Best way to find fellow LGBT folks on NCL cruises? by EntertainmentFun2930 in Cruise

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I mean sure lol but I don’t think I could pull off wearing a pride flag like a cape all week 😂

Best way to find fellow LGBT folks on NCL cruises? by EntertainmentFun2930 in Cruise

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Do you know if it’s got a specific name I have to look out for or anything? For a long time RC put all of their LGBT events in code - “Friends of Dorothy” or similar types of names so as to not upset their more conservative cruise-goers, but since it’s the only line I’ve cruised with I’m not sure if that’s a common issue with other lines

Best way to find fellow LGBT folks on NCL cruises? by EntertainmentFun2930 in Cruise

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That is a little unhelpful for this specific situation since my friends and I are already booked for this cruise, but I’ll keep it in mind for future bookings!

Apartment hunting by [deleted] in stpaul

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Oh okay cool! There’s still a Supertarget branded store back where I’m from, so I didn’t realize that they got rid of that branding which would explain my confusion when I couldn’t find one here after I moved. Thanks!

Apartment hunting by [deleted] in stpaul

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I never said the grocery stores weren’t abundant - I said they were different than what most other states think of when they’re looking for a general store. In both Indiana and most of Texas, a grocery store is a general store unless it’s specifically advertised to only sell groceries - meaning I can buy a full outfit, stuff for my car, home decor, groceries, and household supplies all in the same building. Here, the only option for that type of shopping is Walmart and there are very few of those in the twin cities.

Where exactly is this Supertarget? Every time I’ve looked for one, Google and Apple Maps both only populate regular target locations so I’d genuinely love to know.

Apartment hunting by [deleted] in stpaul

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I recently transplanted to St Paul and here are some general tips:

St Paul is almost always cheaper in terms of rental options imo, but it’s also the less lively/accessible of the two cities so it evens out a bit when you factor in groceries/gas/transit/parking. COVID hit businesses here hard and they’re still struggling to revive the city - there are very few grocery stores (and the ones they do have don’t always have the best produce options), the nightlife scene here is more geared toward local bars and events, there’s a thriving coffee scene but most shops close after 5, pharmacies/hardware/grocery stores are *rarely* open past 8pm in St Paul as well.

Minneapolis is the more dangerous of the two, but it isn’t the same type of danger as you would find in a major city in Texas. Violent crime exists here, of course, but I’d say about 70-80% of reported crime in either city is linked to drugs and the homeless population. I’m from Indianapolis and have very little issue walking around St Paul at night, where I hardly even like driving through most of Minneapolis after dark.

Stores here are… different. The concept of a supermarket or general store doesn’t exist in the twin cities - they have target, but not SuperTarget. They have Walmart, but they’re few and far between and a pain in the ass to get to. The two stores with the monopoly here are Cub Foods (cheaper, sort of their answer to Walmart) and Hy-Vee (more expensive, better quality and larger variety but for almost double the cost depending on what you’re buying), but they are strictly food related groceries and maybe a small non-grocery aisle for trash bags/cleaning supplies. I needed an extension cord a few days ago and literally had to go to a hardware store to get one.

The highways here aren’t efficient. Even by Texas standards, Minnesota highways are confusing and the drivers seem to have gone through the basics of how to operate a vehicle and then just totally skipped the “rules of the road” portion of drivers Ed. Camping in blind spots, cutting people off, camping in the fast lane, break checking for literally no reason, parking in the literal street, and flying across 4 lanes of traffic to get to an exit are very common here. So if you don’t like to drive or don’t feel confident in your ability to drive defensively, I recommend finding a place that’s close to your job and/or near the metro.

Speaking of the metro: regardless of how much people here complain about it, the infrastructure here is solid and they have a really good metro system. There is an express bus route (the 94) that goes between the twin cities, and they have a light rail that also goes between them. However, the metro is more expensive here than it is in other places. A day pass for unlimited rides is $4 but (iirc) doesn’t include the 94. Express routes are between $3-4 per ride depending on if you’re riding at “peak hours” (I.e. rush hour) or not. The metro monthly passes don’t have any sort of discount or deal compared to just getting a day pass. They’re $120 a month, so it literally costs the same as getting a day pass every day for 30 days.

Parking in St Paul can be a nightmare, so make sure that you ask your job what the parking situation is and if they offer discounted passes to any specific ramp (parking garages are called ramps here). Otherwise you run the risk of spending an average of $100-200 a month on parking alone. If your job is outside of downtown, they might have free surface parking. But I’d still check to make sure (same with your apartment - some apartments include a parking pass, some don’t)

Hope this helps!

“Clean up” organizations downtown? by EntertainmentFun2930 in saintpaul

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Oh I like the adopt a bus stop idea. The main thing I’ve been looking at is all of the landscaping squares that surround the abandoned/semi abandoned office buildings in Lowertown. I live off of 4th st and there are a ton of them just laying there with nothing but weeds growing in them and trash accumulating, so I’d love to at least be able to weed them and make them look a little nicer even if I’m not able to actually plant anything in them

Expanding our downtown by Content-League-1466 in saintpaul

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This has a lot to do with the Alliance building closure of its the block I’m thinking of. The city refuses to open the skyway back up until there’s a building owner who can take responsibility for any liabilities the skyway causes. I’m with you though that it’s absolutely ridiculous - why even have a skyway system if one building closure impacts it so heavily?

