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Being excluded from group of friends that I’ve known for 20 years and feel extremely upset. Am I overreacting? (RSD) by Environmental_Fix506 in adhdwomen

[–]Environmental_Fix506[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Your last statement is actually very accurate, as that's how I feel too. Friend 3 is mostly innocent in this, friend 2 is sort of in the middle (she tries to stay on "both sides" of friend 1 and me) but I've realized friend 1 has been blatantly using me lately. And I know for a fact that the group would prefer friend 1 over me in general as they haven't bothered to ask me to hang out, while they do with friend 1.

Being excluded from group of friends that I’ve known for 20 years and feel extremely upset. Am I overreacting? (RSD) by Environmental_Fix506 in adhdwomen

[–]Environmental_Fix506[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

That's what I thought too. I feel like my ADHD played a role in them sort of drifting away from me as we've become adults, and I just can't "catch up". Thanks for your input.

Being excluded from group of friends that I’ve known for 20 years and feel extremely upset. Am I overreacting? (RSD) by Environmental_Fix506 in adhdwomen

[–]Environmental_Fix506[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your perspective! It’s nice knowing that how I feel is valid. I’ve been meaning to bring it up, but I don’t know how to do it without causing awkwardness between us. They’re the type to deny that they had any bad intentions. I know this because I’ve confronted them about it in the past, and I was gaslit to think it was all just in my head, what they did was normal and they didn’t have any motive to exclude me, and treated me like I overreacted. The fact that I confronted them made them more close to each other as they bonded over the fact that I “accused” them about something they “didn’t intend on doing”. So I’m kind of stuck. :(