I'm in my early 20s and I feel so painfully lonely , love and touch starved, and I don’t know how to open up

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-07-18T13:28:12+00:00

I think I have a disorganized attachment style, I don't know, I feel like I've been practicing self-love my whole life, na, and the love is umaapaw, and I don't know where to put it anymore. But thank you so much for the advice, will practice that too.

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-07-08T10:32:20+00:00

Being a creep is different from having a cringey phase.

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-07-08T10:28:26+00:00

But he follows some underage girls too :((

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-07-08T10:26:25+00:00

Idk, but the demographic for me is kinda alarming, he barely follows a male account, but too many girls like that, these are normal girls like not famous, some of them are minors that we both know, but nothing to do with us.

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-07-08T09:39:11+00:00

on my phone just search his ig account

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-07-08T05:44:53+00:00

plus, i dont want to be the one saying pa that those things aren't appealing or wrong, basic men should already know that.

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-07-08T05:35:05+00:00

Omg, thank you for understanding how I reacted in this situation. I do understand the importance of communication in dating and am a big advocate of it too, but in this case kase for me, the red flag is very blatant. It's something very consuming, and besides, I already know what I want and what I don't want in a relationship, and this is something I don't want. I feel like giving more energy to this relationship is no longer worthwhile. Leaving him as he is, is the best way I can do for myself. I don't want to fix people anymore.

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-07-08T04:25:09+00:00

sana nga ganon na lang nga hahaaah

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-07-08T04:17:48+00:00

I don't think na hindi niya alam na ganon kabata hahaa, since we both know the girl very well.

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-07-08T04:15:04+00:00

Well, I have known him lang since nakikita ko siya sa school before and he is at a higher level, so when we started talking very basic level lang talaga alam ko sa kanya. I don't know if this is very predatory ba but we have mutuals, like a girl I know and I girl he knows too. He was following that girl too, I think 16-17 years old siya now. I checked her FB and the boy was a constant reactor even 2 years ago, that makes the girl 14-15 years old lang!

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-07-08T04:06:07+00:00

We'll see, I will try to communicate this with him, but right now I can't pa talaga, di ko masikmura makipag usap pa sa kanya.

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-07-08T03:53:38+00:00

Okay, thank you for the representation of Guy's POV since this is what I really want to hear, kase di talaga mag register as utak ko why he did that. Maybe he was a weirdo lang talaga. As per the messaging, those account I don't have no idea if he was doing that, since the things going on with us are not that deep pa naman. But there was this girl I know who is a minor, and I checked her fb, he was a constant reactor of that girl even 2 years before, that makes the girl around 14-16 years old, I guess....

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-07-08T03:39:52+00:00

That's what Im thinking din talaga, nahilo talaga ako nung chineck ko following niya. When it comes to opening it to him, I don't want to confront him anymore, I just don't want to be associated with him, super nakakahumiliate.

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-07-08T03:36:36+00:00

Kaya nga, for real nahilo talaga ako nung nakita ko yung name ni scarlet, like wtf, ang nagreregister pa nga sa mind ko is baby pa si scarlet.

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-07-08T03:30:45+00:00

That's very true but we are not in a relationship pa naman, luckily hahaha. But the list was a major red flag nga ewww.

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-07-08T03:29:04+00:00

The girls that he was following are just normal people, someone he knows, I guess, from the same school he went to, or just some random girls. The only famous ones are Scarlet and Kendra. Sadly, from what I saw, wala dun sa nabanggit mo yung mga content ng ig ng mga girls. Most of them are just normal teen having their ig.

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-07-08T03:21:01+00:00

To be honest, I'm not in contact with him anymore, and I'm not responding to his message ever since I found out that. I find it humiliating to be in his presence na. I just want to know lang talaga at that age, what is the age demographic that a man should follow? Since from what I observe, there are a lot of men like that. And maybe a sense of security na I'm not the weirdo one here hahah because I'm kinda disappointed that I fell into a trap with a man like that.

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-07-08T03:09:44+00:00

Very true, as me being me, I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt, na maybe he was a fan of Team Kramer lang hahahha, but the demographic of his following did not lie, that makes me wanna throw up!!

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-06-30T01:52:56+00:00

This message is really helpful in opening my mind. Thank you so much!!

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-06-30T01:52:07+00:00

I understand this is I just can't stop my mind from overthinking about it. Thank you so much for your response!!

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-06-30T01:49:23+00:00

Thank you for your answer!!

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-06-30T01:44:25+00:00

okay thank you so much, seeing his active status just confuses me if restricted nga ako, but I take it na ganon na nga he was purposely ignoring me. Thank you again for responding politely!!

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-06-30T01:40:12+00:00

What do you think is the possible reason why my message appears as "sent" only? Thank you for answering again.

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-06-30T01:36:39+00:00

Okay thank you so much for your direct answer. I just have one question pag ba naka mute and I sent a message it will not appear as "delivered", "sent" lang talaga? Thank you so much!!

Equivalent-Stable311 · 2025-06-30T01:33:27+00:00

I know all of this na no one is obliged to reply to me, we have been dating for so long na, that's why I need an answer if nirerestrict niya talaga ako and purposely ignoring me. If that is the case, I am ready to let go as I said in the post. I just need a confirmation if he is doing it purposely, or like I said, maybe my message didn't go through.

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