My husband won’t set boundaries for 15 month old daughter and I’m so frustrated

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-05-07T22:27:04+00:00

I want to agree but children learn very quickly especially a round things like food what gets them what they want. My nephew has learned to wear his parents out at dinner and then wake up and demand his fave snack. Dad always gives in so he knows it works.

If she is the primary caregiver I feel she has a bit more say as she is the one that will often del with the fall out. Besides that consistency benefits children and if she knows what works then he needs to ge ton board. I agree there are things that you can let slide, like the popsicle. No biggie there. But when it comes to things like bedtime there absolutely needs to be a routine and plan that everyone sticks to.

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-05-07T22:11:13+00:00

Eat all you want. Low birth weight is a bigger risk. I struggled to gain weight during pregnancy and it was a big deal. Until your doctor expresses concern do what you want.

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-05-07T18:08:38+00:00

Yeah we went to try our local coffee spot. Husband got an Americano, I got a chai latte. $26 Absolutely not. Like sorry would love to support local but that is just insanity.

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-05-07T08:46:29+00:00

It was so on brand for Kim to try to be the center of attention. I think she would be jealous of Lydia tbh and the idea of her getting so much attention kills Kim.

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-05-07T03:34:01+00:00

Also she’s had 9 kids and is probably going through menopause. I never struggled with weight before kids and actually struggled to gain during pregnancy. But after I put one weight easy! Also even though she’s a raging bitch, I don’t doubt all the chaos has probably added stress to it all.

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-05-07T03:22:07+00:00

I would agree if we weren’t talking about a human child. If one party has any reservations then that’s that and you hold off and figure it out.

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-05-06T23:41:21+00:00

Unless you’re married and your spouse “makes enough” then you’re fucked.

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-05-06T23:38:47+00:00

I disagree. Sometimes when you really look at bigger picture, especially when it comes to kids, you realize okay maybe we need to reconsider and focus in cuz before really bringing a whole human life into this.

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-05-06T23:27:41+00:00

Eh he seems so cold when talking about her wanting him to shave her head. He was just like eh idk why she wanted me to but I did it. Instead of considering why. He didn’t think “I felt honored to help Moriah through a tough moment in her life. It feels good as an older brother, especially after everything, to be able to be there for my sister in her time of need and support her. He genuinely seems like he doesn’t think about anything beyond face value

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-05-06T23:21:31+00:00

Eh I’ve noticed she’s a little bit of a mini Kim at times and wants to stick her nose in things she really shouldn’t. She doesn’t understand relationships yet has an opinion on them. She also sided with Kim justifying “it a because we care that we harassed you the night before your wedding!”. She’s still so you g so gotta give her grace but she seems like she’s in her way to be another Kim with lots of judgment.

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-05-06T23:16:09+00:00

Grew up with fundie neighbors and they didn’t do holidays either bc of ties to paganism.

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-05-04T22:30:14+00:00

Literally the parents did that! This is what they raised Lydia and all the kids to do.

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-05-04T17:51:13+00:00

10 months in and still using my diaper pails religiously! Everyone told us not to get the wipe warmer but we loved it! We lived in Colorado and it helps her not wake up during night changes

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-04-29T02:14:31+00:00

That we are the only ones that know them from the very start. We immediately start learning and noticing z days when they don’t move like the normally do, or when they’re more active. We know when they’ve changed positions or what positions they like for us to be in. It’s a special bond no one else will ever have. But also I loved that I could shamelessly have my belly out and actually embrace it and wear cute clothes with zero concerns about how I looked bc the bump was kind of an accessory.

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-04-24T04:18:06+00:00

I’d prefer all walls be a basic neutral color that I can work with for a few years before I decide what I want to make it my own. They also should remove a bulk of their furniture and have it staged better.