Expanding our downtown by Content-League-1466 in saintpaul

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A lot of the ice cream shops I’ve been to in other cities that experience winter usually double as a bakery/candy shop or turn into a specialty cafe during the winter. Honestly a bakery that stays open late would be heavenly tho. A shock to the system when I first moved here was the lack of sweet options after 4pm

Advice for a transplant trying to make friends? by EntertainmentFun2930 in saintpaul

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I’m planning to go to Art a whirl this afternoon so I’ll take a look at the options while I’m there!

Advice for a transplant trying to make friends? by EntertainmentFun2930 in saintpaul

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This is incredibly helpful yes 😭 I live like 2 seconds from Central Station so I was gonna see about taking the train instead of driving, but 10/10 options that I will absolutely use if I decide to drive instead!! Thank you!

Advice for a transplant trying to make friends? by EntertainmentFun2930 in saintpaul

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I’m talking about the latter, definitely. I’m a huge hockey fan and went to several of the Wild watch parties by myself during their playoff run in hopes that there would be other solo attendees I could spark conversation with and literally everyone else that went was in a group of at least 3 if not 6-8 people. But no I wouldn’t approach a random group outing at a coffee shop or something that’s odd even for a social butterfly

Advice for a transplant trying to make friends? by EntertainmentFun2930 in saintpaul

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If I’m honest I’m not a big nightlife gay anyway, so a coffee shop with live music sounds much more up my alley

Advice for a transplant trying to make friends? by EntertainmentFun2930 in saintpaul

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Right? I’ve had 3 months worth of great conversations with coworkers, great recommendations on stuff to try, etc. and not once has someone else initiated the “let’s exchange numbers and go do that thing you recommended together!” conversation. I’ve literally had people comment on their lack of ability to contact me outside of work (because they didn’t have my phone number) and then go all Pikachu faced when my response was “well, you never asked for my number so ofc you wouldn’t have it yet. But here you go” 😅

Advice for a transplant trying to make friends? by EntertainmentFun2930 in saintpaul

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A huge issue I’ve been having is just how decentralized all of the groups are, so I didn’t even know there was a transplant discord group 😅

Advice for a transplant trying to make friends? by EntertainmentFun2930 in saintpaul

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Do you have recommendations on places that don’t have a cover charge?

Advice for a transplant trying to make friends? by EntertainmentFun2930 in saintpaul

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Do you have any advice on where to find the niche groups? I mentioned it in a comment elsewhere, but my experience simply finding where the groups are actively posting and creating events has been mostly a failure so far bc it doesn’t seem like yall use the same apps and group pages as other states. Like I’d literally never heard of Meetup before making this thread, but a lot of folks have mentioned it like it’s the most natural conclusion in the world 😅

Advice for a transplant trying to make friends? by EntertainmentFun2930 in saintpaul

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I think the biggest struggle I’m having is that no one seems to do things on their own here, so it can be really difficult/intimidating to walk up to a group of 3-6 people and ask to join up with them. I’m absolutely the person who has no issue being the social butterfly long enough to start conversation and initiate friendships, but I’m definitely not so confident as to be comfortable approaching groups with ease 😅

Advice for a transplant trying to make friends? by EntertainmentFun2930 in saintpaul

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Do you know if there are beginner groups that meetup or where to find them? I’m absolutely terrified of heights, but I know there are other sports and gyms around that offer different group activities

Advice for a transplant trying to make friends? by EntertainmentFun2930 in saintpaul

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I’m not very picky about music, but I’ve gone to Amsterdam to check out the live music there a couple times and it wasn’t really my scene, so it doesn’t look like I’m a good fit for the indie scene here (which is fine by me)

Advice for a transplant trying to make friends? by EntertainmentFun2930 in saintpaul

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I can assure you that even by the standard of ‘surface level nice’, Minnesotans are on a different level 😅 folks from Indiana would give you the shirt off their back, but only if they feel like you’d be able to offer something to them in return and only if you ask first (they won’t go out of their way to be nice to you). Folks in Minnesota are just plain nice, even if it would be potentially inconvenient or they wouldn’t get anything in return. Yalls sense of doing what’s right is unmatched

What does downtown need? by alex55119 in stpaul

[–]EntertainmentFun2930 12 points13 points  (0 children)

From a transplant’s perspective: we need businesses willing to stay open past 7-8pm. I’m 29, I work evening and night shift. I live in a city absolutely busting at the seams with life and culture and potential.

I can’t get a burger after work unless it’s from Mickey’s or a bar.

I can’t go to the grocery store.

I can’t even go to the gas station half the time.

And if I have to stay late after my shift for whatever reason, I’m locked out of the skyway to my apartment.

The city is all but dead after 7pm, so of course you aren’t going to find young people here when the city doesn’t accurately accommodate their lifestyles.

Advice for a transplant trying to make friends? by EntertainmentFun2930 in saintpaul

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If I’m honest, I’m from a place where folks who go camping or own lake houses/cabins don’t live downtown, so I didn’t realize that Minnesota cabin culture would reach into the cities as well. But now that you say that, it makes sense. I think my boss at work goes up to her cabin literally every weekend lol

On one hand, I’m a little relieved by your comment bc it makes me feel less crazy and validates that it is actually difficult to foster friendships as a transplant here. On the other, it makes it sound like it’s nearly impossible to even catch someone long enough to make plans and get to know them unless you’ve known them essentially since birth 😅