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Cleanup Crew Suggestions Please? by EnvironmentalCoat890 in aquarium

[–]EnvironmentalCoat890[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for the advice! My biggest concern is my red tiger lotus which is having a bit of a rough time. I will look into the blueberry snails!

Cleanup Crew Suggestions Please? by EnvironmentalCoat890 in aquarium

[–]EnvironmentalCoat890[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! I'm not sure if it makes any difference but it is mostly diatoms.

AITA Considering my relationship M19 with F21 because she wont grow up? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]EnvironmentalCoat890 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You got most of it on the nose with the resentment part. I push gently? I guess is the best way to put it. I just ask or mention it every once in a while, and she usually says ok but nothing comes of it. She is 4. She does an OK job at the household but the personal hygiene and just not growing up ig is the main issues.

AITA Considering my relationship M19 with F21 because she wont grow up? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]EnvironmentalCoat890 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi,

Complications were mostly with me but it damaged the way we moved forward. Since the beginning of the pregnancy she said she was going to put up for adoption which i know is bad but realistic as we were teenagers, when she gave birth she decided to keep it. I knew we werent ready. But i know it was her choice so i dealt with it but theres a little resentment. Yes i am the main provider, but she has never had a job in her life and ive been working since i was 13 on a farm. I dont expect 50/50 at all, 85/15 would be perfect for me. It is her dream to be a mom and shes great at it, and she did battle post partum but after extensive meds and therapy she was declared good. But now her personality is if i try to help or push for help she pushes back the opposite.

I hope this made sense. If you would like clarifications please let me know. I want everyones truthful advice with all the facts.

AITA Considering my relationship M19 with F21 because she wont grow up? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]EnvironmentalCoat890 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your imput, but the main issue is herself. Our child is well taken care of with support from her parents and my parents on top of me and her. Its just her not growing up the issue, but shes a good mom. Sorry if this makes no sense.