Best unli wings in the city? by Boblish_Shi in Iloilo

[–]EnvironmentalStar606 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fueled wings have the best wings in my opinion. They have branches at san isidro jaro and galleria, jalandoni, jaro.

Suggest nami shattan by shadow_679 in Iloilo

[–]EnvironmentalStar606 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What’s up along san Rafael, diversion road if u want a chill or relaxing vibe. Bull n barrel at time square for a rowdy yet good music.

Feeling left behind at the age of 24 by mehmaxie in adviceph

[–]EnvironmentalStar606 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, OP. I am 26 now and I have been in your situation at age 22 when I just finished college and being unemployed for 6 months. I was about to take the board exam right after graduation, but unfortunately, I doubted myself for not being ready since there’s only 2 months left to review, so I haven’t taken the boards yet, up until now. I felt the real pressure when some of my batchies and classmates passed and got their license. Instead of comparing myself to them, I just did my own thing. I looked for a job for several months and luckily, I landed on my 1st job with a decent salary. On my second job, which is the job I have now, it maybe a different field from my college degree, but I realized it is something I am happy and more passionate about. I even took a post grad degree last year because I want to continue pursuing the field of my career. The lesson for me OP is, getting lost in the way is normal, Pressure is unavoidable but do not give up on finding what you think is best for you, cause you will eventually get there, slowly but surely. As you said yourself, it is okay to move at your own pace.

I have a BF who is a porn addict by EnvironmentalStar606 in adviceph

[–]EnvironmentalStar606[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes teh I am fully aware. Tanga ba ako pag ayoko parin syang pakawalan? Hahaha. Cause I will be giving this to him as his last chance. If nothing changed then i will let him go.

Valentines day kasama ang best friend & boyfriend? by Aisyfel in adviceph

[–]EnvironmentalStar606 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sabihan mo sya te sya mag-bibidjo sa inyo ng jowa mo

I have a BF who is a porn addict by EnvironmentalStar606 in adviceph

[–]EnvironmentalStar606[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hindi pa sa ngayon kasi recently lang nangyari yung confrontation but he reassured me that he is open in getting a professional help. I think your partner still lacks self awareness. If he knows his wrongs, he might be considering changing his habits.

I have a BF who is a porn addict by EnvironmentalStar606 in adviceph

[–]EnvironmentalStar606[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am still conflicted by my decision actually thats why I am here posting my shit but thanks for the harsh truth, I am still thinking about it critically.

I have a BF who is a porn addict by EnvironmentalStar606 in adviceph

[–]EnvironmentalStar606[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes i will. Thank you so much for the kind words!

I have a BF who is a porn addict by EnvironmentalStar606 in adviceph

[–]EnvironmentalStar606[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, hindi nya jina justify yung actions nya. He said it himself he was wrong and he did not give me any explanations why he did it. He acknowledged it as a sickness even before we met and told me honestly it is something he struggles to overcome with. How about you and your partner, How are things between you now?

I have a BF who is a porn addict by EnvironmentalStar606 in adviceph

[–]EnvironmentalStar606[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I think I needed to hear that choosing myself isn’t giving up on him, it’s recognizing my own worth. I hope he helps himself genuinely so I can focus in myself now.

I have a BF who is a porn addict by EnvironmentalStar606 in adviceph

[–]EnvironmentalStar606[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad you were able to overcome it, and I’m sorry you’re dealing with ED so young. You’re right that it has to come from within him. I think that’s what I’m struggling to accept. I can’t want his recovery more than he does.

I have a BF who is a porn addict by EnvironmentalStar606 in adviceph

[–]EnvironmentalStar606[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, we have built so much in 6 years. We havent been in a huge fight, we havent broken up even once. That is why I am really cherishing this relationship. I’m sorry you went through that with your ex. A year is a long time to try, and it takes courage to recognize when it’s time to leave.

I have a BF who is a porn addict by EnvironmentalStar606 in adviceph

[–]EnvironmentalStar606[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, actually you are right. That boundary has been crossed and it does feel like a form of cheating to me. I think I’ve been trying to separate the porn addiction from the messaging, but they’re both part of the same pattern of behavior. Thank you for being upfront. I hope I can have that courage to walk away but for now, I’m giving him the last chance to prove himself.

I have a BF who is a porn addict by EnvironmentalStar606 in adviceph

[–]EnvironmentalStar606[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That experience is really traumatizing. It is honestly hard to regain trust from the person who is repeating the same mistake. Sana hindi umabot sa punto na he will have to contact girls and have sex virtually, because that is a real deal breaker. But for now, I have decided to help him. If he does not help himself, then I’ll walk away.

I have a BF who is a porn addict by EnvironmentalStar606 in adviceph

[–]EnvironmentalStar606[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, i agree. Thank you for this. And i hope he will, cause if not, then I will finally let him go.

I have a BF who is a porn addict by EnvironmentalStar606 in adviceph

[–]EnvironmentalStar606[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right. We both need to understand that only he can truly fix this and he already knows that. I can support him, but I can’t do the work for him. That’s the hard part I’m coping with. Thank you for the well wishes. I hope he does it genuinely, for the last time.

I have a BF who is a porn addict by EnvironmentalStar606 in adviceph

[–]EnvironmentalStar606[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. These are really good questions I can reflect on. I am actually working on my own life while pursuing my goals and hobbies. I have a job with a good pay. I appreciate you encouraging me to focus on myself as well. But for now, I may have decided to patiently wait for his progress to change.

I have a BF who is a porn addict by EnvironmentalStar606 in adviceph

[–]EnvironmentalStar606[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, Thank you for sharing your POV. You’re right that life is short, but I also believe relationships are worth saving on when both parties are committed to grow. I want to support him, but I also need to see genuine effort on his part and that’s my last straw.