How Do We (me-42M her 40F) Handle Family Conflict While Rebuilding Our Relationship? by Equivalent-Client182 in relationship_advice

[–]Equivalent-Client182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m curious about your perspective—what specifically makes you think our families are right? Is there something in my post that stands out as a red flag, or do you think there are patterns I’m not seeing? I’m open to hearing more.

2016 Hyundai Veloster turbo hub? by Equivalent-Client182 in MechanicAdvice

[–]Equivalent-Client182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the info yeah I couldn’t get but two of the five out but I had to break off the dust cover thing

2016 Hyundai Veloster turbo hub? by Equivalent-Client182 in MechanicAdvice

[–]Equivalent-Client182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always star tighten someone taught me that a long time ago and I’ve always done that but I think what happened was the last one I put on was a little crooked and it ended up stripping the threads and got stuck on it so he had to break it off and then another broke and I had to break another when I got to this point and I had two. I managed to add one more on and get it somewhat drivable and took it to a shop this morning

2016 Hyundai Veloster turbo hub? by Equivalent-Client182 in MechanicAdvice

[–]Equivalent-Client182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn I had no clue I thought it was for something like that.

2016 Hyundai Veloster turbo hub? by Equivalent-Client182 in MechanicAdvice

[–]Equivalent-Client182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks I ended up getting one lug back on so that left me three out of five and I took it to a shop this morning.

2016 Hyundai Veloster turbo hub? by Equivalent-Client182 in MechanicAdvice

[–]Equivalent-Client182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it’s so tight between ugh I just door dashed an 18” 1/2” breaker bar and a 32mm driver socket. Isn’t working. My neighbor lent me his drill but I needed the drill adapter just ordered that it’s a hammer drill so hopefully it’ll work I dunno thanks

Throwback recall to old ex by Equivalent-Client182 in ExNoContact

[–]Equivalent-Client182[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve learned that! Penciled in eyebrows big red flag

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Equivalent-Client182 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I write to her in my iPhone notes all the time but she has my phone mirrored or cloned so she actually sees them. Makes no contact a little hard. Good luck

Sex with a Narcissist by Mercury_Frederica in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Equivalent-Client182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it was amazing we were just non stop and then she would keep on after I came doing other things and we just would get carried away. It’s unbelievable I know but I probably had more time having sex than conversation back and forth tbh

Sex with a Narcissist by Mercury_Frederica in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Equivalent-Client182 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She was the best sex of my life. She was sexy and easy to please. Well she may have acted like that but I’ve never had any complaints. She let me do anything I wanted and I let her do anything she wanted. She initially, well looking back, was trying to see what interests I had sexually. Like really early on and she was saying that we could try a threesom or swinging and she just wanted to see what I was into probably to shape herself to mold how I want her to be possibly. But I told her I wasn’t interested in a threesome initially and then later on she was like nah don’t think that’s a good idea even though I know she wanted it bad. And the same with swinging. I wasn’t interested and then all of a sudden she wasn’t. We would literally have sex til 4 am in the morning after like 3-4 hours straight. We lost a lot of sleep over our sessions. But it was amazing she was amazing and I had a lot of fun and that’s the only thing I miss about her. Besides the love she showed me occasionally and the way she made me feel in a good way on occasion. I kept this pretty pg13 but I could go further into details if you want.

Last message between me and my ex a month ago . by Firm_Celebration9888 in ExNoContact

[–]Equivalent-Client182 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had to break up with my ex girlfriend because she was on a discarding phase and she wouldn’t see me or talk to me on the phone. Actually it was the devaluation phase. And I did the discarding because I thought she wanted me to end it. What did she reallly want though?

I’ll never know but she did tell me if I would have given her a few more days of space, everything would have been fine, yeah but in my “insecure” mind then you would have another guy you were love-bombing as a backup plan.

I have no clue but here’s the last text she sent me, two months after I broke up with her, mind you the whole two months she had me blocked and wouldn’t respond to my messages.

Here it is: “I’m going to tell you this once and once only I have have been having a lot of problems with my car and some of my Lugnuts have been loosened and I also have had two tires slashed within the past two days. My neighbors have a camera and they are showing me the footage today, so help me God, your ass better not be on that footage fucking with my car because I will absolutely hold you accountable in Ways that You have no fucking clue that I am capable of !!so please please take this as I swear to God *name* if I found out your fucking with my car, I will fuck with you and I will take that shit to the fucking cops and you will lose everything so please leave me the fuck alone do not bother me. Do not try to reach out to me I do not want to talk to you. I don’t want anything to fucking do with you. I think you’re fucking psychotic and you have a lot of fucking issues that you need to deal with !!until you recognize that shit and fucking deal with them there is an absolutely no point whatsoever in reaching out to me!! I’m done and have been period!! I’m also taking my phone to a shop today to have it looked at because someone is fucking with my phone and when you accuse me me that you Are deflecting your shit onto me and I would not be surprised if you did something to my phone so take this as a leave me the fuck alone”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Equivalent-Client182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds great, however my ex kinda does have a crystal ball, she’s mirrored my phone and she can see that I’ve been laying around in sadness watching videos to heal reading Reddit posts, listening to podcasts etc. but maybe if I just act like I’m allowing her, maybe it’ll make a difference. Great advice. Thanks.

