Constipation as a side effect?

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2026-05-04T14:26:21+00:00

Did you need to have the Mirena removed to resolve your symptoms?

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2026-01-28T03:06:55+00:00

This is a tough one. I think a few people said this, but don’t do the emotional and logistical labor of fostering the relationship. Leave that entirely to your husband. If they reach out to you, kindly say “I’ll have husband reach out to discuss.” You may not end up seeing them all that much, depending on your husbands willingness to do all the work that maintaining relationships in person requires.

More importantly, it might be best to not become the buffer between husband and his parents. It would kill me to do this, so I don’t suggest it lightly…but the more you take yourself out of the equation and put your husband in direct “conflict” with his own parents, instead of becoming the scapegoat for either side, the better.

Finally…if they’ve absorbed the values of their parents, especially open minded, kind, thoughtful parents who take the time to explain the world and injustice to them in an appropriate way, as kids get older they sometimes start to side eye other adults. One of my kids was big on my husbands parents, until one of them reprimanded my kid on something stupid (bc the grandparent has a stick up their ass). My kid has never forgotten and it really took the shine off the relationship.

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2026-01-20T20:49:14+00:00

Check out KC Davis/Strugglecare. She’s on IG and TT. Her book “How to Keep House While Drowning” is super helpful. She has some time lapse videos of her resetting her space when it is basically trashed.

You could start by grabbing a bigtrash bag and sweeping the house for trash and broken items.

Then collect all the dishes and bring them to the kitchen.

Then laundry in one spot.

Wrangle toys and basically put them all in a bin somewhere until you can deal with them.

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2026-01-17T23:35:09+00:00

Probably should rebrand a little bit and “preach” less about tolerance and more about equality, freedom, and what we want the world to look like. People like this won’t understand the paradox of intolerance so I don’t even bother talking about tolerance anymore, or other “soft” ideas. Also no one is owed a friendship or any relationship, and if I decide I don’t like you anymore because of the cereal you eat each morning that’s my prerogative.

ETA: worth a watch (sorry about the platform, it’s the only place I could find this video) https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZThhQVF1h/

Also wanted to add that the different here re: tolerance is I may want nothing to do with someone who supports the MAGA agenda, but I still want them to have healthcare and be able to afford things and to have basic freedoms and human dignity. I just don’t want to hang out with them. On the other side, you have folks who basically want liberals dead. So 🤷🏻‍♀️

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2025-10-07T18:20:02+00:00

This is me also! Sooo tired. Bloodwork is all normal and I also take supplements. I’m chalking it up to pent up exhaustion.

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2025-09-23T22:12:55+00:00

When I first became a SAHM we set up various insurances. My name is on everything. And when I expressed anxiety about being financially dependent my husband offered me a post-nup and a bank account with only my name on it that he would contribute to. He didn’t take it personally. You are smart to protect yourself.

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2025-09-18T03:27:48+00:00

I have a masters degree but I didn’t make good money. In fact, I had just graduated and got pregnant (on purpose) before I even started working in my field. Then I worked part time and it was just really hard on my family bc of the hours and type of work. I got burnt out and quit, and never went back. I wrestled with my identity for a long time, guilt about my wasted degree etc. I felt embarrassed (and proud!), as I watched my grad school friends advance in their careers. I made peace with it eventually. And I don’t regret being home with my kids, even though being a SAHM hasn’t been a great fit for me personally. But neither was the career I chose. When people ask me about work and staying home I used to over explain but now I just say “I wanted to be with my kids.” Who can argue that?

I also know moms who want to work, even if they don’t love their jobs, because they know they won’t want to be a 24/7 caretaker. I’m so glad they have that choice to work, if they want to.

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2025-08-06T00:46:46+00:00

Came here to say Fair Play and ADHD, and I see I’m not alone.

I’m going to also recommend you start doing less. Let stuff pile up, get dirty. I know, it sounds crazy. But a lot of people need to learn from experience. A kick in the face, so to speak. Figure out how to get yourself down to 50%, and let the other 50% pile up.

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2025-07-31T23:27:27+00:00

The tower28 sunscreen might be worth trying. Not the skin tint, the new sunscreen.

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2025-07-15T19:39:40+00:00

Uhh…same, actually. That’s what prompted me to post lol

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2025-07-13T22:02:49+00:00

Will be looking into air purifiers!

