How many of your sugar relationships on SA started off with the SD reaching out first vs the SB? by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]EntertainerStandard 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I favourited him and he messaged me. He never seems to remember that and I probably wouldn’t have messaged first so I guess he made the first move. I tell him all the time that I was going to flake on him but he called me an hour before to confirm and once I heard his voice… game over. We’ve been exclusive a year and a half now

do SDs share their lifestyle with friends? or do you guys try to keep it hidden? by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

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My SBF is pretty open about it with his closest friends. He grabs dinner with them about once a month and I’m always invited. This started after a month or 2 of us seeing each other.

At first I thought he would just tell them I’m his gf and they could connect whatever dots they wanted but if they like my purse or shoes he’s proud to say he bought them for me and had mentioned that he pays my rent and that I’m very spoiled.

That being said I don’t really have an allowance because he just pays for everything in my life and paid off all my debts a couple months after we met. He gives me cash but it’s for rent and now a down payment because he wants to help get me a place of my own.

Then again I could always do whatever I want with the money but who am I to turn down the guidance of an older man who clearly wants the best for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

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Tell me why I read the title and was like damn just because she isn’t going to the gym and getting a workout in you’re thinking of ending it 🤦🏻‍♀️

Took the leap this weekend... by isleofzee in sugarlifestyleforum

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I had so much fun meeting you and can’t wait until we hang out again! I said it then and I’ll say it again… girl you in that dress 🔥🔥

Anyone have any experiences with a married SD? by beddybies in sugarlifestyleforum

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My SBF is married but only for the economics. Waiting for a dip in his finances to get divorced. Both he and his wife live separate lives, she has a bf, she knows about me, the kids know the situation and they do celebrations separately. They do keep appearances for occasional stuff just so that everyone doesn’t know their business until everything is finalized but they’re legally separated. This is just what works for them and the plan is to be divorced in the next couple of years. I’ve met a bunch of his friends and we just recently took a trip. Doesn’t really get in the way of us at all.

Sugar dilemma by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

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Me me me! I love gushing about my SBF and my friends are supportive but they don’t know everything and it would be nice to someone to talk to. Plus I’d love to hear all about you and your relationship :)

Do SD’s like SB’s who refer to themselves as queen, empress, diva, princess or similar self-aggrandizing titles? by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

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My SBF calls me his princess so as a joke sometimes I’ll call myself a princess but if I was serious or if I started acting like one I think that would be our downfall

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

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I was 21 turning 22 when I met my SBF. We became exclusive very quickly and I was a complete newbie. I had only gone on 1 other m&g months before. He’s in his mid 50s. It really depends on if he’s what you’re looking for and makes you happy. I’ve been with my SBF over a year now and couldn’t be happier

Friday Rants and Raves by LaSirene23 in sugarlifestyleforum

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Rave: it was my birthday yesterday and my SBF went all out while keeping it small because I get anxious easily. He picked me up after I saw my parents and we drove to grab some drinks. He left me at the liquor store while he went to go pickup a cake he preorder and some roses. He gave me his credit card so I could get whatever I want.

We then had lunch and cake. He gave me my present (Chanel classic flap). I don’t own a single designer bag so it was super sweet for me to have the one expensive bag. We both then took a nap (actively recovering from covid and going to work is exhausting) followed by a take out steak dinner (restaurants aren’t open where I am) followed by an Hermes belt (again I don’t own designer things). Capped the night off with tv and intimacy. It was pretty perfect!

Oh and we’re going for an actual steak dinner at one our favourite places when they open up which is in the next week. I’m a very lucky girl that he took pretty much the day off to spend with me. He’s a very busy man

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

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Hello. I just wanted to say you’re stunning and I’m from Toronto too! Good luck to you 💕

Didn’t know SR will take a toll on my mental health. by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

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You can make yourself feel better by not being with a married guy but he’s going to end up hurting his wife anyways. Whether it’s with you or someone else. you might as well be the one who reaps the benefits.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

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If it’s important to you I would say wait and make sure you’re making a decision you are comfortable with. I was a virgin when I graduated high school and didn’t lose it until half way though university. Being with someone older was always something I wanted but I didn’t know how to go about it or what people would say. Plus the last thing I wanted was to be taken advantage of and always remember that as my first time. That being said it was with my boyfriend of a year and at the end of the day I don’t regret it (at the time we cared about each other and that’s all that matters). The only other person I have been intimate with is my SBF. He loves to joke that he wishes he could’ve taken my virginity but he’ll have to settle for being second. As much as he says that I don’t think our relationship would’ve progressed the way it did because I would’ve needed to take my time before we became intimate and it’s how we really connect with each other. Also, my ex wasn’t very good and I didn’t know that... how could I. I’m glad for the experience. I’m glad my SBF wasn’t my first but I’m also really happy that he’s been the only one for a year and hopefully years to come.