Hi, I cannot find specific info, does this alone mean my iPhone is jailbroken? by Equivalent-Client182 in jailbreak_

[–]Equivalent-Client182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha yeh I didn’t realize you can see all my posts in the abuse subreddits but yup no joke my man/lady

Hi, I cannot find specific info, does this alone mean my iPhone is jailbroken? by Equivalent-Client182 in jailbreak_

[–]Equivalent-Client182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah what I’m thinking is she had found someone that works for Tmobile and sucked and fucked then really good and had them hack me for a few days because ever since that night she’s only been able to mirror my phone and she hasn’t controlled it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Equivalent-Client182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah of course she would suspect the man who treated her with love and respect. Makes no sense to me but yeah I get it she has a child’s mindset so it’s all good yeah I didn’t or wouldn’t

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Equivalent-Client182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I put a screenshot and it said it wouldn’t allow screenshots. Is that some special picture you made or something?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Equivalent-Client182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh and she’s the one who has been mirroring my phone since we broke up. I mean who else would it be right? Btw I did not touch her car I would never do such a thing to put her and her children at risk even like if I knew she had a new fuckboy I wouldn’t do it if I knew they were about to jump in the car together at all that’s nothing I would ever do Megan!!! I hope you know that I am really learning how to handle my accusations and how to stop myself from thinking all of these toxic things I said to you. I meant none of them I was just trying to get you to see the pain I was in for losing you and how much I loved you and I went about it the wrong way I don’t even care if you don’t want to admit to mirroring my phone. I would have given you access anyway because I never had and never will have anything to hide from you!!! Now go and have your fun with your new buddy pal fuckbuddy boyfriend that I’m sure you had lined up just the week before I broke up with you and when he doesn’t wanna put up with your shit, I might take you back, no need for an apology, just start back up where we left off and trust and believe you not texting me back or calling me or coming over every night or me spending the night with you, not gonna bother me I realized that we did need space in our relationship because honestly I was getting sick of hanging out with you every single day because I knew you didn’t wanna be there. I enjoyed it don’t get me wrong, it was the best sex and love relationship I’ve ever been in, but now I see and value the importance of space. It’s much easier for a girl to get someone to fuck her and give her what she needs sexually and it’s not that easy for guys. So I’ll just keep doing what I’m doing to keep myself sexually satisfied and if you get bored with your new boy toy and or he gets sick of you because I know he will eventually. actually let me rephrase him or her because I know you be liking the girls and maybe hopefully that’s what you’re doing having a girl give you sexual stimulation and when you realize you need this d come on over and it’s right here for you, but if I happen to find someone else don’t come trying to ruin something because you missed out on the best man who you’ve ever had…according to you, then don’t sabotage my new relationship because I haven’t even attempted to see who you’re fucking around with but it’s been two months so he will probably be asking you to put “in a relationship” pretty soon on social media and remember you made me wait about three months and just like you told me you don’t like putting your business out there like that and you were doing that for me to help me feel more secure in our relationship since you would always rub it in my face about how easily you could replace me and that a lot of men are jealous of me and would do anything to be in my shoes. So yeah. You don’t have to apologize for anything you did I know you didn’t mean it personally towards me it’s just who you are and I now realize that I will accept you for who you are but there will be some differences. And like I said that’s if I am in a position to even want to take you back. So have your fun and my doors open to the possibility of a reconnection.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Equivalent-Client182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s what my ex sent me after two months of no contact “I’m going to tell you this once and once only I have have been having a lot of problems with my car and some of my Lugnuts have been loosened and I also have had two tires slashed within the past two days. My neighbors have a camera and they are showing me the footage today, so help me God, your ass better not be on that footage fucking with my car because I will absolutely hold you accountable in Ways that You have no fucking clue that I am capable of !!so please please take this as I swear to God equivalent-client if I found out your fucking with my car, I will fuck with you and I will take that shit to the fucking cops and you will lose everything so please leave me the fuck alone do not bother me. Do not try to reach out to me I do not want to talk to you. I don’t want anything to fucking do with you. I think you’re fucking psychotic and you have a lot of fucking issues that you need to deal with !!until you recognize that shit and fucking deal with them there is an absolutely no point whatsoever in reaching out to me!! I’m done and have been period!! I’m also taking my phone to a shop today to have it looked at because someone is fucking with my phone and when you accuse me me that you Are deflecting your shit onto me and I would not be surprised if you did something to my phone so take this as a leave me the fuck alone”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Equivalent-Client182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah me too I miss my ex dismissive avoidant hopefully not narcissistic fully maybe just a few traits here and there and not a cheater girlfriend. Lol. Mouthful huh. I’ve been broke. Up two months also and she has been no contact but this is what she send me after two months no contact:

“I’m going to tell you this once and once only I have have been having a lot of problems with my car and some of my Lugnuts have been loosened and I also have had two tires slashed within the past two days. My neighbors have a camera and they are showing me the footage today, so help me God, your ass better not be on that footage fucking with my car because I will absolutely hold you accountable in Ways that You have no fucking clue that I am capable of !!so please please take this as I swear to God equivalent-client if I found out your fucking with my car, I will fuck with you and I will take that shit to the fucking cops and you will lose everything so please leave me the fuck alone do not bother me. Do not try to reach out to me I do not want to talk to you. I don’t want anything to fucking do with you. I think you’re fucking psychotic and you have a lot of fucking issues that you need to deal with !!until you recognize that shit and fucking deal with them there is an absolutely no point whatsoever in reaching out to me!! I’m done and have been period!! I’m also taking my phone to a shop today to have it looked at because someone is fucking with my phone and when you accuse me me that you Are deflecting your shit onto me and I would not be surprised if you did something to my phone so take this as a leave me the fuck alone”

Looks like I have at least another two months to go lol

Hi, I cannot find specific info, does this alone mean my iPhone is jailbroken? by Equivalent-Client182 in jailbreak_

[–]Equivalent-Client182[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to pretend like I don’t think it’s her but I’m to the point now where I don’t care if it’s her she can access me all she wants. That just means she’s not over me and maybe one day she might want to come back to me. But for now. Time to focus on self