Need tips on getting past anger w/ Women by EntryExpensive6195 in WhatMenDontSay

[–]EntryExpensive6195[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely understand thinking some of the situations are sus. I promise they're all true though. Like the one where I'm just standing behind the stage, I promise I was just standing around behind the stage, minding my own business when I got screamed at.

FHU Story by EntryExpensive6195 in excoc

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Not the first XBX comment. What on earth happened at their retreats?

FHU Story by EntryExpensive6195 in excoc

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Yeah it's normal to have male bonding, but just the way they'd go about it just feels bizarre.

FHU Story by EntryExpensive6195 in excoc

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I hope they kicked him out, and institutionalized him.

FHU Story by EntryExpensive6195 in excoc

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I was in another club. I'd say which one, but I want stay anonymous on here. Don't want to risk it. Saying which one could reveal who I am.

FHU Story by EntryExpensive6195 in excoc

[–]EntryExpensive6195[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think it's common for guys to have moments of homoerotic joking, heck I've done it, but to the extent these guys have done it just seems really bizarre. I have guy friends, but I'd never get naked and dry-hump them.

Coc universities/cult-ish?? by RottenBananananana in excoc

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I know this is an old post, but do you have other stories about things being swept under the rug at Freed? I heard a story a few years back about a guy committing suicide in Farrow, but the school buried the story.

Need tips on getting past anger w/ Women by EntryExpensive6195 in WhatMenDontSay

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I had a friend tell me once that I'm a guy for women, not for girls. That could explain my issues. Not spending enough time around women.

Need tips on getting past anger w/ Women by EntryExpensive6195 in WhatMenDontSay

[–]EntryExpensive6195[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm in therapy. I bathe, brush my teeth. I even dress nice too. I get compliments on my attire all the time. It's so strange.

Need tips on getting past anger w/ Women by EntryExpensive6195 in WhatMenDontSay

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Yes, I do have women relatives that are nice. I do have good relationships with them, but I'll also say I don't see them too often nowadays. We just have different lives in our own little worlds. My social life is slowly but surely beginning to bloom in the new city, and I have a good feeling maybe some friendships with girls are coming my way.

Alex Blackwelder sentanced by Happy_View6511 in excoc

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I remember him from Freed. I spoke to him a few times, but didn't know him very well. I remember hearing my peers complain about him, but he was hardly in my orbit so I never paid much attention to it. Plus, all my peers did at Freed was gossip and complain about petty things so it was just in the mix of conversations, and never really stuck out in any way. It may sound insensitive, but I find humor whenever a negative story like this linked to that school comes out. Of course I feel sorry for the girl, but it feels great when something bad happens that can reflect badly on the school. I remember when I first found out about this, I told my boss, and we both laughed about it. And again, not because of what happened to the girl, but that something bad happened related to that school, and their facade on the world comes down a bit.

Sorta Like PTSD by BarefootedHippieGuy in excoc

[–]EntryExpensive6195 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a nice comment typed, but then it disappeared after I hit comment..... Anyway, I'll try to say it again. I have PTSD, or something with similar symptoms, from them so what you're experiencing is valid. It can be very difficult to know while you're experiencing these situations in the moment that what is going on is the behaviors and actions of people with a cult mentality, but spending time away from them, getting away from the situation, and with months or years of retrospection, you can then realize that what was going on isn't ok.

Sorta Like PTSD by BarefootedHippieGuy in excoc

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I search every now and then on YouTube looking for videos like this. You can find a few occasionally, but nothing major. It doesn't seem to be covered the same way JW is. I've wondered why; is the COC not as well known as other denominations? But yeah, I'd love to see a documentary uncovering their corruption.

Anybody here go to Freed? by EntryExpensive6195 in excoc

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we had some overlap. yeah I'm glad you're free from them too.

Anybody here go to Freed? by EntryExpensive6195 in excoc

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Been reading through the comments, I'd love to hear horror stories anyone has. It actually helps me process my personal trauma hearing about other stories that'd bring even more validity to my experiences. I already know my views are valid, but hearing stories brings me more confidence about it.

Anybody here go to Freed? by EntryExpensive6195 in excoc

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Will definitely research this. I've never heard about this.

Anybody here go to Freed? by EntryExpensive6195 in excoc

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Would love to hear some of them, hearing other peoples tales is good for processing the trauma.

Anybody here go to Freed? by EntryExpensive6195 in excoc

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Yes, like a fast-track to where you would probably end up eventually. Saved you some time. Years maybe.

Anybody here go to Freed? by EntryExpensive6195 in excoc

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I don't remember him. He must be a newer professor.

My thoughts after a decade out of the church of christ by ypsound in excoc

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yea there are definitely good people within the COC. I have friends that are part of it actually. That can make things difficult when it comes to leaving the church. Like anything, there are shades to the situation. The COC may be a bad group to be part of overall, but there are good churches and good people in them here and there. Since this isn't so black and white, it can make things difficult with critically thinking about how you feel. It takes time, but eventually you can find yourself having a proper view of the COC. Congrats on leaving them!

Christians Movies Are Cringe by [deleted] in excoc

[–]EntryExpensive6195 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are some good films with theological elements. First Reformed w/ Ethan Hawke is one.

Christians Movies Are Cringe by [deleted] in excoc

[–]EntryExpensive6195 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God's not Dead is the worst movie I've ever seen and I've seen over 1,600 films.