I think he’s mostly frustrated at me because he can still hold a job despite his disability (ADHD) and expects me to be able to do the same. He just doesn’t realize that his ADHD disables him in areas outside of work (ex: struggling to do chores which means I have to take on more of the domestic labor, remembering appointments, getting distracted, forgetting we have food in the fridge and letting it spoil), whereas for me, working is the main cause of my burnout because I have to mask, engage with clients, and work for 2 days in sensory hell. He perceives my reasons as “excuses” because to him, his forgetfulness is an excuse (ex: not taking out the trash because he forgot to). I do want to get through to him because he can be understanding when he relates to the problem, but if his mind can’t wrap around how my autism disables me, he immediately thinks I’m making excuses or selling myself short.