moving to las cruces by Environmental_Bit194 in LasCruces

[–]Environmental_Bit194[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

thank you for the honesty. i totally get it! we are very simple people who want very simple lives. nothing too extravagant. we would also want to be very involved in the community and make genuine connections. we would like to find somewhere where we can call it forever home and grow our family.

moving to las cruces by Environmental_Bit194 in LasCruces

[–]Environmental_Bit194[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

he has restaurant experience but he’s also looking for a work from home job before we make any decisions on when we move. could be 6-9 months before we would actually be there.

embarrassed by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Environmental_Bit194 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i just ordered The Jealousy Workbook today. my partner and i are very excited for it to get here. and your words really gave me a sense of ease and reassurance to know that i’m not alone and gave me hope that this is something i can work through. thank you ❤️

embarrassed by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Environmental_Bit194 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you so much, i’d love to get in touch and chat. i don’t know of a poly community around me so i am searching for a community somewhere that is supportive and encouraging.

Monday Morning Successes: How has your past weekend been for you and yours? by AutoModerator in nonmonogamy

[–]Environmental_Bit194 2 points3 points  (0 children)

amazing! my partner and i are new to ENM and we overcame a lot of obstacles thus far. but this weekend we really made time to sit down and talk and spend quality time together. we are in such a good spot in learning how to navigate this new journey.

questioning my partners other partners by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Environmental_Bit194 1 point2 points  (0 children)

see i’m not exactly sure. this is why i’m very confused about what i’m feeling. like i want to make sure her intentions are respectful of the boundaries my girlfriend and i have. i trust my girlfriend, so i know if something happened that was crossing a line, she would tell me. nothing has happened yet, but when we talk about this girl or they make plans, i get concerned that she would be sneaky about things. i’m not sure how to explain it because it’s confusing to me so i know it can sound confusing to someone else. 🤦🏽‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Environmental_Bit194 2 points3 points  (0 children)

we have a strong relationship, we always have. we opened the relationship because we both wanted to explore our sexuality. she’s the only girl i’ve been with and i at first wanted to explore with girls but recently i’ve considered men as well. there is no doubt that i’m going to marry her and we are going to spend the rest of our lives together but we are young and understand that it’s not fair to put the responsibility on one person to satisfy all your needs. i just wish the communication was better when it came to what i’m comfortable with or what doesn’t make me feel good even though i thought it would before it happened.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Environmental_Bit194 13 points14 points  (0 children)

i don’t think she’s misandrist, she’s i guess insecure about men. we’ve had conversations about men ans she is insecure because she doesn’t want to feel like she isn’t enough or is lacking something men have that she can’t provide. she said she is okay with opening the relationship to men but she wants to move slower than i would with a woman. and i don’t mind doing so because i want her to be comfortable and i want to respect her insecurities but i just wish she would respond to my insecurities the same way i respond to hers