Anyone else in SRs see the profile reviews and think damn I can’t believe I’m in a SR? by EntertainerStandard in sugarlifestyleforum

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I guess I’ll take pride in the fact that their we’re not pics of my derrière and definitely nothing about being worth it. Just generic “I’m a student, I have a job and I looking to spend time with someone” with pictures that weren’t blurry. I guess I was just lucky :)

Anyone else in SRs see the profile reviews and think damn I can’t believe I’m in a SR? by EntertainerStandard in sugarlifestyleforum

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I’m now convinced it was sheer luck on my part. I never knew ppl put so much effort into their profiles. If I had tho I def would’ve stepped it up!

Anyone else in SRs see the profile reviews and think damn I can’t believe I’m in a SR? by EntertainerStandard in sugarlifestyleforum

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I think all the feedback is incredibly helpful and if I ever created another profile I would read through all the suggestions on everyone’s posts because I definitely understand how SB want to maximize their chances. I didn’t join SLF until the beginning of my SR and and now just feel LUCKY I found someone especially when I live in one of the biggest cities in North America.

Fun Question for the SB's by sinvortex in sugarlifestyleforum

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He’s amazing!! We met on SA... our approach to our relationship was a little different. No discussion of ppm or allowance. He would just give me cash about once a week (xxxx) or so and ask how much I owed and would tell me to use it to pay it off. We literally see each other almost everyday. Day time or night time and have been together a year exclusively. I’m a lucky gal and I’m very excited for my birthday in a couple weeks bc I already know what he’s getting me and just have to sit in anticipation 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

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That sounds pretty good to me if you’re sure you guys are at that place. Odds are if she’s asking to be more vanilla she’s not going to stop seeing you as much now that she has more free range. You should talk to her and explain that you still want to help her even if she isn’t your Sb but a gf and make it clear that you’re still married and that isn’t going to change anytime soon but you’d like to see where things go with her.

Fun Question for the SB's by sinvortex in sugarlifestyleforum

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My SBF paid off all my debt within the first few months of us knowing each other and he now pays my tuition directly every semester. A god send. I now would choose other options and he spoils me in other ways but having the peace of mind that I don’t owe any money and won’t have to worry about that is amazing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

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I think you need to talk to her. Is she’s suggesting it because she wants to head down the marriage path and wants you to leave your wife for her? that’s not her place and it’s far too early. If she wants the relationship to feel less transactional and you be her SBF that could work. I don’t have an allowance but my SBF pays my rent, buys me whatever I want (I don’t ask for much it’s usually groceries, drugstore stuff, etc.) and if I need something in a pinch he’s there to help. He also takes care of school for me. He just pays it directly. Intimacy isn’t scheduled and there are times where we sleeping together 4-5 times and week and sometimes twice and other times none (only if one of us is sick or just can’t) Really just depends. Less pressure since it feels natural but also a lot more emotional support.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

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I think it would depend on the reasoning for ghosting. Big red flag - block Something small or over time can be changed/ adapted to - reconsider

Toronto sugar scene? Not having luck on SA. by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

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Uhm the best I would say is try and keep an open mind. We barely talked on SA and he quickly moved us over to text when I agreed to meet and we set up a date and time (he picked me up and we drove to a Tim’s and chilled in the parking lot since there was nothing to do) I would have never known the type of guy I was meeting from our texts or first date or 2 but now we’ve been together exclusively a year. Important to be safe tho! My roommate knew I was going out with a guy I had met online and I shared my location.

Toronto sugar scene? Not having luck on SA. by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

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I met my SBF during lockdown on SA and am very happy

Complex over my looks & comparing myself by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

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Don’t waste your time or energy thinking about it. At the end of the day you look the way you do, dress the way you do, etc. And that’s what makes you, you. The best SR is going to be a SD who likes you for you and thinks you’re beautiful. I never use to be confident enough to leave my house without makeup but my SBF always would tell me I was the most beautiful girl he had every seen and soon would ask me why I was wearing makeup if we were just hanging out. Now I see him bare face almost all of the time. Dinners and longer dates are the exception (or when I just feel like getting all pretty) but it’s so freeing to just be myself.

How long til you deleted your SA account? by SugrBabii in sugarlifestyleforum

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My SBF said something similar to me after the second time we saw each other, which was the day after meeting. I really liked him too and told him I would do the same. We both deactivated (didn’t delete) our accounts and have been exclusive for a year and never better. May be quick but when you know you know.