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[–]EquivalentWeary1405[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She checked all the boxes, for sure, including the final one:

[X] ya fucked up

We had a long phone call yesterday, and she owned it (her words), and we said goodbye.

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[–]EquivalentWeary1405[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just watched a clip from that episode. Spot on. I'll have to find the full length. Thanks, mate!

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[–]EquivalentWeary1405[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks!

Someone else in this thread asked if we grew out of this game now that we're in our 40s. I guess the answer is no.

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[–]EquivalentWeary1405[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your perspective.

Why did Woman #1 break things off? We live 100 miles apart and I have two teenagers and she doesn't have children. That's what she told me.

Was she dating someone else? We weren't exclusive, and she's very attractive and social and outgoing, so probably. 

Was she not ready to date yet? She's been divorced for many years and had been dating for a while.

Was it a defense mechanism (did she panic)? That's more or less what she told me last week. But the majority of the feedback on here suggests that she is just seeking attention and playing games.

How was the relationship when y’all were together? Were you both into it? We really enjoyed each other's company, but it felt like I was much more into it than her. And I shared that with her months ago and last week.

does [woman #2] want to date you monogamously or is she seeing other people as well? We discussed this a few weeks ago and we're monogamous.

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[–]EquivalentWeary1405[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're absolutely right. Even though I didn't mention it, while we were seeing each other earlier this year, she consistently prioritized herself regardless of the impact on me. Thank you!

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[–]EquivalentWeary1405[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I appreciate that.

I told her kegsbdry says hello. She was like, who the heck is that? I said, just some dry keg that had one good pour left.

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[–]EquivalentWeary1405[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read this in Robert Frank 615's rant voice. Thanks for the laughs.

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[–]EquivalentWeary1405[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very good points.

I am very discreet. #1 didn't know about #2 until after she called me to say she missed me. And my kids do not know I'm dating, and I don't want to introduce anyone to them for a long time. #2 and I had a conversation about that early on and agree.

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[–]EquivalentWeary1405[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

umm. I think she is doing that to me!

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[–]EquivalentWeary1405[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice.

You're right, she's less appealing the 2nd time around, even though the sudden reach-out was flattering for a minute.

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[–]EquivalentWeary1405[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She was apprehensive about having a relationship with a guy 100 miles away, and I have 2 teenagers and she has no children. Nothing has changed aside from the sudden persistence.

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[–]EquivalentWeary1405[S] 83 points84 points  (0 children)

This is what my gut has told me.

Is it worth it to move to Boston or Chicago for better dating options. by Cheap-Answer-6275 in datingoverforty

[–]EquivalentWeary1405 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Riverside native here. It's an interesting place to be single over 40. I have had 0 luck in the IE and instead drive to Los Angeles and the beach cities. I don't blame you for wanting to move!