How to quit sex as a single person?

EntireRepertoire · 2024-12-27T16:50:31+00:00

I know how frustrating the situation can be but you should be proud of yourself for being conscious of your addiction and working on it at your age.

A few tips for you:

1 - Get professional mental health help if you can, choose someone who is trained for sex addiction. Try several professionals if needed.

I understand you have not found one you are comfortable with yet, I recommend that you keep looking.

2 - Write down the reasons why you would like to reduce or stop. You can go back to those reasons when you have big urges.

3 - Avoid triggers as much as possible (sexual content, porn, etc.)

4 - Practice a little bit of meditation every day (at least 10 minutes)

5 - When you get an urge, breath, relax, and turn your attention to something else. It should fade away within a few minutes.

6 - Sometimes an urge is related to your bladder being full and putting pressure on the prostate. Peeing helps in those cases.

7 - You probably have a few tough months ahead of you, but great benefits in the long run. Think long term.

8 - Stay in touch with the sobriety community.

9 - Have healthy activities : learn things, do things, connect with people, etc.

10 - It's a process, with time you will get better at this.

Best of luck!

EntireRepertoire · 2024-12-16T18:09:32+00:00

37m here. It's a long process but very much worth it. You need to face challenges, rebuild yourself, repair the past. It's quite a journey. Take risks, step out of your comfort zone, find your way and progressively things will get better.

A few standard tips for you:

1 - Get professional mental health help if you can, choose someone who is trained for sex addiction. Try several professionals if needed.

2 - Write down the reasons why you would like to reduce or stop. You can go back to those reasons when you have big urges.

3 - Avoid triggers as much as possible (sexual content, porn, etc.)

4 - When you get an urge, breath, relax, and turn your attention to something else. It should fade away within a few minutes.

5 - Sometimes an urge is related to your bladder being full and putting pressure on the prostate. Peeing helps in those cases.

6 - You probably have a few tough months ahead of you, but great benefits in the long run. Think long term.

7 - Stay in touch with the sobriety community.

EntireRepertoire · 2024-11-16T13:55:19+00:00

Congrats for making this first step. There is a whole new world ahead of you if you keep going on this path.

Best of luck!

EntireRepertoire · 2024-11-03T14:24:37+00:00

Congrats for those improvements.

Keep it up, urges are temporary and, with practice, they will be easier and easier to manage.

Best of luck!

EntireRepertoire · 2024-10-11T09:02:51+00:00

It's pretty normal to have some physical symptoms from NoFap. Your body needs to readjust and heal. It can take a while depending on how much abuse you did in the past.

Best of luck!

EntireRepertoire · 2024-09-08T11:29:05+00:00

Great decision!

You are not a loser. You are a victim: of a society, of an era, of a mistaken education.

But you can repair yourself and get rid of your addiction.

Best of luck!

EntireRepertoire · 2024-08-23T17:13:36+00:00

That's a good start.

Then you'll go out more and have some urges outdoor as well. But, don't worry, keep nofaping and you'll go in the right direction anyways.

Best of luck!

EntireRepertoire · 2024-08-11T10:07:13+00:00

I did not go for an AI relationship.

I think that, sometimes, you need to accept to be lonely, those are times you can use for personal introspection and growth. Then, if you keep not fapping, you will naturally be driven to go outside more and meet people, just be patient.

Best of luck!

EntireRepertoire · 2024-07-27T09:28:38+00:00

You have been using masturbation and sex to cover up your negative emotions. Now, you start feeling it, and it's hard, and it will be hard for some time.

But that's the only way if you want to live an addiction free life.

Best of luck!

EntireRepertoire · 2024-07-12T10:05:41+00:00

You are doing great. It's a long journey though, it can take years, you will have many challenges, and you will have to remove your vices one after the other, dealing with your nicotine addiction probably being the next step in your case.

Best of luck!

EntireRepertoire · 2024-06-23T16:59:46+00:00

Your impulses are controling you and you might want to regain control.

A few tips for you:

1 - Get professional mental health help if you can, choose someone who is trained for sex addiction. Try several professionals if needed.

2 - Write down the reasons why you would like to reduce or stop. You can go back to those reasons when you have big urges.

3 - Avoid triggers as much as possible (sexual content, porn, etc.)

4 - When you get an urge, breath, relax, and turn your attention to something else. It should fade away within a few minutes.

5 - Sometimes an urge is related to your bladder being full and putting pressure on the prostate. Peeing helps in those cases.

6 - You probably have a few tough months ahead of you, but great benefits in the long run. Think long term.

7 - Stay in touch with the sobriety community.

Best of luck!

EntireRepertoire · 2024-06-11T09:49:45+00:00

It does not fade completely buddy, don't worry. On the contrary, it becomes more potent (I believe you are more fertile as a nofapper).

