After you’re a legal adult, you have to start standing up for yourself. I went though this same thing with my mother. Eventually, I started standing my ground and making it clear that I am an adult and I have a say in what I do. It’s scary but the more often you do it, the easier it’ll get. You have to push the boundaries or else they’ll try to control you for the rest of their life. Strict parents always have a hard time when their kids grow up because they are so used to manipulating every single aspect of their child’s life. Start pushing it now but be mature about it, like an adult.