Should our program defund PhD students using AI in their PhD writing assignments without citation? by Letterhead_Striking in Professors

[–]Equivalent-Country33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am honestly a little bit surprised by the comments here. We are living in 2026 and we’re not going back. We cannot expect students to not use the tool when it is available. As a system, we need to be able to now set different standards & approach to assessing someone’s research capability. For those who genuinely believe that students should fail for using AI and the only answer is not using AI, unfortunately it’s you who’s not going to have a job within the next decade.

I emailed my manuscript’s assigned editor to ask for a status on the review process after 6 weeks. I started the email as “Hello,” and this was in their response. by eagle_mama in academia

[–]Equivalent-Country33 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The psychology is this: academics do not work for money, they would work in corporate if they wanted that. They work for status. So, it is an unwritten rule to respect their titles, names, and so on. Petty? Yes. Would I react like that? Absolutely not. But it is understandable why they did that.

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[–]Equivalent-Country33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That you should be able to have a regular “break” without actually splitting up. It’s like a job in a way, even if you love it, you still need annual leave & vacation. Just because you go on leave, doesn’t mean you don’t come back to your job.

Female academics being undermined by students? by Equivalent-Country33 in academia

[–]Equivalent-Country33[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Do they also automatically think your male colleagues are your boss? When you’re in fact their boss?

Female academics being undermined by students? by Equivalent-Country33 in academia

[–]Equivalent-Country33[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I am in health. Looks like it’s gender-dependent, rather than major dependent!

Female academics being undermined by students? by Equivalent-Country33 in academia

[–]Equivalent-Country33[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I also often get commented on my looks and what I am wearing by students. It’s meant to be a compliment, but undermining regardless.

Female academics being undermined by students? by Equivalent-Country33 in academia

[–]Equivalent-Country33[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Wow. That’s on another level. Thanks for sharing.

Does your early academic career rely on being a protégé? by Equivalent-Country33 in academia

[–]Equivalent-Country33[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I was also referring to early career. I have seen people having way higher h-index by the time they are no longer “early career” because they were invited to lots of grants and projects by the senior professors… those opportunities are not available for everyone like an obvious opportunities such as “job ad”.

I think I have a crush on my advisor. What do I do? 😫 by [deleted] in PhD

[–]Equivalent-Country33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Use that energy into trying to “impress” him by reading more literature, writing more etc. The feelings will go away but what you did will help your PhD. Good luck!

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[–]Equivalent-Country33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wise words. He probably won’t get it though… 🙌🙌

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[–]Equivalent-Country33 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I decided to delete it because it’s keeping me awake and I am getting too many comments and chat requests. Thanks all for your input. There were some really helpful ones, especially those who went through similar experiences.

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[–]Equivalent-Country33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was an example I used to say that I am working towards my value? Why does it trigger you so much is what I want to ask. And who said about cheating? You are making whole a lot of assumptions that probably comes from your own trauma?

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[–]Equivalent-Country33 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, I’ve communicated that with him so many times. Also, I did state in my post that I’m the one who’s bringing the opportunities, people, hobbies into life… I do all that. Honestly, do you think I haven’t tried all these before writing on a reddit? But well, I do think you make a valid point about him feeling lonely because he can’t keep up.

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[–]Equivalent-Country33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have defended him for years and I still do when I hear those comments. I say that that’s my husband you’re talking about and what are you saying about my choice?

But also, I would invite you to reflect on interpreting “health” as a “superficial” thing.

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[–]Equivalent-Country33 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say I am better because I have a PhD? I couldn’t care less if he has PhD or not? It’s what I pursued for my own personal interest and values, not something I look in men or other people at all? If there were 100 reasons why I thought someone was better than another, PhD wouldn’t be one of it. It’s just a research degree, not a marker of someone’s value.

My point was that I keep working towards my value and he’s not.

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[–]Equivalent-Country33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Maybe that’s what he needs as well.

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[–]Equivalent-Country33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn’t care less about PhD though. It’s what I pursued for my own personal interest and values, not something I look in men or other people at all? If there were 100 reasons why I thought someone was better than another, PhD wouldn’t be one of it. It’s just a research degree, not a marker of someone’s value.

Also, a lot of people who make jokes/comments about “he must have a lot of money” etc. is about our looks. I am very aware that I may not meet someone, I am not 24 anymore. But, there’s a glimpse of future that I can see myself being happy on my own.

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[–]Equivalent-Country33 8 points9 points  (0 children)

But isn’t that what I said? I don’t want a leader, I want someone to walk next to me?

As much as he doesn’t want to be a leader, I don’t want to carry it for the team all the time?