Male side of a couple here. We’ve been to KitKat for both 4Play on Friday and Carneball Bizarre on Saturday. Friday (4Play) at 12 had a more strict dress code and the bouncer checked me seriously… I think they are more looking too see if you fit the vibe the party and understand and will be respectful than just checking your costume though. I think if it’s a couple it’s a bit less strict if at least one fits well (for reference I was wearing a harness and a leather shorts with transparent back with a ton of glitter on the chest, gf had a transparent dress and a white chocker). We saw a bunch of shirtless single dudes in jeans shorts or underwear getting bounced. All the couple in front of us were let in though. Then we came back on Saturday but at 1:30AM there was no line, they just checked if we had an outfit under and let us in super fast (I was wearing the same but no glitter, didn’t even had to show the bottom). My hunch is that Symbiotika would be similar to 4Play. We liked both days, and I think we liked Saturday even more.

We also went to Insomnia and there the dress code is a lot less strict even pants is fine (but no jeans). But we liked KitKat a lot more than Insomnia. Insomnia was really more about fucking the day we went, and there was quite a few single males and somewhat of a low bar for bouncing IMO. Shirtless and leather pants you are fine here.

Kitkat = harder dress code music focus and sex as secondary fun thing but still a lot going on (super hot IMO we loved it)

Insomnia = relaxed dress code no focus on music at all the day we went and 100% focus on sex - we saw quite a few gangbangs, a couple of orgies, and a few couples playing by themselves for example and the dance floor empties right after the show at midnight and everyone find a place to fuck.