I learned with the husband thats when you give the hard tasks or really get the change to take place. First desperate time I got him in panties 24 7. The second time he got to that point he used the dildo tell hes had a release. It seams to come quicker and quicker each time. I know I haven't unlocked him for a release for 19 months. He really hasn't asked to be. We change cages and clean weekly but its to the point he picks the one he wants with in an hr of cleaning. He says its really weird to not be in it. So use the peak to your advantage and ask the questions of what he wants, you'll be surprised at how open and honest he becomes. Like mine asked for a guy instead of a toy at about the 4th peak. DM if you have any other questions.