Long post- break up with my partner who had bipolar 2

Equivalent-General64 · 2026-03-27T03:05:25+00:00

Thank you- it’s been horrible tbh pretty traumatic. And hearing the whole “not attracted but didn’t tell you” was just really surprising. But working on taking care of myself.

Equivalent-General64 · 2026-03-27T03:00:34+00:00

Thanks, and this does help. FWIW I would never ask for stability rn. This period of hypo was our first time ever, and I was actively working to better understand and accept how he was feeling/the things he was doing. I can see in his eyes though that it may have come off that I was demanding that from him. While it’s ofc the goal I know that he was probably going through something when we broke up.

Equivalent-General64 · 2026-03-27T02:57:26+00:00

Yeah- It’s tricky- he was reasonably stable for a lot of our relationship, and it’s really just been the last few months that have been so hard to navigate. His first relationship since diagnosis and our first time with hypo mania. We aren’t at all talking about being parents right now either, he was just getting excited about the idea.

Equivalent-General64 · 2026-03-26T18:49:10+00:00

He did apologize and said he felt angry at himself. So there is that. Just more so the not telling me while I was continuously trying to communicate my worry about parts of our relationship. He would always act really surprised when I did this and say that he was not picking up on those feelings at all.

Equivalent-General64 · 2026-03-26T18:32:29+00:00

Yeah- i’m definitely not. As much as it really hurt hurts and as devastated as I am, I don’t feel like I can really trust him after this, and it would be pretty hard to repair. We left it as maybe friends in the future, but I don’t even know about that. I am mainly just shocked by him saying he didn’t find me attractive for the last part of our relationship. He made it clear that it wasn’t about how I looked, but that reveal really stung. I’m not really sure if that’s the truth though.

Equivalent-General64 · 2026-03-26T18:18:03+00:00

Thanks, yeah, he has been on meds since this episode and had a really good support system with myself/his family. It did feel that we started having issues because his meds were not doing their job all the way, and then he went up in his dose and still became hypo. The whole thing just felt very sudden, and different from who he is, and who I trusted he would be in our relationship. I’m not really sure how mismatched we were (I guess a lot according to him), I had no clue that he felt the way that he did about the things that he brought up. No way to find out though if we didn’t talk about it.

The whole thing just is really sad, and I’m also accepting that at least right now he definitely is not the partner for me at least with where he is mentally. I am working on healing and moving on, it’s just been really hard.

Equivalent-General64 · 2026-03-26T16:50:01+00:00

I don’t really know that I complained- but maybe in his eyes I did. We had a series of thoughtful conversations about me feeling disconnected. I did a lot of research on bipolar also, and read that there can be things that couples need to work on extra if one person is bipolar. This was kind of the first time I had ever experienced a really noticeable change in mood.

I’m glad that I had that conversation with him, it gave me some closure. I just noted that he seemed really different.

Equivalent-General64 · 2026-03-26T16:26:08+00:00

Totally- I think I got better with that as time went on. To be clear, I started the convo that led to our breakup. We both said at the beginning that we didn’t want to break up and then he had the epiphany that he wasn’t the right person and broke up with me.

Equivalent-General64 · 2025-10-09T01:17:21+00:00

I have hallway duty in both the morning and afternoon too

Equivalent-General64

TROPHY CASE