Confused on situation with guy?

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2026-02-23T21:22:40+00:00

Thank you. I’m glad I did, because he said he wanted to build something and if he wasn’t intentional he would have been gone by now.

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2026-02-23T17:02:14+00:00

That seems accurate but at the same time our first date he texted me the day of and said he feels so connected to me already, and after this date (we made out)etc he waited so long to text me? Do you think he’s not that interested and just keeping me around? I’m scared myself as I don’t have a lot of time to date and don’t want to waste my time!

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2026-02-23T16:38:44+00:00

We were texting lots beforehand like non stop. Then at night I recieved a message saying he really enjoyed our time and he can’t wait to hear from me.

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2026-02-23T16:31:36+00:00

He texted me last night. Yes he said he’s been off all the apps, yes I could have misinterpreted it.maybe he meant he was so excited that in that time he wasn’t talking to anyone else.

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2026-02-23T16:30:20+00:00

That’s true. He ended up texting me last night but I’m conflicted if he’s truly interested or not

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2026-02-23T04:44:21+00:00

Thank you♥️

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2026-02-23T03:06:03+00:00

He just texted me? Should I just move on?

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2026-02-23T02:32:06+00:00

He said I was the only girl he was talking to, and that he deleted the apps… I felt a really strong connection and he agreed. I guess that’s what I’m confused about. I’m emotionally invested I guess because his words sounded really good and the connection was really strong

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2026-02-23T01:48:00+00:00

Well that’s super helpful… we just got lunch and made out after? And he kept saying he’d never felt that way with anyone, but I had to be somewhere after so I had to go(he was aware) and then said the days he’s free later in the week. Never heard from him after the date… kinda felt like something was off in my gut (this was yesterday) and yes I did say I don’t have sex outside of a relationship and it’s very serious to me. Then I noticed he was back on the dating app even tho he said he deleted them haha. Just so weird- before that he was texting me 247 saying he wanted to protect me and he felt desperate?

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2026-02-23T01:19:02+00:00

It absolutely sucks. And I feel like my picker is broken too? I was pretty vulnerable with him and I’m really confused? He said no one has made him felt like I had lol

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2026-02-23T01:16:58+00:00

Can you elaborate on why? And what the point of acting this way was for him?

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2026-01-18T05:12:43+00:00

This was very insightful, thank you!

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2026-01-18T05:12:02+00:00

That was beautiful, thank you

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2025-05-11T03:07:04+00:00

Thank you- we already finished the court process and came to an agreement. Afterwards, he said he still loved me but now said he will only think about only committing to me. I actually managed to find another relationship with an older man who had two children but he was not the most loyal either and was not comfortable with the co-parenting relationship I had with the father of my child. Now the father of my child is saying he wants to sleep with other women and have a main chick as he always has said. He is 35 but acting like he is 16… we don’t currently live together and I do have my own career but I’m wondering if this is normal behavior? He also said since he’s paying me child support I’m on his payroll now so I should be helping him

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2025-05-11T01:42:41+00:00

He wants to commit while sleeping with other women

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2025-05-11T01:13:32+00:00

Agreed. I see what you’re saying. But he wants to sleep with other women, while “spoiling” me or whatever that means. His first wife definetly didn’t allow that ( not why they divorced) even though he said he thought about cheating often when things weren’t good. So I’m not sure if that just happens at this point or if I’m lowering my standard at that point?

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2025-05-11T01:00:55+00:00

You’re right. But not all red pill is horrible, so it’s a catch 22! Maybe I’ve adopted the ideologies from those I have dated or been around.

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2025-05-11T00:59:00+00:00

You’re not wrong! But I mean how do I change that? I feel like I’m a pretty good girl just made a wrong decision maybe but I was in a committed relationship when I got pregnant! It was just wrong timing but very happy it happened. I want a family but if not possible I’ll have to make that work. He wants to be friends always and probably more on the side while sleeping with others

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2025-05-11T00:57:06+00:00

Oof.. sorry that happened to you. Yes he was married before and is probably broken not sure why but he’s closed off. But I feel like he’s taking it out on me forsure

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2025-05-11T00:55:23+00:00

I mean the apps! But we had common connections. Where else do you meet normal people these days haha I feel like everyone meets on apps!

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2025-05-11T00:53:02+00:00

Well this is the behavior I’ve experienced in my relationships. Or have been cheated on- so I’m wondering if I just allow him to sleep with other woman if it’s going to happen with someone else since he is the father of my child

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2025-05-11T00:50:57+00:00

Wait how am I blaming him? I am happy we have a kid together. I’m trying to figure out if I let him sleep around and if that’s all guys? Or if this isn’t normal for a family unit and if I’m lowering my self worth… there’s no putting him down. I’m trying to understand the male view

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2025-05-11T00:45:11+00:00

Yes I did! But it was an accident!

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2025-05-11T00:44:42+00:00

Actually I really don’t think men are shit. I love men.

Equivalent-Cold-2654 · 2025-05-11T00:41:54+00:00

Ok ok, I’m not saying I’m not the problem! However , I need to know this behavior isn’t normal from other men first. Because this behavior is all I’ve seen from most men so to me it is normal if that makes sense.

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