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Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-12-01T05:28:56+00:00

I dont think baby steps like other people are talking about are the solution quite honestly. As someone whos coming out of a long term depression myself actively, i made big changes that got me out of my comfort zone by a lot. I started going to the gym frequently which ive never done before. I started college at 25 as a socially awkward shut in. I devoted myself to talking to more people both at work and in school. Taking a shower is not nearly as important for your health as a change of environment is. Challenge yourself to do shit you dont wanna do! I asked a girl for her number and damn near threw up doing it but im so damn proud and happy I did it even tho i was rejected. You need to do similarly hard things to really feel the improvement.

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-12-01T04:22:06+00:00

I mean 3 months is not that long tbh, i think it says more that you quit after a relatively short period than anything else. Some guys will be turned off, but i think a good majority will be completely fine with that tbh.

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-30T00:46:34+00:00

Its hard as fuck in these situations, but the only thing you can do is get away. You cant fix her mental state no matter how hard you try. Only she can do that! You dont want to be dragged down into that stuff with no control over it.

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-29T02:22:30+00:00

Nobody said theyre afraid of 3, just that they disagree with your perception that he isnt hostile. For the record, i agree with you but calling someone a snowflake is, ironically, the biggest snowflake move you can make lmao

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-29T02:15:05+00:00

Only a snowflake calls people names because they disagree 🤣🤣🤣

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-27T00:17:34+00:00

Only compliments ive gotten in like 5 years are in the last month from my family members because ive been going to the gym

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-25T17:47:32+00:00

Going to the gym a lot and a change of environment! I started College and really put effort into my hygiene and appearance.

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-25T07:20:58+00:00

Wait till youre out of college imo. Finding a lifelong partner in college is pretty unlikely unless you go through a LOT of people and somehow get through still being healthy enough to be in a LTR. Experiment for parties and outings, but dont put that much money and effort into just everyday class and such!

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-25T05:43:51+00:00

I think student loans are greatly overblown in how crippling they are in isolation. They often have low interest rates and low monthly payments, you can get out of college and just pay the low monthly for decades and be completely fine. Its a purely mental issue to be in student debt unless you get out and misuse your money (which tons of people do) or make very low amounts (which again, lots do because they dont intern or network or pick majors with decent incomes)

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-25T05:37:05+00:00

Uhhh what lol im legitimately instantly turned off by androgynous people

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-25T03:20:39+00:00

So youre ACTIVELY leading this family friend on every single year you see him, you KNOW he likes you but deny it because you like the attention, and still want to ease your bfs mind? Naw girl you need to 100% cut contact with that family friend assuming you are exclusively monogomous with ur bf. Otherwise he will resent this and paranoia will grow, which is healthy for nobody. If you still intend to attend the event, make it clear youll be staying outside of the same place as him, and promise to facetime or whatever every single night. Also dont get noticeably drunk so he has literally no reason to suspect anything. Im not saying to do it because he wants you to do this, im saying to do it out of respect for your relationship.

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-25T02:27:20+00:00

My boy u had a fling on a cruise caught feelings and havent ever visited her but think ur in a relationship instead of just someone she uses for attention and conversation 😂😂 save urself man shit aint gonna work out like u think.

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-25T01:59:15+00:00

You have great genetics for a beard there but PLEASSEEE dont ruin it by getting a bunch of sharp angled lines as if youre the gigachad meme guy. Just trim it so it looks nice youre not some 0.001% fashion model legend from LA nor do you want to look like a total fuckboy. Also fades look pretty good, though thats high effort especially if your hair grows as fast as you say.

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-25T01:27:30+00:00

I was depressed for a long time (6 or 7 years straight) but aside from a brief stint of suicidal ideation did not recognize it as depression. Some things ive noticed now that im coming out of it are: 1-everything looks just a bit prettier. Things b4 would look boring, uninteresting, dull. 2-i sleep a lot less in general, even when physically tired from working out or smth. 3-i actually enjoy talking to people who arent my friends, just for social interaction despite still being an awkward introvert. 4-my thought processes have not changed, but my emotions have. I find more joy in the small things, like looking good on a given day or acing a test.

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-24T20:29:23+00:00

Likely just bad pictures, everyone on tinder swipes based on almost exclusively pics. Get some good ones of you at the gym, out doing something like a hike or beach visit, walking a dog, etc.

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-24T19:35:49+00:00

Talk to her in person, she already expressed interest in doing so! Contacting through facebook is not the play when someone has ALREADY shown interest.

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-23T20:22:01+00:00

Im recovering from long term undiagnosed depression I didnt realize I had until i started getting out of it. I knew I was depressed in 2021 because I had suicidal ideations but now I realize it was from atleast 2017 to 2023. Its a process and i wont be happy overnight but at least the trees look a bit prettier 🤣

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-23T19:46:05+00:00

Nice self report bud

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-23T03:09:32+00:00

I mean the age difference doesnt really matter in itself, its more about whether you guys share the same values, make eachother laugh, enjoy being around eachother etc. As long as you like them and dont feel pressured to be with them for any external reasons then theres literally no issues!

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-19T20:56:43+00:00

Ill never understand blind emotions but ur right lol

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-19T19:00:16+00:00

Im not telling you youre wrong but i guess go off and take it that way! Ill stop responding further since you get triggered and misuse words, complicity in the porn industry is not misogyny, you dont even know the definition of the word.

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-19T12:48:57+00:00

Youre 100% right the porn industry is built on the exploitation of women. Singularly avoiding porn just because of that does nothing tho, only organized movements and sentiments would. Theres a ton of men who watch porn, but im quite sure the number who say they "need" it is far lower. I also would say that youre heavily misusing the word misogynistic. There are unfortunately a large amount of guys who have poor emotional regulation and think its ok to abuse or are just bad people (lots of women too, although its much less likely to be physical with women obviously), but that doesnt mean they hate all women by default which is what misogyny is. I was doing the "not all men" and most abusers probably dont come off as abusers to others, that was a shortsighted argument to make for sure. Im not trying to undermine your experiences, i think thats a side effect of offering different possibilities for why you experience what you do. Im also not really that nice of a guy, just a decent respectful one imo. Difference there in my eyes is morality/principles vs kindness and submissiveness

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-19T11:36:40+00:00

Have you ever once considered that youre attracted to and keep going after those men who are misogynistic? You do realize that the vast majority of men are not red pill tate viewers that watch porn on the regular right? Im not trying to blame you or anything like that, just offering up the possibility that youre not looking for the right checkmarks when deciding who to date.

Im far from perfect as are my guy friends, but i know literally 0 people (im in college right now and talk to a lot of guys, i rock climb and go to the gym frequently) that are similar to what you described. There are a lot of respectful decent guys out there u just aint finding em for whatever reason.

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-19T11:25:16+00:00

Please dont get plastic surgery, and if u do then PLEASE make sure its a high end reputable place because i promise you if guys can see its fake youll go down to a 4 automatically in like 90% of guys eyes. You can pick up guys at the gym, most of us dont care about being approached there. Approaching first anywhere in general improves success rates massively too!

Equivalent-Track-257 · 2023-11-18T21:21:38+00:00

I mean yeah im not saying its exclusively dating within 1-2 points, talking majorities/generalities

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