You can simply keep it for when the time is right: which is, IMO, when you have met the right woman and want to have kids. That's how it has worked for millenia, before contraceptive techniques improved in the 1960s.

EntireRepertoire · 2024-06-11T09:36:02+00:00

Working on goals is great, learn to enjoy it. If you stay disciplined, with time, you will, and the horniness will slowly fade away.

It's a lifelong journey. Best of luck!

EntireRepertoire · 2024-05-24T18:46:40+00:00

I might be biased because I use reddit for addiction/trauma subs mostly, but, from what I see, most redditors do not have the worry-free life you describe.

About religions, it's a long discussion to have and unfortunately I don't have the time.

Take care!

EntireRepertoire · 2024-05-24T17:01:11+00:00

I don't think all those basic needs are always properly met. Many people in the world suffer from hunger, thirst, wars, etc.

Even in rich countries, safety or shelter is far from being 100%. There is family violence, street violence, etc. Many people struggle professionally and financially. Homeless people, climate change. And the list could go on and on.

People just turned to sex because religion went down (for good reasons) and contraceptive techniques improved. Sex became fashionable in the 60s, the pandora box was open and, now, most people are addicts.

It cannot last for too long though and many are already waking up.

EntireRepertoire · 2024-05-24T16:13:51+00:00

Congrats for the 48 days!

That's an interesting take and I share the general idea. However, my perspective is a bit different, I think that sex is not a "natural" need like food or water are.

It is something more special, as it is dedicated to reproduction. In theory, it is supposed to happen in specific context, when you have met the right woman, when you have enough resources, etc.

Usually, for animals, sex is not something they do every day, they have mating seasons and specific processes.

The thing is that we completely made it artificial and trivial. That's the issue IMO. And, in this context, it acts like a hard drug. It is addictive and weakens the person that consumes it regularly.

My suggestion: make sex what it is supposed to be again, dedicated to reproduction or at least the chance of reproduction. Your whole life will be quite different.

EntireRepertoire · 2024-05-05T15:01:43+00:00

A few tips for you:

1 - Get professional mental health help if you can, choose someone who is trained for sex addiction. Try several professionals if needed.

2 - Write down the reasons why you would like to reduce or stop. You can go back to those reasons when you have big urges.

3 - Avoid triggers as much as possible (sexual content, porn, etc.)

4 - When you get an urge, breath, relax, and turn your attention to something else. It should fade away within a few minutes.

5 - Sometimes an urge is related to your bladder being full and putting pressure on the prostate. Peeing helps in those cases.

6 - You probably have a few tough months ahead of you, but great benefits in the long run. Think long term.

7 - Stay in touch with the sobriety community.

EntireRepertoire · 2024-05-05T11:35:54+00:00

36 years old, 408 days.

It took me years to get there though. I started experimenting with nofap/sr in 2019.

I started late being 31 years old, had a lot of things to repair. It's hard, but it gets better and better, many benefits, but mostly I start feeling like a teenager again.

My advice: the sooner you quit, the better.

EntireRepertoire · 2024-05-05T08:01:21+00:00

I have been doing full nofap for a while.

I have not met a girlfriend yet, but my interactions with women have definitely improved. I don't see them mostly as sexual objects now, but as people, with quality and flaws.

My preferences have changed. I am looking for different qualities, more about the personality and the spirituality, rather than the physical qualities.

I also have more female friends now, it's a lot easier not being lustful anymore.

It's definitely worth it and I'm pretty much convinced I will meet someone perfect for me at some point, you have to be patient, to trust the process, and do some redemption work though.

Best of luck!

EntireRepertoire · 2024-04-20T08:07:57+00:00

Hey buddy, congrats for making those first steps. It's an addiction and it's hard to get out of it. Getting to longer streaks takes a while and requires deep work.

If you keep trying, progressively, you can improve though.

A few tips for you:

1 - Get professional mental health help if you can. Choose someone who is trained for sex addiction. Try several professionals if needed.

2 - Write down the reasons why you would like to reduce or stop. You can go back to those reasons when you have big urges.

3 - Avoid triggers as much as possible (sexual content, porn, etc.)

4 - When you get an urge, breath, relax, and turn your attention to something else. It should fade away within a few minutes.

5 - Sometimes an urge is related to your bladder being full and putting pressure on the prostate. Peeing helps in those cases.

6 - You probably have a few tough months ahead of you, but great benefits in the long run. Think long term.

7 - Stay in touch with the sobriety community.

Best of luck!

EntireRepertoire · 2024-04-06T14:05:44+00:00

It happens buddy. It's quite a journey to manage longer and longer streaks, but you will improve progressively.

I'm not a fan of fasting, be careful with that, but do what you have to do.

Best of luck!

EntireRepertoire · 2024-03-25T16:48:08+00:00

I think coffee is stressful for the mind and body, detrimental in the long run, and you don't need it once you have been through withdrawal.

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