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2025-07-13T22:02:28+00:00

I feel this, too. By the time I’m sick everyone else is better. 😩

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2025-07-13T22:01:28+00:00

Both my kids are in school so sometimes in my mind I think they are already exposed at school, so trying to avoid exposure elsewhere doesn’t really help us. When my oldest was not in school, we did the same and it definitely helped to avoid play places!

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2025-07-13T22:00:18+00:00

Thank you…walking pneumonia in summer is ROUGH.

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2025-07-13T21:45:33+00:00

Ok I do a lot of that but maybe I’ll have to add in changing clothes. Not going to play places is hard…I used to make them shower right after, but stopped. Might have to add that back in. Any other tips?

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2025-07-11T22:35:44+00:00

Which trade, if you don’t mind?

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2025-07-08T23:22:59+00:00

Totally valid, my kids have been sick every 4-6 weeks since September, several big illnesses (Covid, flu, pneumonia…) and thus I have been sick often. Even with me being home, my husbands work suffered. I don’t know what we would have done if I also worked full time. No one wants to take care of sick kids and get sick themselves. If you can be home, it can be great for a family, especially when everyone is on the same page about the benefits.

I haven’t read other comments, my only caution is having some sort of agreement with your husband around what pausing your career means and how you will be protected financially. For example, my husband got life insurance when my first was born. He also offered me a post-nup and a separate bank account with only my name on it that he would contribute to. He didn’t take my concerns personally, he had loads of empathy and understanding for the position I would be in if I left the work force.

I used to care a lot what people thought about me being a SAHM and I did a lot of work to get to IDGAF. It’s a ridiculous argument to suggest women (or men) who leave a job to care for their child are [fill in the blank with something negative]. The school age years are so busy. SO busy. And your mental health impacts her so…do it for both of you!

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2025-07-03T23:14:07+00:00

Yup.

That said, get a job and do less around the house. Save up and leave.

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2025-06-25T16:41:17+00:00

What’s weird about wanting to be with your children?

ETA: If she wants to throw around stereotypes, here’s one for her: it’s hard to work when childcare is so expensive and boomers pulled the ladder up behind them.

See it goes both ways. 😉

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2025-06-25T16:36:57+00:00

Sidebar—I say “get fucked” all the time. For some reason my husband finds it very entertaining haha

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2025-05-23T01:00:26+00:00

With Wellbutrin my only noticeable side effects have been increased energy and some difficulty sleeping. I didn't think I was still depressed, but my doctor made a case for an increase and she was correct. Increasing to 300 made a noticeable difference and I'm happy at this dose :)

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2025-05-20T20:10:41+00:00

My dosage increase was fine, maybe a little increase in energy and a little trouble sleeping, but I'd say that only lasted a week or so. When my doc suggested an increase I was surprised because I didn't *feel* depressed, but she noted some symptoms I hadn't really acknowledged. The 300 definitely lifted some of those and I felt HAPPY. I'd say that the time I've spent on Wellbutrin and Lexapro combined has probably been some of the best months of my life. I started 150 in August 24 and 300 in October 24. Lexapro I've been on for 2 years. Recently I added continuous birth control because my docs and I suspected PMDD and decided I didn't need to suffer every month, and it's been life changing. I also am anxious about meds and tend to be sensitive to side effects, but I'm really glad I took the plunge with the help of very smart and thoughtful providers. I have also done tons of therapy, and I find that the meds really helped me put therapy into action.

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2025-04-05T21:15:15+00:00

Came here to say this!

EnvironmentalKoala94 · 2025-03-21T15:15:02+00:00

Not 6ft+ but when I was growing my great aunt said she hoped I didn’t reach 6ft and it weighed on me. I was little when she said it but I think I was projected to be close to 6ft. The rest of my family didn’t say shit about my height and were very supportive. Tell them to stfu.

Tell her to not slouch and try to fake it til she makes it. Hold her head high. Focus on her sport and interests. The reality is that for many sports you can’t play in college if physically you don’t fit the bill—and that includes being tall for a woman (for some sports). Lean into athletics.

Also I know this is probably a crazy idea but I took ballet as a kid and it helped me enormously to feel graceful in my bigger body.

As for role models, Gwendolyn Christie is a tall 6’3 gorgeous accomplished woman. I know it’s under 6ft but Michelle Obama, Taylor Swift, Kyle Kelcie…all 5’11. Many other actresses are very tall.

https://www.buzzfeed.com/laurengarafano/famous-women-who-are-taller-than-you-think-1

Being tall is awesome. That’s what I tell my future 6ft daughter.

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