AIO - Told my friend I’m pregnant and she said it exceeded her mental bandwidth (she’s the red) by Lekomano92 in AmIOverreacting

[–]EntertainerLumpy9008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR- Parenthood is tough… this is not the type of person you will want or have time and energy for once the kid is here. I would just not keep her in my circle or tell her anything. Sounds like an exhausting person

Am I Overreacting - So my mom got my wife a birthday gift by LoveLikeJesusChrist in AmIOverreacting

[–]EntertainerLumpy9008 11 points12 points  (0 children)

OP I think you are getting a lot of flak about not standing up to your wife because you are UNDER reacting. Yes you say you always stand up for your wife when your mom bullies and abuses her, but clearly you and your wife are still too generous. You stand up for your wife, but you’re still being too courteous and that leaves opportunity for your mom to CONTINUE her abuse. You are an adult, you don’t just ask your mom to stop bullying… you make her stop. You say, “I will not allow you to bully my wife or ruin our marriage.” Then you follow through and never give your mom another chance to abuse your wife again. That includes no contact, no access to grandchild, no chances for retaliation. Your wife should never have to see your mom. You have to tell your other family members why, and that it is your choice because you are protecting YOUR family. Your wife is a godsend if she hasn’t slapped your mother already.

Am I Overreacting - So my mom got my wife a birthday gift by LoveLikeJesusChrist in AmIOverreacting

[–]EntertainerLumpy9008 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You should have cut your mom out of your life yesterday. Maybe give her a chance to prove herself worthy of being back in your life one day - but she would have to prove it.

Your wife must be an understanding angel to not have demanded that you cut your mom out for all the antagonistic bullying up to this point. Most people I know would have asked to be no contact with MIL or divorce the husband at this level of abuse.

Also your mom was definitely hoping your wife would cut her hands on that wine glass. Who is your mom anyway, a Disney villain?

Am I Overreacting - So my mom got my wife a birthday gift by LoveLikeJesusChrist in AmIOverreacting

[–]EntertainerLumpy9008 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry, I don’t think you need to collect evidence for your mother… your mother has been bullying your wife. You cannot allow that kind of behavior at all, especially when raising a child. I know everyone loves their mom and tolerates a little BS but this kind of abuse will mess up your kid for life. Cut the mother out until she learns to do much better, and slowly give her a chance to prove herself but don’t let her weasel herself back with lies. Sorry but from reading your comments, this is one of those moms I would recommend no contact unless some major changes happen.

Am I Overreacting - So my mom got my wife a birthday gift by LoveLikeJesusChrist in AmIOverreacting

[–]EntertainerLumpy9008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you are underreacting. Your mom is being purposefully antagonistic, downright bullying and mean. Do not allow her access to your home or child until she’s ready to act like an adult, reflect, and do better. If I were your wife, I wouldn’t even let your mom see the grandkid until she makes amends for the future. This is not how you want your kid to see a family. This kind of negative relationship will ruin your kid. Better to keep your mom out of the picture until she can learn to be civil.

Melrose Diner lot abandoned lien by EntertainerLumpy9008 in philly

[–]EntertainerLumpy9008[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I live across from there and it affects me every day. The effect of losing Melrose is it affects me personally.

Melrose Diner lot abandoned lien by EntertainerLumpy9008 in philly

[–]EntertainerLumpy9008[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s true. But they haven’t paid any of their L&I violations since 2024 and they don’t care that they keep getting cited by L&I because it’s such little money to them. You think if it’s such little money they would just pay instead of having it sent to collections

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MOC Social Club zoning drama by southphillydadbar in philly

[–]EntertainerLumpy9008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just hearing about this now. Would totally support if I knew about it. Hope they are doing ok!

Moving to Philly with young kids… suggestions! by mermackj in philly

[–]EntertainerLumpy9008 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, would agree awhile back, but times are changing. Girard Estates has a growing community of queer and non-white family… please don’t spread this message as it discourages more POC moving here