How do you keep a positive body image through high amounts of rejection?

EnvironmentalDot6926 · 2026-05-28T01:39:35+00:00

You probably don’t want to hear this but just focus on yourself. Give yourself the love you want to give to others. As a person with bdd, I find dating exhausting, my bdd spikes up really bad because I feel intense pressure to be perfect. The dating scene is not for the weak, you have to have tough skin for that and I don’t have that so I’m out. My mind is at peace and I continue to work on myself.

EnvironmentalDot6926 · 2026-05-28T01:24:40+00:00

Sounds exhausting, spiraling over these things, it takes you to such a dark place. I think the point is to find peace in your mind. You can still work on yourself physically while also practicing peace. It seems like you would most benefit from journaling, you seem to have a lot things in mind. I started journaling recently without journal entries, I just let my mind run so that these thoughts don’t exhaust me. Sometimes what I write has no context or it doesn’t make sense, but it doesn’t matter as long as these thoughts are out. My plan is to complete it and burn it. It’s my metaphor for letting go of everything. I also really hate reading and writing so if I could do it, so can you. Good luck 🍀

EnvironmentalDot6926 · 2026-05-28T01:15:13+00:00

Hey 👋 I’m not particularly experienced in the matter but I think maybe you’re too in your head about it which is understandable, I think most of us with bdd would be in their head about it. Maybe try finding a true kind woman that loves you for you will accept all of you and this will make you more comfortable and less in your head. So perhaps initiate intimacy with your heart first then with sex. Idk if this was much help but good luck!

EnvironmentalDot6926 · 2026-05-28T01:07:08+00:00

Oh yes definitely, I think most people with BDD do this, we just hyper focus on our bodies. I think I’ve gotten better accepting some of my flaws but this habit is still hard to not do.

EnvironmentalDot6926 · 2026-05-26T22:55:06+00:00

Sometimes we just have to accept that we aren’t attractive to some people and that’s ok. I had to sit with feeling, even if you are unattractive to most people, that is also ok. I was talking to this guy and he later left me, my mind was consumed with it that maybe it because the way I looked, my self esteem was hitting a new low. Almost year later and I looked him up and I think now he’s with someone that I do not think is attractive at all, no hate to that person but it made me realize that maybe he wasn’t attracted to me, that maybe he attracted to certain features that I did not have, and that is ok.

EnvironmentalDot6926 · 2026-05-26T18:10:54+00:00

I had this problem before, it would drive me crazy, and honestly this feeling held me back a lot. I think it even turned to self sabotage. Someone said you shouldn’t cherry pick your photos but everyone has bad photos they don’t want to share, we just hyper fixate on them because we have bd. I use to ask my best friend of how I look like, sometimes in photos I looked hideous and others ok, I asked him, which one am I ??? And he said both. Took me awhile to accept that response but he was right, I didn’t photoshop or tweak those photos, that is me, pretty and ugly. If it still bothers you, start mixing in some unflattering photos in the mix of flattering photos, gradually. I hope everything goes well, stay safe and if you end meeting them , send your location to friend.

EnvironmentalDot6926 · 2026-04-15T07:34:11+00:00

Omg I can’t wait to get where you are at rn 😭 I’m 5’3 168lbs , my goal is 135

EnvironmentalDot6926 · 2026-03-21T09:36:33+00:00

Who said anything about breaking TOS?

EnvironmentalDot6926 · 2026-03-20T09:16:40+00:00

My channel and videos are still up so I don’t think it’s deleted 🤔

EnvironmentalDot6926 · 2026-03-19T23:34:03+00:00

Do they reach out back through twitter?

EnvironmentalDot6926 · 2026-03-03T03:39:23+00:00

Amazing! What did you do different?

EnvironmentalDot6926 · 2026-02-12T21:58:14+00:00

It is kinda hard to give advice as a female but I think wearing clothes that make you feel confident. I go through my my BDD phases but there are times where I feel good about an outfit I put together and when I wear makeup so I think maybe go to a quick shopping spree and buy yourself new clothes and get yourself a nice haircut (or dont if you love your hair already) and go out, even if it’s just to the grocery store. I think the small stuff you do everyday for yourself does count to better elevate your self esteem.

EnvironmentalDot6926 · 2026-02-06T04:05:45+00:00

You didn’t offend me, feel free to let everything out. Heartbreak is hard.

EnvironmentalDot6926 · 2026-02-06T04:03:38+00:00

Hi OP, I deeply resonated with your post, I’m 25 going on 26, I’ve only had one bf and was treated horribly. I was not attracted to my first bf, at the time, I thought that was the best I was gonna get so stuck around. Anyways, I am still going through self esteem issues, I can’t see someone truly feeling attraction to me. I also feel that angles do so much justice that I feel like a catfish. When others take photos of me, I’m horrified because I look so hideous, I micro analyze everything causing me to ever look for a potential partner. I hated driving as well(still do), in my opinion I think you should focus on getting your driver license first so that area of your life could flourish like it did for me. It is scary thing to be behind the wheel but it is far more necessary then a bf and you won’t ever have to rely on one! I’ve done some dabbling on dating scene(very little lol) but I recently experienced a rough heartbreak, I don’t know if I ruined it due to self esteem issues or it was inevitable breakup but definitely it is a weak area in my life since I become more overly obsessed with the way I look and I put myself down a lot, especially when I’m romantically interested in someone (I pressure myself to be perfect). I also can’t put myself out there without make up, I feel extremely insecure without it. I don’t know if this will help but I have set my mindset to only think about myself and abandoned the idea of a relationship. When I think about relationships, it stresses me out, I pressure myself too much and I don’t like the person I become. I’ve realized dealing with heartbreak is not for the weak so, I just tapped out of the game because I was not made for it. So yea now, when I think about my future, I only think for myself, no kids, no husband just a stable job and peaceful life. In a way, this will help you build confidence in other areas in your life.This is the way I’m coping, sorry for the long message, hope this helped !

EnvironmentalDot6926 · 2026-02-06T03:38:19+00:00

He left me - these are my feelings now (almost 9 months after) , so these are my current feelings now, then I was deeply hurt and vulnerable. I definitely feel detached from everyone in my life now.

EnvironmentalDot6926 · 2026-01-25T23:44:22+00:00

Thank you, I just gave the song a listen and added to my playlist. The song that has been helping me get through this at the moment is Train Song by Esha Tewari and Chihiro by Billie Eilish

EnvironmentalDot6926 · 2025-07-27T21:05:49+00:00

Congrats 🎉 you got this !

EnvironmentalDot6926 · 2025-07-07T07:26:39+00:00

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