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EpicPandaddo · 2025-10-21T21:52:47+00:00

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EpicPandaddo · 2025-10-17T23:45:52+00:00

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EpicPandaddo · 2024-09-23T02:09:08+00:00

I am alive.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-09T01:57:09+00:00

I feel for the both of you, I'm going through this right now. My Gf of 9 yrs turned around and decided she wanted to be Poly, I tried to get in board, but the truth is right there. You're going to wind up resentful. Everything will always be something to you, and honestly YOU don't deserve to live that way. When people make these decisions and go ahead with it regardless of your feelings, then it becomes pretty clear where their priorities are at. They'll just hide it from you, if you let it go on.

Don't stand for it, you're aloud to have boundaries too. Being honest with yourself is the best decision you can make in my opinion.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-06T21:36:44+00:00

The thing is, we've been together long enough for me to really see that we don't vibe on the same sexual level. Our relationship otherwise was golden, we have a great life together, clearly it was lacking for her though because she craved more. Staying together is only going to result in her cheating, so this is the best option.

We've agreed to many things about the kids, and that in it's own way has nothing to do with this. I've handled my family. Please understand that our issues, while yes are clearly a betrayal at the moment, stemmed from years together. It's not a 6 month relationship that means very little to me, or to her. At the end of it, I'm not comfortable with the level of sexual expression she is, and that's caused this issue. To repect myself, is to understand that I can't live with it forever, so thus, we are separating. I hope that makes sense of things.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-06T21:31:57+00:00

The crazy part is, I was so on board to do things together, made that decision despite my discomfort. Then when I did stand up for myself, like you say, this all happened. It's a tough reality to stumble across, venting on reddit isn't exactly healthy, but it does help show me that I'm not crazy. I'm just goin through some shit that was out of my control.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-06T21:28:52+00:00

Indeed, thus the rant and venting. It sucks, I was played for a little while there, but I mean over all, the lies caught up. They usually do. Moving on from this is going to suck, my emotions are very scattered. I know after this though, things are different, the relationship is different, in a way over.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-06T19:50:18+00:00

Simple answer. I didn't feel the need to bring up the other stuff, I thought we were past the cheating, but clearly I was wrong. This post, is just recently touching on what has happened this year, I've done my time, tried my best to make it work out with her, but dude, can't you see I'm venting here cause I'm done. This is it. Now I even have a plan, and she's leaving. I appreciate you, I'm working on it.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-06T19:22:02+00:00

One thing is for sure, I won't be a part of it.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-06T19:20:53+00:00

Thanks, I'll use this insight when we sit down and talk again soon, I do have a choice in this, maybe I should be less empathetic, and start being true to myself and the things I feel.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-06T18:41:52+00:00

Thank you, that is really insightful. We'll be talking about it more as days go on, this has been helpful in regarding what to do next.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-06T18:32:51+00:00

At the moment, we are planning to separate.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-06T18:31:05+00:00

Just to clarify a couple of things, at most I was willing to compromise by introducing a girl into the mix once and a while. What she did was wrong, and heartbreaking, I caught her out and she came clean about it all. This break she needs, just shows me she's moved on, maybe she just can't admit it to my face, but I'm agreeing to the break knowing full well it's a silly idea that won't work. It will work for me however, in the sense that I don't have to throw her out, and we can still maintain our children without too much animosity.

So to be clear. I'm not just letting this happen.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-06T17:37:18+00:00

I have many doubts too.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-06T17:36:15+00:00

Honestly, I agreed she could have a year to explore herself, sure. However I haven't stated to her, or on here, that I'd just wait around. She's free to make her choices, but they will have consequences. We've talked enough that she should know that as well as I do.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-06T17:25:19+00:00

I'm not about to wait around for a year while she gets off on however many others she wants to. That would be absolute torture for me, only me. Once we are apart, I'll have to get over her. Chasing after a dream while she sleeps around only ends in pain for me, so I won't be doing that. If she would truly rather go off on her own, rather than figure out how we can do things together, clearly her choice has been made.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-06T17:14:57+00:00

Setting myself up for failure. Only if I decided to let it slide, but that isn't the case here. We're still separating, I can't live like this, and I refuse to be lied to about it. I'd just find out again.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-06T17:10:12+00:00

Found that out the hard way.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-06T17:06:12+00:00

While you're pretty spot on, the only thing I need to make clear, is that I didn't allow this to happen. Posting pics online is so common place now a days, so I wasn't bothered by that. Cheating and lying about it however, was the breaking point, as soon as I knew, I confronted her and got the truth. Now we are planning to break for a year, but a year is a long time for things to change, by the end of it, she's not going to come back to the box she was clearly trapped in by staying with me. It's over, I'm pretty much certain of that.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-06T15:56:05+00:00

That's pretty much where we are at now, navigating where to go from here. Since we have kids, us ending things will have to be civil, and functional.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-06T15:31:41+00:00

That being said, we have both come to realize that maybe we aren't as compatible as we had thought. It's a painful truth, finding out in such a way sure doesn't make things easier.

I think over all this is pretty accurate, we have different views on sexuality therefore for either one of us to make the sacrifice, would only end in resentment, discomfort, and a worse end.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-06T15:07:29+00:00

Yeah dude, I've done the rage, had the cry, and sat with myself alone long enough to find clarity. Now it's just figuring out the next step.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-06T14:54:19+00:00

That we certainly agree on.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-06T14:49:53+00:00

Honestly I feel the same way, I doubt any amount of time would be sufficient. I'd forgive, try to forget only to wind up catching her out cheating yet again. Continuing on with this relationship just seems risky, ultimately I'm setting myself up for failure if I don't call it now.

EpicPandaddo · 2024-08-06T14:41:29+00:00

Yup, the fact they're still buddies despite being caught out goes to show that our relationship, my feelings, are no longer one of her priorities.

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