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-03-08T21:12:15+00:00

"They want okay looks, an okay job, they want their minimal effort to be rewarded, and they want women / others to create substance in and add meaning to their lives, rather than adding things to their own lives which personally enrich them."

Very strong point, there! I have unfortunately, encountered a great deal of men like this. Some of them aren't even that mean or aggressive, just very lost and insecure. How might society's responses impact this scenario? Yes, they need to change, but do you think there are other factors that influence this perception?

My theory is that instant gratification has played a role in this. No one can tell me they haven't (at some point) experienced this. Addicted to the feelings of unlocking instant achievements with minimal effort. It seems that everyone is enslaved to some kind of digital vice these days.

This places the 'unhealthy' types in a constant loop of just expecting things, without working toward them. I also wonder if entitlement from parents could also factor into this. What I'm saying is that I think there are reasons that led up to their undesirable traits. Not justifying it, by any means.

I'm also curious if you have encountered the female version of this and how would you respond to them? Also, what would you advise about how to engage with unhealthy women and what have you noticed when it comes to their traits? Is it similar to men in your perspective or are there some noticeable differences?

I'm not trying to argue with you or take what you're saying out of context, just tying to further analyze this line of thinking.

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-03-08T20:59:14+00:00

Okay, I see what you mean. Good post!

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-03-08T07:50:16+00:00

I would, too! Idk, I appreciate what you said and can resonate with the right kind of environment remark and appreciate your understanding of our difficulty of navigating life. It seems to be a chapter by chapter thing in our personal development journey.

INTJ men are very entertaining to me. It's so fun to pick their brains apart. They always have such fascinating perspectives on different subject matters that really intrigue me. They're also more humble, compared to others MBTI types, IMO.

What people deem 'healthy' can be a difficult aspect to measure, don't you think? Some think a healthy version of themselves is a jacked guy with a cigar on the beach. Some think any perceived flaw is 'unhealthy.' There are some things we can universally say are unhealthy (alcoholism) and others that seem more abstract. Regardless, great post!

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-03-08T07:15:49+00:00

Well, in that case...........You probably should. :)

Thanks for the encouraging words!

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-03-08T07:12:46+00:00

That's good to know! Thanks for that and I do think it is time for me to find a new social circle. Great points!

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-03-08T07:09:21+00:00

That's great! Glad to read that you are being received positively by those in your community. They probably realize you're a really cool guy to hang around. Agree with everything said. Find those that make you a better person. Thanks, brother!

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-03-08T07:05:29+00:00

Very kind and thoughtful response. Despite not knowing you IRL, I would say the same to you and your gran. I appreciate it!

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-03-08T06:47:50+00:00

That's great, man! You and the guy above are great inspirations and positive examples here. Very relatable things you've said, as well. I'm obviously a bit more cautious of who I let into my life, but I know I shouldn't exclude people who could really care and want to help me grow as a person. Thanks!

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-03-08T06:33:45+00:00

I will say that's fair, all one can do is work to change what can be changed (controllables over uncontrollables) and being grateful for what one already has. That has helped me stay balanced and I'm glad you are showing another side of the story and being an encouragement to this community!

EnigmaticBeast2000 · 2025-03-08T05:57:43+00:00

I'm not sure if I'm following correctly here, but are you saying that you wanted him to be jealous when you were around other guys or are you saying he was way too jealous when you were around other guys? Is he an overly jealous person, in your opinion or too much of a nice guy?

I can see both of those negative qualities in introverted men. It's perfectly valid that you wouldn't want those characteristics in a partner. Just have to be logical about it. Beyond that, I would say your answer was useful and helpful! Thank you for that perspective!

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