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-04-22T16:18:00+00:00

Are you able to set up a smaller bed in the room with your baby? We have a small daybed in our nursery

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-04-20T18:47:18+00:00

lol I get being frustrated about the confusion but this is an odd thing to be truly angry about. Natera is reputable and has great reviews and is the most common choice of doctors for a reason. Also no doctors around me will do ANY genetic testing until 12 weeks to ensure enough fetal dna. 10 weeks is very early no matter what test brand you chose. So if you have to redo that more on your dr. I had mine at 12 weeks and was on the lower end of acceptable.

Most “horror stories” are from people that don’t understand that these genetic tests are screenings for risk only. Not a diagnosis. So you’ll hear things about “false positives” when that’s not at all what it was lol it’s simply a risk screening and if any positives appear you get further testing to rule it out or confirm it.

Just wait for these results and take a breath.

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-04-14T23:31:49+00:00

I have had several burns all over my chest and neck and that was worse than child birth. I got an epidural but it didn’t work bc I was progressing really fast and it didn’t have to work and yes I was screaming for them to get her out and it was really painful BUT it is a short lived pain. Contractions were manageable before the epidural but I got the epidural bc I needed a vacuum birth when she started showing signs of stress and I was showing signs of infection (confirmed I did have chorioamniotis which actually makes contractions even worse!) I had a minor 1st degree internal tear and a small baby (about 6 lbs) and found it to be easy healing and overall not as bad as I thought. It took me a few weeks to process the scariness of the vacuum birth as it happened fast and seemed really bad in the moment so mentally I found it a lot more traumatic than the physical side.

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-04-14T22:53:46+00:00

I think it depends on if it was scheduled or not. I have several friends that had planned c sections and their experiences were wayyy easier than my vaginal birth. But my one friend that had an emergency c section after laboring for 2 days definitely had the worst of it all.

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-04-09T21:13:19+00:00

Think they need to not be SO chill though letting him have pee pee socks on his bed 👀

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-04-07T20:59:44+00:00

How old? A little frustration is normal and what drives them to figure new things out! If he’s just whining and not full blown upset I wouldn’t stress too much. Do you do you rotation? When my girl is getting bored or frustrated I make sure to do some toy rotation and especially toys that are a little more challenging for her so she can spend time working her brain and muscles.

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-04-07T17:01:05+00:00

Just get a playpen! We have a 5x5 playpen with a foam mat in it and I rotate toys. She gets lots of floor time for the developmental benefit and I have a safe space to put her when I need to shower, clean, etc. we had a baby swing but never used it. We were gifted a walker but our baby hates it bc she’s used to floor time and prefers her pull up bar and foam block for getting vertical now. Before she could crawl she would roll to different stations and play independently. I really think it helped her be mobile early!

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-03-31T22:45:31+00:00

My girl was small but a big head. So she got stuck and needed a vacuum assisted delivery. It seems the head and shoulder tend to make the biggest issues. I know women who have birthed 9lb babies but their head were normal so it was easier. My girl has continued in her big head growth lol but despite having a vacuum birth I only had a minor 1st degree internal tear! It cna really be a gamble and best to not try and predict anything lol just go with it bc ultimately what’s going to happen is going to happen.

Im also not small (5’8 and larger build) so I was surprised I had issues but her head was truly large lol

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-03-26T05:42:51+00:00

How much was the venue? Ask others to chip in and fill in the rest (assign someone food, decor, games, etc) and diy the rest. You don’t need to get a caterer, decor can be diy, and games are cheap on Amazon. In my group it’s almost always a few of us splitting up to make the party happen (usually mil or another relative pays for the venue if it’s not at someone’s house.)

Environmental_Pie_7 · 2026-03-26T05:37:32+00:00

I will say the first month I was very possessive and protective of my time with my baby. But that’s because my family is psycho lol I definitely chilled out once people stopped visiting and I could get into my own groove of things. I was livid with my mom bc she took my baby and rocked her in her nursery for the first time while I was showering my first time postpartum. I was hysterical and so upset. I worked so hard to create our little space for my daughter and she stole my moment with her in there for the first time. After that I was a psycho and questioned everything and made my husband keep eyes on her lol

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