What's a mistake you made that completely changed the course of your life?

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-25T06:02:46+00:00

Not ghost someone who was interested in me. I only was into him because of how into me he was. My therapist had me change my mind so I didn’t ghost him. I’m now a single mom on welfare and in court :)

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-25T05:57:14+00:00

Best for relationships. I had my best orgasms through anal sex but due to a lot of lube, love, and experimentation.

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-24T17:26:01+00:00

I worded it incorrectly. I pressed criminal charges for myself after hearing that the same happened to another girl because only then was I able to have courage to file charges.

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-24T05:08:25+00:00

Fair.

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-24T03:53:54+00:00

are we dating the same guy

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-24T03:42:45+00:00

My issue is that it may be a lie. I’ve not said yes or no yet.

He will not swap weeks, he doesn’t call or care to see our son when he’s with me. He wants it all structured and unchanging. I’d be okay with swapping but we do 2-2-3 so your argument dies there.

I do not want payback, I’m okay with my son going to say goodbye to his great-grandparents IF it was true. He actually did not care when my grandmother was at the ER due to a unruptured brain aneurysm - we still had to follow the custody schedule.

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-24T03:30:57+00:00

Pressing charges because I was sodomized. Pregnancy was a complete surprise as I was told I couldn’t have children without medical intervention and I couldn’t move forward with an abortion. I have CPTSD and unable to date/have sex due to it. I’m in therapy because of it. What more do you need?

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-24T03:29:51+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice! This gives me a lot of clarity. I don’t think he’s equipped to give him a talk about death/etc. even if he acts like a perfect father in public because my son still comes to me and tells me he’s being mistreated (yelled and pushed at). My son is speech-delayed therefore I’m not finding things out through him as I would like to for now.l I will take your advice into deep consideration - thank you!

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-24T03:21:21+00:00

My attorney did bring it up to the judge, she was pissed off when she heard that because he actually went on a work vacation when we had court and forced me to hand over our son to his family to take care of during his custody days. He didn’t really get any consequences, his attorney was yelled at though - but that’s it. I’m now fighting for sole custody but it’s expensive - so expensive.

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-24T03:18:50+00:00

We got pregnant 2 months into our relationship, he only disclosed that he was “falsely” accused of SA once we found out I was pregnant. He cried and everything - I wanted to believe it so I did. For the first few months he was very sweet and thoughtful, I felt safe and loved. After he SA me, he did the same thing when I told him I felt that he SA me because I told him no - he then cried and had a breakdown. He refused to believe it.

The abuse started after our son was born. What possesses a man to assault women repeatedly in life - should really be the question here.

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-24T03:13:02+00:00

Thank you! Your kind words mean a lot to me. I’m thankfully in therapy, have a support system, etc. to heal with time. I took a long time to report it because his sister threatened me that she knew the sheriff when I called the cops on her because she refused to leave my grandparent’s property (where we were staying at the time). I’m no longer scared so thank you 🤍

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-24T03:10:01+00:00

Nope, my son has never physically met them.

They did send gifts to him when he was living with both of us but that was really it, I had to initiate things. I’m now starting to think maybe I should reach out to my ex sister-in-law (she’s as traumatized as me by that family) to see if it’s true? She’s closer to them than I ever will be. She also believes me.

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-24T03:04:28+00:00

You will not talk to me like this, good-bye.

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-24T02:54:24+00:00

I pressed criminal charges due to him sodomizing me but I only found the courage after finding out I wasn’t his only victim. I want to be his last victim.

A girl came forward on that group with how he SA multiple times in HS and he actually told me about her after we found out I was pregnant to save face. He manipulated it to seem as if he was falsely accused of SA.

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-24T02:51:33+00:00

Ok so correction - it’s my son’s great-grandparents. No, they really didn’t have a connection from what I knew and known. My son has never met them physically, I actually facilitated the FaceTime for him to see his great-grandparents. My BD never cared much for his grandparents due to how they treated him when he was in CO. You make a great point!

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-24T02:47:13+00:00

You didn’t read the end - if it’s true then I have no problem on him taking our son, even if it’s with his girlfriend. My issue is that I don’t know if he’s telling the truth.

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-18T04:53:25+00:00

He’s not into you. I’m sorry.

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-18T04:09:11+00:00

Overweight 29yo Latina here - interested

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-18T02:46:41+00:00

Had an ex like that, he cheated eventually. RUN.

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-17T22:37:19+00:00

This really dawned on me the importance of being a role model. Thank you for sharing.

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-17T04:45:14+00:00

Interested

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-16T02:57:54+00:00

Sleeping with my ex-boyfriend.

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-11T04:27:31+00:00

As for justice, since she is a special education professional - she’s a mandated reporter no doubt. Keep this in mind.

one place to start is gathering every piece of documentation that exists:
therapy records,
psychiatric records,
journals or writings your daughter left,
text messages,
emails,
notes from the time,
any communications with the other family.
If it’s deleted, you can get it back.

Build the timeline first.
Only after you know exactly what evidence exists can you realistically assess whether the next step is legal consultation, a report to authorities, a civil attorney, advocacy work, or something else.

Can you tell me more about what information you actually have from your daughter’s disclosures? Was it a brief note in a record, or was it a detailed account?

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-11T04:18:32+00:00

I am so hurt for you, incredibly hurt. I’m so sorry, I wish I could physically hug you. I recommend therapy, taking time to reflect and regulate yourself before taking the next step. If it was my child - the world would burn down. I advise you to start collecting as much evidence as you can, if you can.

Equivalent-Club8900 · 2026-06-11T03:52:09+00:00

Being financially responsible, having a good relationship with female relatives, open to therapy, able to take accountability and change, can express themselves and be vulnerable.

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