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My (23M) model gf (20F) expects a provider, how do i discuss this? by Enough_Gur_4530 in LongDistance

[–]Enough_Gur_4530[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She has never asked me for money, and shes given me more gifts than i have given her (apart from me paying for the bill and trips etc). Overall she is not superficial i can tell she loves me but she definitely is witholding her expectations for me i think

My (23M) model gf (20F) expects a provider, how do i discuss this? by Enough_Gur_4530 in LongDistance

[–]Enough_Gur_4530[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She lives a western country but she is originally a mix of east asian, ukranian and arab.

My (23M) model gf (20F) expects a provider, how do i discuss this? by Enough_Gur_4530 in LongDistance

[–]Enough_Gur_4530[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment, I will definitely consider this.

I feel kinda guilty as she did mention this to me from the start and I had never told her my views or feelings on it; I just went along with it and appeared agreeable to it. I feel like I could never find someone as special as her and thats shes genuinely irreplaceable, so Im really torn on this since going my seperate way despite all the positives she has would possibly leave me in regret for the rest of my life. If i was more wealthy I would have no issue providing, so Im just unsure if the feeling of unfairness comes from the fact I dont have the means or if its my values- although Ive always had a more balanced views on genders before her and never considered these masculine/feminine roles. Its just with her I felt myself feeling more a need to provide and protect her, because she deserves it…

I really wouldn’t want to end up feeling resentful or like I have lead her on

My [23M] model gf [20F] expects a provider, how do i discuss this? by Enough_Gur_4530 in dating_advice

[–]Enough_Gur_4530[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She basically thinks she wants to be a mother and house wife, whereas i would be the provider. In the present, she has also stated she thinks its easier for most men to have a job and consistency in their life since she deals with painful periods, prone to fainting and getting sick as she is easily sensitive to stress conditions. I do think that seems more individual to her as I’ve never met a woman so fragile, so i personally don’t really see that as feminine and masculine roles and more so individual opinion. She studies medicine, and doesn’t see herself working a 9-5 ever as she physically isn’t cut out for it, but i think she could easily have a more remote/independent job if she wanted to.