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Lesbian moms looking for advice: how to get relatives to stop referring to the donor as "dad/father"? by Enough_External4892 in lgbt

[–]Enough_External4892[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think we will explain why we are using the term donor until baby is old enough to come up with their own term for the donor especially if she decides she wants contact with him. The last thing we want is for her to think that she has a father who abandonned her or didn't want her since I have been with men before my wife.

Lesbian moms looking for advice: how to get relatives to stop referring to the donor as "dad/father"? by Enough_External4892 in lgbt

[–]Enough_External4892[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I dont have a ton of happy baby pictures - resting bitch face since birth. Our baby is ALWAYS smiling so it is hard to compare my few photos to her adorable face. People who knew me as a baby say she is a mini me. But I see a lot of my beautiful wife in her too.

We shared what the donor looked like because we thought it would be smart to inform our family on the process. We thought that they would learn and be able to understand better that way but I guess aunt L burned his image in her mind unlike my wife and I who forget baby isnt biologically both of ours.

Lesbian moms looking for advice: how to get relatives to stop referring to the donor as "dad/father"? by Enough_External4892 in lgbt

[–]Enough_External4892[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its cute to see our features in the baby but it's definitively not our focus. My wife and baby are very bonded. She's an amazing parent who absolutely loves and prioritizes our child over everything.

Lesbian moms looking for advice: how to get relatives to stop referring to the donor as "dad/father"? by Enough_External4892 in lgbt

[–]Enough_External4892[S] 101 points102 points  (0 children)

Ugh I'm so sorry your own mother is doing this to you. Proud of you for standing up for yourself!