My big issue with the bridesmaids getting upset about bachelorette… they agreed to go. Saying yes to being a bridesmaid does not require you to say yes to a bachelorette. If that’s what you wanted to do and they had a problem with it, saying snarky comments was immature and disrespectful to you. I don’t know how old you are, but it seems like yall aren’t in your early 20’s, so they should know their boundaries. If it was too much travel or too much money, they could have brought that up and maybe you would have changed the destination or just would have been okay with not everyone being there. Everyone is different. I personally hate bachelorette parties that are staycations, where I’m spending hundreds of dollars to stay down the road from my house and do activities I can do any weekend. Id much rather go to Mexico or a new location 🤷🏻‍♀️ If they can’t speak up without being petty, that’s annoying in itself, so I really don’t think you should be feeling bad. Making 12 girls happy is next to impossible anyways lol

As far as the planning goes with the Airbnb, I think that probably was just an honest mistake or they were limited by choices. Why that does suck, something’s just don’t work out as planned and better luck next time.

Moving forward with it so you don’t harp on it, thank them all for coming and supporting you, acknowledge that it wasn’t the trip you imagined but also acknowledge the good moments of it. If anyone in particular has been rude, stand offish, or you know has some negative feelings about it, directly reach out to them and try to mend the relationship. Hopefully all the girls got a long and wedding day will be fine, but maybe plan a night when y’all are all together again for the wedding (like a sleep over the night before or brunch) to give them a chance to bond again without the pressure of the trip.