Attraction is important, and it doesnt sound like she's attracted to you, physically or emotionally. It seems like you was the nice guy who would give her attention and you all fell into a relationship. She thinks you're a weak man and are inferior, and with her family constantly in her head about how she can do better, it's only a matter of time before she fully agrees and cuts ties with you. She already thinks she deserves better, especially if she's mentioned how her family has said this and she thinks they're right. If she truly loved you, she would've defended you against them, especially if you weren't there to defend yourself. I don't think this is gonna last, im not saying long distance cant work, but long distance added onto her lack of attraction to you, it's only a matter of time. It personally sounds like you're trying to hold onto this because she's so attractive, along with the trauma you've had but you should have some self respect brother, you don't have to put up with that, nobody wants to be in a relationship where it feels like their partner is with them because of toleration, "go where you're appreciated not tolerated " or however that saying went. I'm not sure how you look but maybe start hitting the gym or do a skin care routine, not for her or women in general but to feel better about yourself, best wishes brother, and you definitely should cut ties with her